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Re: Homesick.........
Originally Posted by Heljinder
(Post 7426977)
I feel the same, Nikki, too British to change. It takes something like emigrating to see it though, doesn't it. I'm into my seventh month now, and due to go back in July. My homesickness has got loads better, thankfully. I don't wake up with that awful gut wrenching feeling of emptiness now - which I'm glad about. That said, the first thing on my mind as soon as I wake up is England. Same as you, I like the sun and the beaches, but the UK has so much more to offer, and I don't want to deny my boys the opportunity to grow up surrounded by fabulous architecture, culture, history etc. If you come from a really crappy area of England (and there are many) then Perth is probably a utopia, but we have our house not far from the peak district, and if we want a city then there are four or five within an hour away.
Last Saturday I walked with my neighbour to a local park with our kids. It took us about 20 mins to get there, and I was gobsmacked by the fact we saw nobody in that time. The same happened walking back, it's like living in a ghost town. Back home, I could walk to the corner shop and pass at least 20 people in the process. I live in quite a large suburb, but where is everyone?!! Hope you have a great journey back in May :) |
Re: Homesick.........
Originally Posted by Margaret3
(Post 7427886)
oh god why did i read this post , i feel so depressed now:(
Yes but on the other hand there are lots of people go home from australia etc thinking it will be like it was - only to find it isnt, and instead of being somewhere they don't want to be, they are nowhere The MP for keighley complains that many of her parliamentary constituents have been in the UK 30 years and cant speak a word of english If you live in a street full of these folk, it wont be like 1960, popping in and out of each other's houses without needing to knock first The burglars don't pinch your garden gnomes any more - they have syringes full of heroin in their back pockets and knives too People and places move on, so once you realise that world has disappeared and it isn't there to go back to - staying put isn't going to be so hard. There are no discos in my town, but my disco days have gone forever, so I don't mind |
Re: Homesick.........
Originally Posted by mohogony
(Post 7429804)
l think W.A is the size of western Europe with only 1.8 million people so that explains why there are'nt many people about, maybe you should have tired Melbourne or Sydney if you wanted a faster pace of life.
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Re: Homesick.........
I think, there comes a time, where you just have to bite the bullet............
There are many reasons that the Uk draws me....... my two sons (who are both self sufficient and independant in their own right, still live there and all my friends...... The funny thing is also, I speak english, very well, I dont slur, stutter, or use slang and STILL people say, im sorry, what did you say, or they look at me, like I just spoke in a foreign language, and I find I have to change how I speak and use the canadian type sound so that I am understood............ whilst you go into stores, and half the people working there, cant even speak english that well........... I just miss being me................. Its great to see that im not the only one, and thanks for everyone advise, and I have to agree....... I should do it now, before its kind of too late to do it........... |
Re: Homesick.........
Still kicking around the idea of going back home to the scotland and figuring out all the pros and cons and doing the research.
im not worried about the crime most of the crime in the usa is violent and prevalent in some areas and in the country it is less rampant. In the uk it seems to be more disorganized and amateur unless you are involved with that certain organised element of society and then you probably already know what the deal is. and if herion syringe and a rusty knife wielding plook faced moron is all i have to worried about then i think i will be fine. Part of my job before retiring was dealing with violent situations and am not fazed by the typical petty wannabes back home!! |
Re: Homesick.........
Originally Posted by exvj
(Post 7429806)
Yes but on the other hand there are lots of people go home from australia etc thinking it will be like it was - only to find it isnt, and instead of being somewhere they don't want to be, they are nowhere
The MP for keighley complains that many of her parliamentary constituents have been in the UK 30 years and cant speak a word of english If you live in a street full of these folk, it wont be like 1960, popping in and out of each other's houses without needing to knock first The burglars don't pinch your garden gnomes any more - they have syringes full of heroin in their back pockets and knives too People and places move on, so once you realise that world has disappeared and it isn't there to go back to - staying put isn't going to be so hard. There are no discos in my town, but my disco days have gone forever, so I don't mind |
Re: Homesick.........
Originally Posted by folic
(Post 7427863)
The longer you remain, the more difficult and impractical it becomes as far as 'going home' is concerned. If you have children, they establish friendships, then marry and have children of their own, quite often.
By that time, your youth has passed .. people 'at home' have died or moved on. You very often don't have the necessary funds to re-establish a comfortable life in the UK. And of course, your spouse may not want to return with you. Add to that the fact that it's very difficult to tear yourself away on permanent basis from grown children and possible grandchildren. At which point, 'going home' is no longer a real possibility and you resign yourself to dying in the same place where you've been only half-alive for decades. Australia (and very possibly Canada too) is filled with old people dreaming of a 'home' they know they'll never see again. And after they're dead, you find decades-old calendars, post-cards, picture books of England which they've looked at longingly, over and over again. It's very sad. Don't leave it too late |
Re: Homesick.........
Originally Posted by dreamchaser
(Post 7430454)
I think, there comes a time, where you just have to bite the bullet............
There are many reasons that the Uk draws me....... my two sons (who are both self sufficient and independant in their own right, still live there and all my friends...... .. I feel bad too with mum and dad being so far away (even though it is my own fault, as I was the one who moved here).:o |
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It's true that we live in a very mobile world. Planning our life to be close to our adult children and real or future grandchildren could be a mistake, especially in a big country like Canada or Australia. They could move a long way away without emigrating. We certainly don't want to try to stop them from having the same adventures we've had.
