scrubbedexpat091

I am doing really poorly mental health wise, and cannot afford counseling I need and it's been getting worse and I just don't know what do to anymore.

The medical system can't provide long term therapy that I require, even the psychiatrist tells me there is nothing else they can do and to ask people I know to help with therapy.

Jerseygirl

I'm sorry J...although I thought some of your posts in this thread were out of character for you...the penny didn't drop. I am sorry if my words caused you embarrassment.

Tirytory

You're not hated- you're just being a bit precious..

scrubbedexpat091

Nobody here did anything. I just mentally very poor right now. Was close to therapy but we couldn't come up with what it costs.

Very frustrating and I am home sickreal bad.

Jerseygirl

I understand that...I was miserable in New Jersey for 17 years. Now I'm a happy camper in Toronto...but my husband isn't.

I wish we could help you J...

bats

It's a shitty menu. My husband doesn't eat salmon nor venison. No ether of us eat oysters. I have to have gluten free food. IMHO a good host accommodates their guests needs otherwise don't hold a party. I usually eat beforehand or tuck into the veggies if they look safe.

I sympathise with you big time and really right now think that your best option is to stay at home. Send them your best wishes and say you would like to celebrate with them another time but your health prevents you attending.

Stinkypup

I will take the venison if it is still available - I love a good haunch

Jerseygirl

Bambi...

Stinkypup

I don't care, I will eat anything- salmon would be fine. Not oysters unless they are grilled... raw ones are like eating snot

scrubbedexpat091

It's just where we are in BC. So pricey and hard finding a decent sized city that has jobs, college with the right program and of course jobs....lol

Siouxie

I'd get your wife to contact her brother and ask him to arrange for a vegetarian dish for you as the food on the menu will upset your stomach - and if he says no then I'd suggest you do as bats said - say your health isn't good enough to attend, send your regrets and let your wife go along on her own. Feeling emotionally blackmailed into going isn't good for your mental health either and it sounds like you are getting very stressed over all the hassles that are going along with this. It's just not worth it if it's going to make you feel worse than you need to.

Hope things get better for you soon.. hang in there!

Jerseygirl

Well said S.

I have a feeling most of us would agree with this.

BristolUK

To be fair it is a special occasion. 'Normal' is surely not the order of the day.

Follow Siouxie's excellent suggestion.

Pulaski

We had our reception in the fanciest restaurant in the area, and decided to have half a dozen or more choices, including chicken and a vegetarian option. I think we paid a little more (it was already an arm and a leg, so a few more fingers didn't make much difference) for having such a wide choice, but in our opinion it was worth it. My mother said it was "weird" or something like that, not to dictate a very narrow "either/or" choice for a wedding breakfast.

When the boot is on the other foot, I really don't care what is put on the menu because I'll eat just about anything that purports to be food.

Shirtback

^^^ This.

And ^^^ this.

Best wishes to you JS, I know it ain't easy.

If you can afford to go, a change of scenery, even for a couple of days, might help. If you're going reluctantly just to "keep the peace" with family, it won't .

OT: I'm absolutely appalled that mental health help/therapy is inaccessible in BC without $$$.