Fears
#77
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Location: A Briton, married to a Canadian, now in Fredericton.
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Re: Fears
Really stupidly, im terrified of driving (yeh great idea to move to Canada, huh?!) At the moment I find it hard to even get behind the wheel at all, although I do keep trying.
I used to drive (allbeit nervously) but then one day, I just stopped being able to get behind a wheel without freezing up, shaking and sweating. Husband is trying to 'fix' me by randomly pulling the car over and refusing to drive the rest of the way. Not entirely sure this is working for me though...I now live in fear when we go anywhere
I used to drive (allbeit nervously) but then one day, I just stopped being able to get behind a wheel without freezing up, shaking and sweating. Husband is trying to 'fix' me by randomly pulling the car over and refusing to drive the rest of the way. Not entirely sure this is working for me though...I now live in fear when we go anywhere
#78
Re: Fears
Speaking as someone with fairly substantial anxiety issues ( or at least I did have ), your partner is probably the worst person to try and " help" you through them
Ben and I sometimes had to sit totally apart on aero planes because literally nothing he did was right , if he ignored me then I saw him as being heartless . If he tried to comfort me then he was saying all the wrong things.
What you need is professional help and your partner to support you in seeking and acting on that help
While well intended I don't think potentially abandoning you is helpful. As you say it's just making you more anxious !
I wish you every success in overcoming this fear, it cZn be truly liberating when you do.
Ben and I sometimes had to sit totally apart on aero planes because literally nothing he did was right , if he ignored me then I saw him as being heartless . If he tried to comfort me then he was saying all the wrong things.
What you need is professional help and your partner to support you in seeking and acting on that help
While well intended I don't think potentially abandoning you is helpful. As you say it's just making you more anxious !
I wish you every success in overcoming this fear, it cZn be truly liberating when you do.
#79
Re: Fears
Zoe, I put my cousin's old racing plane in my avatar, (can't upload attachments from my phone). He was an Aviator, and understanding him I understand why people want to fly. He flew just about everything all over the world.
#80
Re: Fears
I've still got a lot to master if I ever Want to get my ppl but I actually reckon I might be able to do it !
#81
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Re: Fears
Zoe, where are you doing lessons? In Toronto? I want to start ppl lessons here, I will start again in Spring, I did 30 odd hours in France for my ppl...I too don't like flying generally.
Last edited by MillieF; Nov 26th 2012 at 12:56 am. Reason: Typo
#82
Re: Fears
I'm flying from city airport on the island
PM me if you want details
My instructor is amazing !
PM me if you want details
My instructor is amazing !
#83
Re: Fears
Yeah it's totally addictive. Even when the lessons scared the living hell out of me and my only achievement was not hyperventilating. Through all the times I though I'd never get it and it seemed like too much for a human to do at once . I was counting down the days til my next lesson!
I've still got a lot to master if I ever Want to get my ppl but I actually reckon I might be able to do it !
I've still got a lot to master if I ever Want to get my ppl but I actually reckon I might be able to do it !
#84
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Joined: Dec 2010
Location: Durham Region Extension
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Re: Fears
So you going to buy your own plane then?
Or are you going to go big like John Travolta, with your house having its own runway
http://www.thedailytruffle.com/2004/...-house-runway/
Or are you going to go big like John Travolta, with your house having its own runway
http://www.thedailytruffle.com/2004/...-house-runway/
Yeah it's totally addictive. Even when the lessons scared the living hell out of me and my only achievement was not hyperventilating. Through all the times I though I'd never get it and it seemed like too much for a human to do at once . I was counting down the days til my next lesson!
I've still got a lot to master if I ever Want to get my ppl but I actually reckon I might be able to do it !
I've still got a lot to master if I ever Want to get my ppl but I actually reckon I might be able to do it !
#85
Re: Fears
Damn! I was sitting here all smug, thinking that there was absolutely nothing I could think of that I could answer. I wasn't even mildly bothered by anything people had listed so far...until now............
#87
Re: Fears
Millie F & Zoe - thanks for the advice, I just keep putting it off but I know I need to deal with it. It's something I've wanted to be able to do for a long time, it's weird that I just overthink it to the point of being utterly terrified.
Maybe hypnotherapy is worth a go
Maybe hypnotherapy is worth a go
#88
Re: Fears
Try looking into CBT. I think its generally accepted as a legitimate psychological therapy for phobias ( treating , not causing!)
Either way good luck!
Either way good luck!
#89
The Brit is back
Joined: Apr 2010
Location: NS, Canada 2007-2013. Now....England!
Posts: 2,211
Re: Fears
When driving accross a bridge I have to have my windows wound down, no matter how cold it is. If that bridge collapses and I fall into water I want to be able to get out of the car.
#90
Re: Fears
Electric windows will work underwater, and you wont be able to open the door against the waterpressure until the cabin is full and the pressure equalised anyway, so you are freezing your nads for no good reason