I don't really see the argument to stick with it, it'll get better, especially if everyone involved is in agreement. It's like, keep eating canned okra. Eventually you'll get used to it. Why bother? Move right on to something that tastes good. Life's too short. Note, I'm talking about when there's not a family conflict about what's wanted. Canned okra is one of the most disgusting foods I've even encountered, and everyone I know agrees, so I'm not sure why it exists! Bev |
Re: Homesick.........
Originally Posted by london52
(Post 7431187)
Blimey, didnt think they were worth pinching to be honest.:lol:
I helped arrest a burglar who went into the kitchen of a neighbours house a couple of years ago and stole her purse... he claimed he was touting for business for a window cleaning round He had her money and credit cards in his front pocket and hypodermic syringe in his back pocket. We had to sit on him until the police arrived but these drug freaks take some subduing I spent 6 years in the police up to 1974 and I never arrested anyone for drugs or dealt with a prisoner who had drugs on them. It's a different world now and if someone has been out of the country 30 years then they should not think it's still how it was. We patrolled alone and i was called to a near riot outside a pub with about 300 people kicking off. I got out of my car on my own and went over to them and sternly told them to go home. It went quiet and they just melted away. How times change eh ? They would have my head on a pole now |
Re: Homesick.........
Originally Posted by exvj
(Post 7432010)
chuckle - yes the days of garden gnome thieves have gone forever in the UK.
I helped arrest a burglar who went into the kitchen of a neighbours house a couple of years ago and stole her purse... he claimed he was touting for business for a window cleaning round He had her money and credit cards in his front pocket and hypodermic syringe in his back pocket. We had to sit on him until the police arrived but these drug freaks take some subduing I spent 6 years in the police up to 1974 and I never arrested anyone for drugs or dealt with a prisoner who had drugs on them. It's a different world now and if someone has been out of the country 30 years then they should not think it's still how it was. We patrolled alone and i was called to a near riot outside a pub with about 300 people kicking off. I got out of my car on my own and went over to them and sternly told them to go home. It went quiet and they just melted away. How times change eh ? They would have my head on a pole now |
Re: Homesick.........
Originally Posted by london52
(Post 7432077)
It aint that bad in the UK but the media and the BBC shout out to the world that we are the worst in the WORLD for everthing...example....."OHHHHH LOOK WORLD WE HAVE MAD COW DISEASE" when the French and Spanish keep it hush hush....nahh it aint no different from anywhere in the world, we just shout about it.
I agree that the whole world has changed over the last 40 years and whilst I think that the rapid decline in religion is a wonderful thing, and the internet and technology in car making etc is just marvellous, I think the drug thing in the West is the biggest downside. I know someone who works in a chemists shop in a sleepy little semi rural Yorkshire town and they have a plastic sack for druggies to dump their dirty needles - they have to empty it twice a day My daughter lives on a very upmarket council estate (imagine), but a lot of her neighbours have dark sunken eyes and are in the last stages of heroin addiction. The west could easily get rid of the afghan poppy fields but then they would have to feed the afghans, so they allow it to continue. All the technology the americans have with spy satellites and daisy cutter bombs, and they allow huge heroin poppy fields to flourish all around their bases and all over that country Someone who left england in say 1970 will still have a vision of haystacks and village pubs and the thwack of willow on leather and warm beer at 4 bob a pint They are in for a surprise if they expect it to be like that still so they should holiday first before selling up overseas... |
Re: Homesick.........
Originally Posted by jmh
(Post 7431311)
I didn't realise your sons were still here. My parents live in NZ but their only two kids live in the UK. They travel here every year to see their grandchildren, and fortunately they can afford it. I worry about when they get old (they are only 70!!) and can't do the trip any more. I know Canada is not so far, but these are the situations that make it tough. I hear from other grandparents that you don't realise how much love you are going to feel for your grandchildren till they arrive.:wub:
I feel bad too with mum and dad being so far away (even though it is my own fault, as I was the one who moved here).:o And my friends, and the green green grass of home I guess...... the local fish & chip shops, the hustle and bustle of every day life........ I guess its just comfortable |
Re: Homesick.........
I've been in LA for 16 months, I'm just coming to the realization that I really don't like it here, I started off really homesick but had told myself to stick it out, but now I don't know why. The weather is fantastic, we are lucky to rent a lovely house, both me and my husband are working and our daughter is happy in school. BUT, I can't stop missing home.
I miss my friends, family, work mates even my neighbours. We haven't made any friends, we never see the neighbours and working in LA is so PC that no one knows how to have a laugh at work. We still have our house in the UK so that would make things easier and my daughter could go back to her old school, I work in finance so should be able to get a job. My husbands work is fairly specialised though and we know he would struggle to find a job local to our house. My big worry though is, do I remember home with rose coloured glasses? what if we went back and its not like I want it to be. I'm so confused |
Re: Homesick.........
Originally Posted by N1cky
(Post 7439322)
We still have our house in the UK so that would make things easier and my daughter could go back to her old school, I work in finance so should be able to get a job. My husbands work is fairly specialised though and we know he would struggle to find a job local to our house. My big worry though is, do I remember home with rose coloured glasses? what if we went back and its not like I want it to be.
I'm so confused The husband's job is a bigger concern, but you can work around that when you know what you really want to do, Bev :) |
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