Empty house!
Aug 26th 2010 | 10:52 am
#16
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From: Stockport, Cheshire, UK
Re: Empty house!
[QUOTE=Boodles;8806030]
No, we have not applied yet, and thank you for answering my question so promptly, it is a fine line between trying to gather information and being a nosy old bag
I have been following your story and wish you and your family all the best of luck in the world. Elizabeth
I'm in work avoidance today. My o/h is doing runs to the dump, sally ann and so on....I'm wandering around the house moving piles, achieving nothing. Bless me. I had a glass to many of wine last night which didn't help at all....well it did at the time!
Thanks for the wishes. I just hope it all works out for us and everyone else seeking a life back home. It's been a great adventure in many ways but time to go home and see to my mum and nephews. I miss them terribly.
Best wishes to you what ever you decide.
No, we have not applied yet, and thank you for answering my question so promptly, it is a fine line between trying to gather information and being a nosy old bag
I have been following your story and wish you and your family all the best of luck in the world. ElizabethThanks for the wishes. I just hope it all works out for us and everyone else seeking a life back home. It's been a great adventure in many ways but time to go home and see to my mum and nephews. I miss them terribly.
Best wishes to you what ever you decide.
Aug 26th 2010 | 12:05 pm
#17
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From: Toronto, but not for long, Inshallah
Re: Empty house!
We originally moved to Toronto with work but also because we wanted to live in Canada and go on the big adventure. We had done a 4 month stint in Montreal and really liked it 10yrs ago. Have holidayed here most years (Montreal and BC mainly not Toronto but that was where the job was). We came out with a job residency and full of hope.
Nine months on the dream is a nightmare and I can't get out of here quick enough. The job is a disaster, I am being bullied, harrassed and generally messed around including lots if "ist" stuff if you know what I mean. They are basically forcing me out and we are now doing legal battle. They are such idiots I will take it all the way no matter what the cost but that wasn't the point of the move.
Now looking for a new job it appears my uk experience is worthless and I getting offers of jobs at half the pay and things I was doing ten years ago.
My partner in the UK was a clinical director and is facing three years of retraining to get entry at a the point they started at 15yrs ago. Also earning less than a third of UK salary.
The lack of innovation and the bureaucracy drives me mad. The bullying and two faced culture I hate. The weather is either so hot you stay indoors with air con or so cold you hug the furness and neither of us can continue our career or earn even half what we could in the UK. House prices are no cheaper and cost of living overall is higher on lower salaries. I miss family and friends and in generally it is all a pile of smelly horribble poo!
So that is why I came and those are why I am running away as fast as I can
Anything ring true in that for you guys?
Nine months on the dream is a nightmare and I can't get out of here quick enough. The job is a disaster, I am being bullied, harrassed and generally messed around including lots if "ist" stuff if you know what I mean. They are basically forcing me out and we are now doing legal battle. They are such idiots I will take it all the way no matter what the cost but that wasn't the point of the move.
Now looking for a new job it appears my uk experience is worthless and I getting offers of jobs at half the pay and things I was doing ten years ago.
My partner in the UK was a clinical director and is facing three years of retraining to get entry at a the point they started at 15yrs ago. Also earning less than a third of UK salary.
The lack of innovation and the bureaucracy drives me mad. The bullying and two faced culture I hate. The weather is either so hot you stay indoors with air con or so cold you hug the furness and neither of us can continue our career or earn even half what we could in the UK. House prices are no cheaper and cost of living overall is higher on lower salaries. I miss family and friends and in generally it is all a pile of smelly horribble poo!
So that is why I came and those are why I am running away as fast as I can
Anything ring true in that for you guys?
A lot of people settle fairly easily here but it often depends if you have friends and family already here to offer that support once you arrive. If not then it can be hard work. It took a long time for me to be accepted and trusted in my workplace. I am still ragged about my accent but ignore it mostly, as I really love my job. After 5 years here though, no friends or family at all, its been lonely and its now time to move on, before I get any older.You know, at least you tried - and if you hadn't, you would always have wondered, what if? Now you can go back knowing you did your best and have a new-found appreciation for HOME!
Aug 26th 2010 | 12:30 pm
#18
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Re: Empty house!
Hey!
Had a similar feeling this morning when I realised three weeks today the removal guys will be here packing up life once again. We too have a couple of weeks living in the empty shell with the dust bunnies before the flight home. Mixed feelings of grief for the dream that died so badly and happiness to be going home. What I keep reminding myself is we are lucky to have had the opportunity, brave to have taken it and wise to recognise when to cut and run back. We will always be wiser and richer for the experience even if sometimes it doesn't feel that way. So much to do to rebuild life and that can be daunting or exciting. Most days I manage exciting but other creep in.
