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I'll bet she'd 'unfriend you' in a heartbeat?

Nutters all over the place, most are the ones closest to you

We don't do 'facebook' or other social media. My wife unfriended her only own sister 10 years ago - they don't speak, send greeting cards, nothing.

She did the same with her very best friend 45 years ago when she was in her 20's

Doesn't matter who is it, family, anyone, even your own child, your parents, siblings or acquaintances. Totally disowned, we've done it- door shut & locked

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Couldn't agree more N2O. When I turned 50 I made the conscious decision to cut the toxic people out of my life and start being around people who make me happy. The thing is, the person who is the drama queen is really a lovely young woman who I like a lot. She's got a heart of gold and so I put up with her dramas. In person she's a completely different person, so it's all good. :)

Good on you and your wife for cutting off people. I've done the same with siblings and former friends.

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Do you think this is a good thing? Someone close to me often says "it's ok to hate your family" as if there were an obligation to do so. It's not an attitude I care for but then I'm in Canada, there's no immediate danger of family appearing on the doorstep.

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Yes, it's a good idea. If strangers treated you the way some family members do would you put up with it? Why is it alright for "family" to be rude, condescending, abusive when we wouldn't accept that behaviour from others?

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It's acceptable because they are family. Cutting oneself off from the world seems curmudgeonly; the action of an aspiring grumpy recluse.

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I've cut some family out of my life. That doesn't mean I've cut myself off from the world. On the contrary! Since getting rid of the people whose mission seemed to be to bring others down I have made some fantastic friends and gone from constantly trying to please others to pleasing myself.

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Exactly, anyone who gives you heartburn, increases the blood pressure or when you have sleepless nights over another human beings drama or actions.

I like that term 'toxic people', must use that :thumbsup:

I don't believe that we are eccentric nor aspiring recluse, on the grumps [well maybe me] - but I see how that could appear.

In my case, I left the UK near 50 years ago, having got past the first couple of years here - easy sailing without the need of letting anyone get close. I have no family here other than my wife, kids & now FIL.

No drama, no dirty laundry, having to take sides, listen to gossip, be in anyone's life other than our own family circle - not even the relatives back in the UK.

When I get to see them, its on my terms, generally I will visit them for a week (they don't come here) - smile, nod, listen to their BS, do my own thing, don't divulge any of our personal family matters back in Canada.

We distance ourselves from anyone, no one gets close, we don't do friends or see or be with other folks socially.

Keep our distance, treat everyone the same - strangers, knock on the door, canvassing phone calls, old work mates, the neighbours.

If I need a 5 minute chat with anyone, I can do that at the supermarket- no involvement.

If anyone wants a hand or help with something, or asks for a cup of sugar, they can 'sod off'.

Maybe old age has settled in, trust no one, other than the family pet:blink:

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In the few months that I've been on FB I've noticed that brits especially seem to put little x's after everything they post. I find this really weird, when did UK peeps start doing this?

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My grandmother told me " you don't have to like [family members]. You might need to learn how to tolerate them".

Several thousand miles, an ocean & a different continent helps, sometimes :sneaky:;)

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I don't post too many status updates on FB. I do reply to the odd comment from friends. If someone gets the hump because I've unfriended them, well, that's quite possibly the reason why I did it, that you throw a tantrum at the smallest of things.

I agree about the constant selfies. If it's one, every few months, and with more than just yourself, that's not too bad. If it's daily, or god forbid more frequently, or of your bloody food, then I see it as extremely vain / annoying. (Don't get me started on selfie sticks, grrr)

I tend not to post pictures of my son. perhaps the occasional one, but permissions are certainly set to friends only, or specific group I've set up. Certainly not visible to all. Most of the time they're just uploaded to a share iCloud album that the family has access to, so no need to splat them all over FB.

There are certainly a lot of attention whores on FB, that's for certain.

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This is one of many reasons why I have avoided feacesbook like the plague, it seems to cause a lot of trouble as a result of unecessary statements, unnecessary pictures; lots of look at me and what ive got now, and just general drivel, oh and idiots that totaly ignored you at school now suddenly wanting to be friends, whats that all about? :thumbdown:

From what ive heard on here and in general about it, i am glad i have no part of it, or ever have done. :sneaky:

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I recently noticed an alternative to un-friending on Facebook, You can Un-Follow people which means they are still on your friend list but you dont see ANY of their posts, I had quite a few who just posted insane amounts of rubbish on FB, i didnt want to un-friend but it drove me nuts, When i found the un-follow option man did i have a reckoning through my friend list lol And they don't know you have un-followed them lmao

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Probably about the same time they started calling each other hun.

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OP, this unfriending malarkey, surely its not just 'facebook'?

Then you'll have folks on BE with the 'get together' for reasons unknown - could it be a chance to be nosy, inquisitive, suss someone out, befriend or unfriend others?

http://britishexpats.com/forum/maple...-march-871414/

Why the hype, I just don't get it' why do folks do these things - am I missing something?

Why do folks put their real face avatar on BE, has BE become a toned down version of 'facebook', or is it simply 'chat'?

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I've been a forum frequenter since about 2009. On the September 11th I was on my way to a Grauniad forum meetup at the KGB bar in Lower Manhattan when some plane crashes disrupted the proceedings. When I travelled on business I met all sorts of people from the internet for a drink or for dinner. Some of them followed me home. I used to go to BE meetups from time to time.

Why? Well, why not, such meetings are mildly sociable and it's often interesting to meet people from a complete different background. Very few turned out to be genuinely stabby lunatics though one, a member of the ICF certainly is, I kept him as a facebook friend until that class of person was banned from facebook, just to have a window into another world.

IMO It's a miserable life if you don't talk to anyone.