Syedney

I am getting the "I want to go home now" syndrome so badly specially in the last few days that it is affecting my sleep & health in general. We have planned to go back by end of September specially so that my daughter is not joining her high school too late. The cat has to be here in Sydney for another 2 months after that but that is handled by a pet company.

Yet, lately, I am getting the urge to up stick and leave.
Is this common?

Please believe me when I say it's not because of the country, people or anything to do with here.

It's weird but can't put my finger on it...

ann m

It's probably that now the decision is made to return, you just want to get on with it? Your brain has gone into overdrive with all the things you want/need to do.

Wouldn't it be great to just click your heels and all the hard was done?

Beedubya

Yes very common and quite normal, it's like an emotional roller coaster.

Mummy in the foothills

Very common and normal. I hit that brick wall multiple times a year. I even run numbers in my head, trying to make sure we can survive once we up sticks and run.

judes

Id say very normal, once we made the decision, and it was a very sudden decision, I just want to be gone, and hopefully by November I will be !!

quoll

Yup very normal. But, then again, I am very much a spur of the moment person so not much planning goes into moving when I do decide to move - decide, book flights, depart. Coming out here we did it in less than 6 weeks including getting a visa (that was almost an oops) and selling the house and all contents.

Good luck with the next step of your life, may it be simply brilliant!!!

penguinsix

A quote from Harry met Sally comes to mind:

"When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.”

I think that's kind of the same thing that is going on here. You know what you want and now it is just a matter of getting on with it. It's pretty natural to feel this way and short of a time machine, there isn't much you can do to accelerate the process.

My only advice is to consider this not as "the few weeks keeping me from going home" but as "the last few weeks I'll be here". Even if you hate and despise the place, there might be a few things you like here or there, or even a few touristy things worth doing before you leave. Savor your last bite of some local food you won't get back home or see something you can't see back home (and won't ever see again). Spend the last few more weeks like you are on a vacation rather than just delayed from 'living the rest of your life'.

Good luck.

JustBecause

Good advice! We did that prior to leaving UK - went around visiting places we'd never been to & places we knew we liked. We wanted to include some trips to European cities but had enough to visit in the UK. We had a ball & really enjoyed it - funnily enough we want to go back now! It's not like we didn't go anywhere before we knew we were leaving - we were a couple with no kids so were quite often going off for weekend breaks, it's just that the UK has such variety you can go somewhere different every weekend if you want to (...unlike somewhere I could mention....)

Syedney

Thanks for all the explanations and support guys. I am getting to accept thid feeling more slowly. We are treating it like a 9 week holidays now. We've booked for Breakfast cruise this Sunday, to check out the Sydney's expensive properties and take some photos for folks back home and for us.
I guess it would've been great if we had a time machine, but since we don't we just have to keep ourselves busy.
Another 9 weeks or so, then back to Brighton!

brits1

We were like that when we made the decision..which for us was the hardest part..we had to stay until the end of the school year so did a year after we had sold our home in Aus...now THAT was the hardest part as we felt in never never land...if any consolation the time went very quickly and at least we had the time to "sort" out all we needed to make the move....ie bank accounts, pet transportation, car insurance documents for our return...little things of info we picked up from this helpful "site"...good luck it wll be time before you know it...

canadian_critic

I think you reach a point where the uncertainty has been blown away, and everything you do and think is focused on your move. There is definitely a transition that you go through emotionally. This is particularly so when the move is dependent on something, like getting emigration visa / work permit, or perhaps selling a home. I'm sure a psychologist could talk more about this, but there is a sudden switch where we go from uncertainty to certainty.

judes

Yes I do believe thats true, we had a friend return at Christmas, we were very happy for her but in no way did it make us "anxious" to follow. We went ahead with our plans to return in 2 years. Then we went home for a visit in April and everthing changed, that was 10 weeks ago and in that time we have sold our house here and bought one in Cornwall ! Absolutely on an emotional roller coaster but a happy coaster. Our son is renovating the house prior to our return, so constant e mails on choices of bathroom suites etc. Packing up here, decisions on whether to ship or not, plus trying to get the dog sorted to fly and sorting out kennels the UK end. We are commited to working the Summer and thru Halloween but plan on leaving early November. and to think we had no such notion 3 months ago, in fact we have a cruise booked out of Baltimore in March and need to fly back for that. Oh Happy Days !! Believe me, you WILL reach the point of " Yes we are going," and all energies will be focused on that goal. Good Luck

Syedney

Looking forward to that!

Good luck to you too and by the sound of things, what a hectic schedule you have

We've started the process for the cat, and he will be here until middle of Nov...Then flown over by a pet company

We have already got a confirmation of a place in the preferred high school for my daughter and she's ecstatic about it as her best mates are all going to that school

I'm contemplating how best to break the news to my employers. I am not 100% sure whether they are obliged to get us flight tickets to UK or not...

I am foregoing nearly $5k bonus which I should be getting around Dec so I am hoping that would make up for that

tolennaki

Yes I think it is common, I know people who have experiences the same. I think it happens as your mind tries to cope with the challenge of moving. But I am not a psychologist, so maybe you are just excited! which is nice. Good luck!