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What were they complaining about..?
I think people often mistakenly equate the conclusions of informal ethnographic research as moaning.

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This is the curse of being an exile. the Romans knew that sentencing someone to exile was a very sever punishment. No matter how much we romanticise migration as "being an expat" or whatever, the reality is harsh. Being a migrant means uprooting yourself from family, friends and the known. After a while you make adjustments to your new environment but the experience is unsettling. Many never feel at home in the new environment and feel equally uneasy when they are back where they originally came from.
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I believe partly, that home sickness is connected with 2 things, a persons financial situation and ability to take time off from work. My opinion is that if a person has the spare cash and time to visit the UK on a regular basis this would help with the situation, maybe not totally cure it, but having the ability to go to the UK for 1-3 months of the year would help I think.

It works for my wife that's for sure. As for me I don't really have time to even think about it, just too busy doing stuffs. However, we are going back Feb 2018 for the whole month, my cheap answer to snowbirding I guess. Or "snowtorain birding"
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Originally Posted by magnumpi
However, we are going back Feb 2018 for the whole month, my cheap answer to snowbirding I guess. Or "snowtorain birding"
I expect the UK will get its worst winter since 1963 just to make you feel "at home"
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Originally Posted by BristolUK
I expect the UK will get its worst winter since 1963 just to make you feel "at home"
Don't think we will pack the sunscreen anyhow :@)
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Originally Posted by magnumpi
Don't think we will pack the sunscreen anyhow :@)
That seems a really good idea, if it's the slow season for work anyway, you may as well enjoy the opportunity. Hmmm, I don't like February here.
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Originally Posted by dbd33
That seems a really good idea, if it's the slow season for work anyway, you may as well enjoy the opportunity. Hmmm, I don't like February here.
Nail on head comment DBD

After I booked the flights my boss said jokingly, he would pay me to leave the country in Feb lol

BTW with my Visa points added two return flights YYZ-MAN cost us $814 Canadian

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Nail on head comment DBD

After I booked the flights my boss said jokingly, he would pay me to leave the country in Feb lol

BTW with my Visa points added two return flights YYZ-MAN cost us $814 Canadian
Enjoy the Lancashire Riviera
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Nail on head comment DBD

After I booked the flights my boss said jokingly, he would pay me to leave the country in Feb lol

BTW with my Visa points added two return flights YYZ-MAN cost us $814 Canadian
You could fit in a mini break to southern Spain or somewhere warmish too.
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You could fit in a mini break to southern Spain or somewhere warmish too.
OH mentioned that, we looking into it
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Originally Posted by magnumpi
I believe partly, that home sickness is connected with 2 things, a persons financial situation and ability to take time off from work. My opinion is that if a person has the spare cash and time to visit the UK on a regular basis this would help with the situation, maybe not totally cure it, but having the ability to go to the UK for 1-3 months of the year would help I think.

It works for my wife that's for sure. As for me I don't really have time to even think about it, just too busy doing stuffs. However, we are going back Feb 2018 for the whole month, my cheap answer to snowbirding I guess. Or "snowtorain birding"
I think you have a great point. I have read so much about feeling so homesick or anxiety when you move away. I have lived in south calgary five years from the north of England and miss my rolling hills and great pubs back home. But I work (self employed) full time with a 6 year old boy and married (my husband loves every minute here) my eldest two children live back in the UK as they couldn't settle. I miss them too so much. I have visited only once last Christmas. My husband will not hear of it for me to travel on my own when I earn my own money. It's making me very sad.
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I think you have a great point. I have read so much about feeling so homesick or anxiety when you move away. I have lived in south calgary five years from the north of England and miss my rolling hills and great pubs back home. But I work (self employed) full time with a 6 year old boy and married (my husband loves every minute here) my eldest two children live back in the UK as they couldn't settle. I miss them too so much. I have visited only once last Christmas. My husband will not hear of it for me to travel on my own when I earn my own money. It's making me very sad.
My wife goes whenever she feels the need, she was working too. I say go, after a few weeks u wanna come back, it's like a drug, go get ya UK fix and u be good for a year lol
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Market for a Little England theme park? Load as many cliches as possible and a pub and chippy, kebab joint, music hall etc, into an acreage and shake the money out. Do it someplace in English-heavy Ontario.. you go to jail for anglophilia in Saskatchewan.
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Originally Posted by lipglosscrazy
I think you have a great point. I have read so much about feeling so homesick or anxiety when you move away. I have lived in south calgary five years from the north of England and miss my rolling hills and great pubs back home. But I work (self employed) full time with a 6 year old boy and married (my husband loves every minute here) my eldest two children live back in the UK as they couldn't settle. I miss them too so much. I have visited only once last Christmas. My husband will not hear of it for me to travel on my own when I earn my own money. It's making me very sad.
I think this is very sad. The highlighted part more so. A marriage isn't he says, so she does. If you are unhappy now, it will only get worse, if you need to go back to the UK for a visit, then you should. My daughter is in Ontario now, it makes me sad that I don't see her, I will be going later this year, on my own as my husband realises I miss her.
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