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Re: How do you persuade........................?
MIL is still refusing to visit after 6 years:thumbsup:
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Re: How do you persuade........................?
Hi Gaynor,
Sorry to hear you're feeling gutted. I recommend you go to this website, scroll down a bit, and watch the 15-Minute Miracle video by Joe Vitale. (You can find it on a variety of websites if you do a Google search for 15 MINUTE MIRACLE + JOE VITALE.) I'm willing to bet that, if you make the 4 statements several times a day, every day, the situation will resolve itself in time. Your mother will agree to come for a visit, she won't agree but you'll stop worrying about it, or some other solution will emerge. I truly believe that. x |
Re: How do you persuade........................?
Oh Gaynor,
I'm sorry to hear how your feeling & why :( I can't offer any ideas to you but i'm thinking of you & hope your Mum soon sees the light & comes over to see you all :wub: |
Re: How do you persuade........................?
Originally Posted by gill_andy_grew
(Post 6191617)
(see you in a few hours:wub:)
Originally Posted by purple80
(Post 6192676)
Can you tell her how important it is to you..... That you miss her, and want to see her, and that you want her to see your new life?? I know the problems you had before you left, but I would just keep going with the emotional bribery, get the kids to tell her what they have been doing and how it would be great if she could actually see it. Virtual {{{{hugs}}}} and karma sent..... :wub: Charlie :wub:
Originally Posted by G586
(Post 6192706)
Perhaps your Mum is really scared of travelling? Could you fetch her? Or find her an escort? Or travel back with her to avoid her leaving you in Canada, as it were?
Originally Posted by Littletashy
(Post 6192787)
Have you concidered that she may need reassurance, maybe she's a bit sad that your life continues with out her in it, she might not feel she has a place in it and a more direct approach of I wish grandma had seen this or mum I wish you could give me a hug when I feel down, like you did before, might just tell her you still need her... |
Re: How do you persuade........................?
Originally Posted by ann m
(Post 6193990)
:rofl::thumbup:
Gaynor? Gaynor Luv? Pick yourself up off the floor - it was only a suggestion :p Would be swinging from a church spire if that one was the case :eek:
Originally Posted by Judy in Calgary
(Post 6194115)
Hi Gaynor,
Sorry to hear you're feeling gutted. Thanks for that one hun - will check it out later at home :thumbsup: Thanks to everyone but I seem to be flogging a dead horse as we say in UK. As an update it was her birthday yesterday so my aunt here in town rang and had the same discussion with her and laid it on the line "Your daughter and grandbabies NEED to see you" - so we will see how that works for her. Gaynor xxc |
Re: How do you persuade........................?
Originally Posted by burton bunch
(Post 6194928)
Give me a ring when you are settled x
Hiya Charlie - have done the above - her response is she isnt ready even tho I broke my heart with her :( My mom has been numerous times to the town where I live and my step dad would travel with her Believe it I tried all of the above on Sunday whilst crying and sobbing :( I am very sad for you, and really hope you can find a resolution soon. Take care and try to stay positive:wub: |
Re: How do you persuade........................?
How about acknowledging to your mum the feelings of sadness you both
will feel when it is time to say goodbye .However, gently reinforce that it is the present moment which is precious and you would like to see her and your step dad again. Hope things will work out for you Gaynor. Yoong |
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Originally Posted by burton bunch
(Post 6194967)
As an update it was her birthday yesterday so my aunt here in town rang and had the same discussion with her and laid it on the line "Your daughter and grandbabies NEED to see you" - so we will see how that works for her. xxc I haven't any brilliant suggestions BUT I think your aunt's phone call might do the trick;) Keeping my finger crossed for you. Jo xx |
Re: How do you persuade........................?
Originally Posted by ann m
(Post 6193990)
:rofl::thumbup:
Gaynor? Gaynor Luv? Pick yourself up off the floor - it was only a suggestion :p Gaynor, I have nothing to add that has not been said by me previously and countless others, I know she is your mum, but I think she is being unfair, don't let it get you down..... More {{{{hugs}}}} and karma sent. (After lots of frantic spreading!). :wub: Charlie :wub: P.S. All your previous advice re Chris going is turning out true, would PM you but really don't want to add my woes to yours! Speak soon...:wub: |
Re: How do you persuade........................?
Hi Gaynor
Just seen this thread. Sorry your mum is still saying she won't come out. I would only echo what others have said - get her to book to come out and then maybe you book to go back there at some point afterwards (which is what we have done - my parents are coming over here in the summer and we have booked to go back for Christmas). Or get her to book her next trip as soon as she gets back. Then it will give her something to look forward to when she leaves. I hope it does resolve itself for all your sakes. I can't believe it is now nine months since we got on that plane at Manchester!!!!! :) It has gone quick - and I have survived the winter!!! :thumbup: Lisa x |
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Hiya BB
We never expected either set of parents to come and visit. My mum and dad haven't flown for over 40 years (and I think they are secretly scared of flying), so we forced the issue by blowing all our Air Canada Aeroplan points that we have saved up over the last seven years on two business class tickets for them to come out for the Stampede in July! They are actually quite looking forward to it now as when we see them on the webcam, my mum is showing me pictures of places she wants to visit in the touirst leaflets! So that's one set of parents to tick off. The others (Jim's) may not be so easy. His Dad refuses point blank and uses every excuse not to come over and his mum won't come on her own. They are retired and don't do much but somehow are always 'too busy' to come over! We are now putting all our spending on our Aeroplan credit card to see if we can do the same for Jim's parents..... (we'll see) Hope you find a solution soon! All the best Flossie |
Re: How do you persuade........................?
Originally Posted by purple80
(Post 6195875)
P.S. All your previous advice re Chris going is turning out true, would PM you but really don't want to add my woes to yours! Speak soon...:wub:
Originally Posted by Lisa_W
(Post 6196097)
Hi Gaynor
I can't believe it is now nine months since we got on that plane at Manchester!!!!! :) It has gone quick - and I have survived the winter!!! :thumbup: Lisa x I know doesnt seem possible Lisa Gaynor x |
Re: How do you persuade........................?
Dear Gaynor - maybe you will never change her mind. Maybe the only solution will be for you guys to go visit her when you have the chance and finances allow.
I read your pre-move saga so it's hard not to sound a bit judgemental about your mother but all the evidence so far is that she doesn't put you, your feelings, or her grandchildren above her own needs - and so it seems unlikely your tears will move her. If you can't change her mind, the only thing you can change is the way you react to the situation. Positive thinking (as Judy recommends) or even just 'psyching' yourself not to mind so much so that you can devise Plan B. Good luck. |
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UPDATE :::
Well the auntie phone call to tell mom that she had to come really worked. She flies in Jun 29th for 4 weeks - 10 weeks and 5 days and counting :thumbsup: Gaynor |
Re: How do you persuade........................?
Originally Posted by burton bunch
(Post 6213139)
UPDATE :::
Well the auntie phone call to tell mom that she had to come really worked. She flies in Jun 29th for 4 weeks - 10 weeks and 5 days and counting :thumbsup: Gaynor |
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