Originally Posted by fledermaus (Post 6844395)

OMG, are you saying its a sexual thing?

Originally Posted by montreal mike (Post 6844491)

Good Lord no, that's the furthest thing from my mind

Originally Posted by fledermaus (Post 6844497)

So it was a daft thing to say in this thread then.

Originally Posted by montreal mike (Post 6844510)

Daft? Perhaps.

I was trying a combination of humour and sarcasm, both of which fell flat. But I am dead serious about my views on spanking as I am sure you are serious too in your views.

Originally Posted by montreal mike (Post 6844372)

To me there is only spot: the bum. God made it for spanking.;)

Not the legs or any other part of the anatomy.

Originally Posted by Dave+Jules (Post 6843129)

I don't understand why all those who are appalled by the idea of smacking their children think that those who have used that type of punishment must all be Child Abusers....:confused:

I could probably count on two hands the amount of times I smacked my kids, but you know it was always the deterrent that could stop them both in their tracks when they were smacking the heck out of each other. My warning that they would both get a clip if they didnt stop tended to cool things down.

I am sure the VAST majority of parents who use smacking as a punishment are like me and not the wild bum spanking, angry people you see in the supermarket queue.

Originally Posted by fledermaus (Post 6844369)

OK, so there are two types of hitting. (spanking and slapping being gentler words that hide the violence behind the action)

1) Hitting the child in anger.
2) Hitting the child as a controlled, premeditated act.

Posters have said that in anger isnt acceptable, but if you have the time to think about what you are doing surely you have the time to consider alternative forms of correction?


This is so true which ever way you look at it you are telling the child with pain wether a smack or a thump how can that be right :blink:
There is never a situation where there is not an alternative NEVER.

I remember my mum hitting me, used to be across the back of the legs, and it hurt. I also remember crying and being so so upset that I had made my mum so angry that she wanted to hurt me, and because I didnt understand what I had done wrong. As for doing me no harm no that I am an adult, well I remember it with bitterness. I think thats harm enough.

Originally Posted by montreal mike (Post 6844372)

To me there is only spot: the bum. God made it for spanking.;) ?

Not the legs or any other part of the anatomy.

Originally Posted by Katie76 (Post 6844582)

I wouldn't say that I'm appalled. Only, I guess for me when I was a youngster things sometimes got abit out of hand to say the least :(. I guess that's the reason why I would never lay a hand on my own children and have such a strong opinionated view about the whole thing and I'm not going to lie, but it does upset me when I see a parent smacking their child, but of course I have to turn a blind eye - Not my business.

Like you say, if it worked for yourself when you were a kid, and you feel it works the same for your own children, you're only doing what you feel that's best. No problem with that.

Everyone is very different, and although I say this,... I still believe that alternatives are the very best way.

But,.. that's just my view, nothing personal intended.

Originally Posted by fledermaus (Post 6844687)

My mum would splash cold water on me, or polnk me down on cold tiles to make me gasp and so breathe. I have been told this by my family, I dont remember it at all, but I do remember being slapped.

Originally Posted by montreal mike (Post 6844706)

Apart from painful childhood memories can you honestly say you are scarred? By this I mean lasting and irreparable emotional damage, that is screwed up psychologically. From your input to other threads it obvious you are a perfectly well balanced normal person.

Originally Posted by fledermaus (Post 6844732)

I dont even try it with my cats.

Originally Posted by Novocastrian (Post 6844773)

Given that I know where one of your cats originated, I think that's a good idea.

Originally Posted by Dave+Jules (Post 6844145)

It seems to me that you look at this with a black or white filter, you have no shades of gray. 8 or 9 spanks in early childhood is the same as beating them weekly for no other reason than to let them know who is in charge.