I saw an advert (of all things) that had a really good quote on I remember and will leave you with before I ramble too much.
"My past is not a memory but a force at my back propelling me forward, steering and guiding me into my future"
Let us know how it goes and chin up, you are not alone x
Had a similar feeling this morning when I realised three weeks today the removal guys will be here packing up life once again. We too have a couple of weeks living in the empty shell with the dust bunnies before the flight home. Mixed feelings of grief for the dream that died so badly and happiness to be going home. What I keep reminding myself is we are lucky to have had the opportunity, brave to have taken it and wise to recognise when to cut and run back. We will always be wiser and richer for the experience even if sometimes it doesn't feel that way. So much to do to rebuild life and that can be daunting or exciting. Most days I manage exciting but other creep in.
I saw an advert (of all things) that had a really good quote on I remember and will leave you with before I ramble too much.
"My past is not a memory but a force at my back propelling me forward, steering and guiding me into my future"
Let us know how it goes and chin up, you are not alone x
To Lillybilly, this is the hardest bit I think and once you're there I'm sure you'll feel much better. I wish we were going soon but as it is will have to wait until next year now. At least you're actually doing it as opposed to constantly talking about it (yawn) and still no nearer to making it happen.
Aug 26th 2010 | 12:51 pm
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From: oakville ON
Re: Empty house!
[QUOTE=lilybilly101;8806137]
I can't believe your starting your journey home! Well done for getting it all together!
Just want to wish you luck, you have always seemed someone that i could have had a good chin wag with over a glass or two with!!
Let us know how you get on with it all, it'll all work out so try not to stress. I'll try say that to myself when i start the process!! We have got an unplanned doggy pregnancy due in 3 weeks!! OOps! So thats gonna be fun, 3 kids, 1 dog and 5 pups later
Take care
I'm in work avoidance today. My o/h is doing runs to the dump, sally ann and so on....I'm wandering around the house moving piles, achieving nothing. Bless me. I had a glass to many of wine last night which didn't help at all....well it did at the time!
Thanks for the wishes. I just hope it all works out for us and everyone else seeking a life back home. It's been a great adventure in many ways but time to go home and see to my mum and nephews. I miss them terribly.
Best wishes to you what ever you decide.
Thanks for the wishes. I just hope it all works out for us and everyone else seeking a life back home. It's been a great adventure in many ways but time to go home and see to my mum and nephews. I miss them terribly.
Best wishes to you what ever you decide.
Just want to wish you luck, you have always seemed someone that i could have had a good chin wag with over a glass or two with!!
Let us know how you get on with it all, it'll all work out so try not to stress. I'll try say that to myself when i start the process!! We have got an unplanned doggy pregnancy due in 3 weeks!! OOps! So thats gonna be fun, 3 kids, 1 dog and 5 pups later
Take care
Aug 26th 2010 | 12:52 pm
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From: oakville ON
Re: Empty house!
[QUOTE=pinkkristen;8806293]
I can't believe your starting your journey home! Well done for getting it all together!
Just want to wish you luck, you have always seemed someone that i could have had a good chin wag with over a glass or two with!!
Let us know how you get on with it all, it'll all work out so try not to stress. I'll try say that to myself when i start the process!! We have got an unplanned doggy pregnancy due in 3 weeks!! OOps! So thats gonna be fun, 3 kids, 1 dog and 5 pups later
Take care
Sos put in wrong quote - meant for LB!
I can't believe your starting your journey home! Well done for getting it all together!
Just want to wish you luck, you have always seemed someone that i could have had a good chin wag with over a glass or two with!!
Let us know how you get on with it all, it'll all work out so try not to stress. I'll try say that to myself when i start the process!! We have got an unplanned doggy pregnancy due in 3 weeks!! OOps! So thats gonna be fun, 3 kids, 1 dog and 5 pups later
Take care
Aug 26th 2010 | 1:26 pm
#21
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Lost in Space
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From: Stockport, Cheshire, UK
Re: Empty house!
[QUOTE=pinkkristen;8806293]
I can't believe your starting your journey home! Well done for getting it all together!
Just want to wish you luck, you have always seemed someone that i could have had a good chin wag with over a glass or two with!!
