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I agree, there is just so much beauty in the UK (as there is here too), but for some reason, home calls me.....

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To all who replied, thank you............ I hated Vancouver, but liked White Rock (BC) and I dont live in the city in Alberta, I moved to Cochrane, which is quite nice, although after the last few days of stress and hassel....im not so sure......... I think its probably added to my feelings

But, this homesickness came as a shock out of the blue...... I have thought about home in the past, but of late, it seems to invade my dreams to........ and consumes me sometimes

Since being here, I have only made one real friend, who I know I can count on, other than that nothing, zero, and I talk to my friends back home via email, and we just cant figure it out.... I have lots of friends of all ages back home, and here only one.....maybe that hasnt helped........

As for the weather in Alberta, i loved the snow and really dont mind the cold at all, I am a big fan of all the seasons, and like all of them equally..............

I am engaged, and although love being with him, I just cant shake this feeling of home.

I am thinking of going back, and I fear that if I go for a vacation, I just wont come back........

Its nice to know that I am not the only one who thinks like this..... I think I must be too much of a brit???? Maybe

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In answer to your reply, no I dont have a job here, I look after my fiances daughter. And no i dont have a job in the UK to go to, but would hope to find one

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I have been in the US for 5 years and a month and i am just beginning to get settled in. It can take a long while. It took me a while to realize that England isn't my home anymore, it is my true home but my life is here and this is where i am living now. Yes i get homesick. Especially when i see remember or see something that reminds me of England.

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I was kind of like that for a couple of years...... and made this my new home, but recently, before I even moved provinces, i just felt this urge to go home, and for me, its a great urge.......... England is where my heart lies, and where I think it always will, I guess you can take the girl out of england, but you just cant take england out of the girl.....?

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The longer you remain, the more difficult and impractical it becomes as far as 'going home' is concerned. If you have children, they establish friendships, then marry and have children of their own, quite often.

By that time, your youth has passed .. people 'at home' have died or moved on. You very often don't have the necessary funds to re-establish a comfortable life in the UK. And of course, your spouse may not want to return with you. Add to that the fact that it's very difficult to tear yourself away on permanent basis from grown children and possible grandchildren. At which point, 'going home' is no longer a real possibility and you resign yourself to dying in the same place where you've been only half-alive for decades.

Australia (and very possibly Canada too) is filled with old people dreaming of a 'home' they know they'll never see again. And after they're dead, you find decades-old calendars, post-cards, picture books of England which they've looked at longingly, over and over again. It's very sad. Don't leave it too late

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oh god why did i read this post , i feel so depressed now:(

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we are in our early 50s. we emigrated to australia almost 18 years ago.my oh sprang it on me last year that he wanted to go back to uk to live.at first i said no.after long conversations,tears,soul searching i ageed.-but only if we could return to scotland (morayshire). we have grown up family here also 3 grandies and 1 on the way.the girls are now leaning more to their husbands side of the family as we already live 3.5 hour drive away from them. i realize our kids are on loan and we brought them up to be self sufficient(still have the occassional bailout though).i now look at it this way-they have their own family and life.i would never stand in their way if they wanted to move overseas and although i wont be spending a weekend with them every month or so, i can always come for a long holiday and spend quality time with them,phone them or talk/see them via internet.we deserve time on our own now after thinking of the kids and their needs.sorry to ramble,back to the question.my husband admitted he never really settled here,just had to push it aside and get on with the job in hand of providing for his family and what made them happy.i just got on with it as i knew we couldnt afford to return home.i moved down to yorkshire when we married and for 4 years suffered terrible homesickness. maybe i had done it all then eh??

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Thats right. I thinks thats perfectly normal, do you feel that you shouldn't feel the way you do ?

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I reckon everyone's circumstances are different and that has a big bearing on it.
I am retired and I have enough money to go back to England at least 3 times per year. My wife is younger and works, but quite likes time on her on her own and is fine with me going back for holidays alone.

If I was younger with a young family, and working with little vacation time or money, it really would be a bigger decision to stay

My wife would like to retire early but is american through and through and doesnt like the idea of living in England permanently. She experienced a lot of hostility when she did , but that was largely due to the actions of Mr George W I reckon

Thing is, that for the right health insurance policy in the U.S. it's going to be very expensive - so I might be able to convince her to live in England during the 'gap' years between early retirement and medicare at age 65 so long as we maintain an apartment in say chicago so she feels she has a base here (and a vacation home too).

I am on green card at the moment, so the plan is to get US citizenship next year so that we can change our minds without a major and possibly irreversible loss of U.S. residency happening

When I sold my UK house, I put all the money in the bank of england in sterling and it will stay there - i reckon that says something about my subconcious feelings of attachment to the UK

I really do urge everyone not to burn their boats without some time passing after the decision - especially in the case of giving up residency rights - because things change and we need options

sleep on it

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I too have been homesick since I've been here in USA (4 1/2 yrs) on and off and it's all too clear now that I am ready to go back. We are working on our return and it's quite exciting.

If it's in your heart then go with what your heart is telling you. Even IF there's a recession, the recession is everywhere and if you stay positive and confident I am sure you will do well with moving forward in a place where you want to be. I am trying to think that way and hopefully life will move on in a positive way. Life is too short, grab it and wherever you be happy is the place you need to be. Only you know that, so don't listen to the doom and gloomers who have never been out of the UK in their life.

I wish you good luck with your return.

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The trouble is, what if you both feel the same and you have different homelands. Something and somebody has to give

aye, there's the rub

I can be happy here without falling in love with american culture and my wife says she ONLY wants to holiday in London/UK/Europe and I cant even get her to go to oz or NZ - so that's ok

That tells me that she secretly likes the UK a lot so I might get her over there for a few years

We have all met Brits who say they would like to live in France if it weren't for the French and they might just go there anyway and ignore them

I am doing a very mild version of that I reckon by not getting into american football or tv and substituting the internet/bbc/little britain
My cats don't even know they are american so we never clash

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Me too!:cry_smile: