So sorry to hear your news. Our thoughts are with you.

Eamonn & Janet.

Aw Gaynor there is nothing I can write that will make you feel better, but as the others have written you have people that are thinking about you.

Oh Gay - what a shitty turn of events - just one would be enough to overload the brain, but all three in such a short time, wow - what can we say? Massive hugs

I like the "fake it till you make it" comment - we all do that to some degree - and we and you already know you are a strong lady. But when the time is right (and anytime at all is OK, except perhaps in the queue at Safeways ), don't forget to have a damn good blub at your leisure. It will relieve huge amounts of pent up emotions - and I thoroughly recommend one every now again

You can only 'be there' for your mum and dad - and on the end of the phone is just fine. A hug would be nice too, but just your voice will always be good therapy for them. A slow, drawn out end is a horrible and cruel thing to witness and I'm sure many of us can empathise.

Ref the trouble at t'mill, I would save your energy for you and yours at the moment - these are presumably adult friends that you are talking about? And if so, they are big and ugly enough to wobble through their own mini crisis at the moment. Let them know that you share their concerns but that right at this minute, your brain is dedicated to other life and death matters and that you will return soon ! Sometimes, we just have to accept that we cannot be all things to all people all the time - and so do those other people!

And finally, my sympathies to you and the family of your friend. What a hideous act of violence (and that can be very hard to come to terms with and take a long time). It will feel like the wheels of justice will grind painstakingly slowly and I truly hope for a proper outcome in due course. Again, just some random phonecalls to let them know you are thinking of them will be enormously welcome. But I expect some random phonecalls to you aswell from other people would be nice too

So - more hugs and hope the coming weeks and months bring some happy news somewhere along the line. Sounds like you all need it.

Thinking of you XXX

am sorry about your news , its just terrible , my thoughts are with you xxx

Thanks everyone who has responded to the thread - had to do a bit of venting last night as it doesnt get any better.

Trouble at t'mill will have to be dealt with (if at all) at a later date as I will of course be saving all of my energy for me and mine - selfish but a necessity.

Maybe peeps think these are just instances but along with this I have had to cope with other things which includes my daughter being diagnosed with a low iron count which is getting worse and causing her to black out etc too

OMG I could go on for hours but think that you lots will be bored of me already

Thanks again it is nice to no that I have a few friends on here

Gay
x


ps Thanks for all of the Karma - have only just found it !!!!!

I'm aware that nothing I say will make things any better but just wanted you to know we're thinking about you and your family.

Sounds like you're having a real rough ride, big hugs being sent your way hope things improve soon.

Take care and remember that whilst you're putting everyone else first you also need to take time for you!

Lynne

So sorry to hear you're really having a time of it. Sympathies to you and yours.
Thinking of you!

Rob

I only wish I had the answers on how you cope with all that you have going on. All I can say is that our thoughts are with you x

Hey Gaynor,

Our thoughts go out to you at a very troubling time, I am sure you will come through it stronger than ever.

If it helps you could be a long suffering Spurs fan like me with another depressing season to endure ?????

Take Care and when you are near Calgary next come and see us in Okipokes as Maisie would say.

D,P and M with an E xx

Thanks my love - up at the weekend for nate's soccer provincials but will be reall busy sorry.

Give me a bell and we will catch up

x

Hey Gay

Got your message on facebook.

Sometimes life just seems to kick you in the teeth. Can't say more than the rest of the posters, all you can do I suppose is be there for those who need you, albeit virtually, or by phone. I suppose we can rationalise elderly people having their 'time', but your friend, now that is tragic. Scares me to think that there are people capable of such things.

Thinking of you, give me a shout if you want a chat to offload.
Lots of karma to you and yours.

Sharon xxx

So sorry to hear you are having such a rough patch

Sending you a BIG cyber hug

Jo

xx

o gaynor i know how you feel on the grandparent front.
As you know ours was very quick, but they did request that if her heart gave out that they wont do anything, thankfully they kept to there word.

I cant help apart from give you a cyber {{{{{hug}}}}}
But i know that you are strong, my mum suffers from the low iron and take tablets for it, loads of cabbage and the ood old black stuff (well not till shes 18

Hope the trip this weekend helps you to get away from it, ill throw a big BBQ at our new posh pad when we land

Thinking of you

How do you cope with what life throws at you? ..... Any which way you can m'dear. A lot of people have already said a lot of good stuff. Just try not to neglect yourself or your immediate family, and take one day at a time.

I once heard life's sufferings described as a tunnel .... can be terribly long and tortuous, but try to think of it as something you are coming through, not going through, and eventually you'll start to see the light at the end of it........

Human nature is such that when things are going well we think it can't possibly last, and when things are going badly we think it will never end.

The reality is that we all get a sprinkling of both. I hope things soon pick up for you.