Let us know how you get on with it all, it'll all work out so try not to stress. I'll try say that to myself when i start the process!! We have got an unplanned doggy pregnancy due in 3 weeks!! OOps! So thats gonna be fun, 3 kids, 1 dog and 5 pups later
Take care
Thank you, thank you and yes, a chin wag about life, the universe, dogs and kidlets would be fab.
And happy birthing experience. That's kind of cute especially for the kids. Are you taking them all back to the UK???? I think not eh? My dog is driving me NUTS. She has leash aggression and seems to be super protective of the baby when we're out walking. She lunges and barks at on coming dogs. She's seeing a dog therapist (oh please) and that's bloody hopeless and expensive. Bugger. Any tips?
I can't believe your starting your journey home! Well done for getting it all together!
Just want to wish you luck, you have always seemed someone that i could have had a good chin wag with over a glass or two with!!
Let us know how you get on with it all, it'll all work out so try not to stress. I'll try say that to myself when i start the process!! We have got an unplanned doggy pregnancy due in 3 weeks!! OOps! So thats gonna be fun, 3 kids, 1 dog and 5 pups later
Take care
And happy birthing experience. That's kind of cute especially for the kids. Are you taking them all back to the UK???? I think not eh? My dog is driving me NUTS. She has leash aggression and seems to be super protective of the baby when we're out walking. She lunges and barks at on coming dogs. She's seeing a dog therapist (oh please) and that's bloody hopeless and expensive. Bugger. Any tips?
Aug 27th 2010 | 12:33 am
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From: Alicante, Spain
Re: Empty house!
[QUOTE=lilybilly101;8806335]
Hey Lillybilly,, thanks so much for your replies yesterday, much appreciated,,, I didn't realise that you were in the middle of your move back to Scotland now,(it is Scotland right?) , I thought you were already there, but I'm a newbie here and only just started really spending some time reading the posts,, I got some butterflies in my stomach just thinking of how you must be feeling, a real mixture of emotions I'm sure,, and so great to have a little adventure before making it to your destination. When I first left Scotland in 1994 I lived for 4 years in Venice beach in (LA) California,, I absolutely loved it. Sorry no dog tips but I hope your wee dog is ok, are you taking her with you? she'll be sensing all the changes in the air,, well I wish you and your family a fantastic trip and lots of luck on your new journey in life, enjoy,,,,,,,Bon Voyage,, or I should say Buen Viaje , and I hope to hear how you get on someday,, all the best, x
Thank you, thank you and yes, a chin wag about life, the universe, dogs and kidlets would be fab.
And happy birthing experience. That's kind of cute especially for the kids. Are you taking them all back to the UK???? I think not eh? My dog is driving me NUTS. She has leash aggression and seems to be super protective of the baby when we're out walking. She lunges and barks at on coming dogs. She's seeing a dog therapist (oh please) and that's bloody hopeless and expensive. Bugger. Any tips?
And happy birthing experience. That's kind of cute especially for the kids. Are you taking them all back to the UK???? I think not eh? My dog is driving me NUTS. She has leash aggression and seems to be super protective of the baby when we're out walking. She lunges and barks at on coming dogs. She's seeing a dog therapist (oh please) and that's bloody hopeless and expensive. Bugger. Any tips?
Aug 27th 2010 | 12:55 am
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From: oakville ON
Re: Empty house!
[QUOTE=lilybilly101;8806335]
Not sure if i'm the one to ask for tips about dogs seeing as i've only had this dog (and its my first!) for 8 months and she's gotten preggas!!
My husband wanted to keep one, but i think its hard work getting one dog back to the UK nevermind two!
What type of dog do you have? hopefully its just a stage, (thats my excuse for my kids anyway!!)
Thank you, thank you and yes, a chin wag about life, the universe, dogs and kidlets would be fab.
And happy birthing experience. That's kind of cute especially for the kids. Are you taking them all back to the UK???? I think not eh? My dog is driving me NUTS. She has leash aggression and seems to be super protective of the baby when we're out walking. She lunges and barks at on coming dogs. She's seeing a dog therapist (oh please) and that's bloody hopeless and expensive. Bugger. Any tips?
And happy birthing experience. That's kind of cute especially for the kids. Are you taking them all back to the UK???? I think not eh? My dog is driving me NUTS. She has leash aggression and seems to be super protective of the baby when we're out walking. She lunges and barks at on coming dogs. She's seeing a dog therapist (oh please) and that's bloody hopeless and expensive. Bugger. Any tips?
My husband wanted to keep one, but i think its hard work getting one dog back to the UK nevermind two!
What type of dog do you have? hopefully its just a stage, (thats my excuse for my kids anyway!!)
