View Poll Results: If my wife got excessively overweight and wouldnt do anything about it I would
Divorce her!
7
17.50%
Stick by her
26
65.00%
Dunno, whats she like in the sack?
7
17.50%
Voters: 40. You may not vote on this poll
Anonymous Fat Wife Poll
Nov 27th 2007, 5:52 pm
#46
Kev and Lisa
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Re: Anonymous Fat Wife Poll
This is very true. I would venture to guess that most of these guys saying that they would stick by their wives aren't exactly desirable themselves.
If they left their overweight wives, they might not be able to attract another woman anyway. So, might as well stick with the wife and pretend that you are such a devoted husband.
If they left their overweight wives, they might not be able to attract another woman anyway. So, might as well stick with the wife and pretend that you are such a devoted husband.
s me to bits. No FETISH (with a fat bird) Just 100% devotion. Everyone is entitled to their opinion! 
Here's a thought for you, If you dont want your wife to weight gain, dont get her pregnant!
I do have to ask what would you do if your wife had an illness that made her weight gain?! STILL leave? Hmmmm you seem like that kind of guy!
You should really get a picture of yourself so we can see what we are arguing with! Lisa
Nov 27th 2007, 5:57 pm
#47
Happy in NB
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Re: Anonymous Fat Wife Poll
PS
I still think you are a plonker
Nov 27th 2007, 5:59 pm
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Re: Anonymous Fat Wife Poll
I have him on my ignore list, and I still cant escape his bollocks cos people keep quoting him
Adrian... I'll explain this slowly and for the last time, because you are obviously 12, from a broken home, and dont really have the maturity to understand this...
The marriage vows dont really preclude divorce...sometimes relationships break down to the point that divorce is best for everyone. What the marriage vows do is emphasise that its not a trivial business, and that everyone should be in it for the long haul, that a relationship requires give and take, understanding and forgiveness, and that ideally it should be unconditional, at least as far as human beings are capable of that.
But people make mistakes, actions are taken that are seen as unforgivable otherwise divorce would not be an option...it just should not be the first option.
This poll was not about divorce in general, but about the idea you should seek a divorce in an otherwise healthy relationship simply because of a change in appearance, but you lost that argument and are trying to twist it into something its not.
Now be a good boy and turn off the computer and go and tidy your room, or help your mum with the dishes or something
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Nov 27th 2007, 5:59 pm
#49
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Re: Anonymous Fat Wife Poll
Adrian - you talk complete & utter bollocks & thankfully men like you are in the minority.
Have you got children? I hope not for their sake, i'd really feel for them growing up with your influences.
Have you got children? I hope not for their sake, i'd really feel for them growing up with your influences.
Nov 27th 2007, 6:23 pm
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Re: Anonymous Fat Wife Poll
Well for those that think wedding vows are scared should look at the stats
Divorce rules out that all people take them too seriously add in the accepted percentage of married couples that are involved in adulterous relationships at some time in their marriage then we can basically take it that the majority do not consider them cast in stone or even for the long term, just another ritual they undertake at teh church.
So if were consider that wedding vows are a valid piont for remaining with someone then that rational is really misguided in todays soceity or today's soceitie's perceptions?
If we consider that two people stay with each other because they make and become a team, then I’ll back you 100%
But in Adrian’s case if we look at this and say that one party has opted out of the team game and decided that they no longer want to be part of a team and they’re getting fat regardless of the others thoughts and input.
Would it be fair to say this has now become a one sided relationship and no longer a supported supportive environment
I for one will not continue in a relationship where To quote Iaink “The mother of your children is letting herself go and [b]wont do anything to lose the weight[b] she’s put on.”
I consider the fact that this person is no longer taking their part in the team seriously and if she’s getting excessively fat and is doing nothing (won’t do anything) about it is in effect giving up on taking a fair role in what it takes to be part of the team and in the process of setting a bad example to the children, and no doubt its highly likely that she’ll share these bad diet lifestyles with the children and more than likely they’ll end up obese in the presence of this person
If my cries to do something go ignored for long enough, apart from the risk of straying with somebody who is prepared to take care of themselves I’ll be considering divorce and taking the kids, I love my wife, but I also have to consider I’m responsible for my kids health and their future life too
Why are we letting people off the second biggest killer out there, obesity is the root cause of type 2 diabetes now being seen in kids, its directly linked to heart disease, recent studies indicate its is also directly linked to cancer
And it’s the easiest problem to solve with a sensible diet and exercise,
FFS….. People who choose to get fat, deserve what they get
Like I say I lump them in with smokers and drug abusers and I struggle with the idea that somehow society should make an exception for fat people when they are such a burden on heath care and resources (they stuffed the carlories down their neck, nobody else)
Why should we be nice to fat people? when it’s so acceptable to treat smokers like lepers!
both set bad examples to youngsters, both cost us an excessive amount in taxes related to heath care…
Some peer pressure might just make these fatties sit up take up some exercise and become part of society rather than sitting one their ever fattening arses stuffing their faces with junk food whist waiting for their next health problem
For what its worth I have two kids now and a wife that enjoys working out in the gym, because she enjoys a healthly lifestyle and enjoys looking good, not for me but her!
And I think its clear I have a low tolerance for people who need excuses as to why they can't /won't look after themselves !
Divorce rules out that all people take them too seriously add in the accepted percentage of married couples that are involved in adulterous relationships at some time in their marriage then we can basically take it that the majority do not consider them cast in stone or even for the long term, just another ritual they undertake at teh church.
So if were consider that wedding vows are a valid piont for remaining with someone then that rational is really misguided in todays soceity or today's soceitie's perceptions?
If we consider that two people stay with each other because they make and become a team, then I’ll back you 100%
But in Adrian’s case if we look at this and say that one party has opted out of the team game and decided that they no longer want to be part of a team and they’re getting fat regardless of the others thoughts and input.
Would it be fair to say this has now become a one sided relationship and no longer a supported supportive environment
I for one will not continue in a relationship where To quote Iaink “The mother of your children is letting herself go and [b]wont do anything to lose the weight[b] she’s put on.”
I consider the fact that this person is no longer taking their part in the team seriously and if she’s getting excessively fat and is doing nothing (won’t do anything) about it is in effect giving up on taking a fair role in what it takes to be part of the team and in the process of setting a bad example to the children, and no doubt its highly likely that she’ll share these bad diet lifestyles with the children and more than likely they’ll end up obese in the presence of this person
If my cries to do something go ignored for long enough, apart from the risk of straying with somebody who is prepared to take care of themselves I’ll be considering divorce and taking the kids, I love my wife, but I also have to consider I’m responsible for my kids health and their future life too
Why are we letting people off the second biggest killer out there, obesity is the root cause of type 2 diabetes now being seen in kids, its directly linked to heart disease, recent studies indicate its is also directly linked to cancer
And it’s the easiest problem to solve with a sensible diet and exercise,
FFS….. People who choose to get fat, deserve what they get
Like I say I lump them in with smokers and drug abusers and I struggle with the idea that somehow society should make an exception for fat people when they are such a burden on heath care and resources (they stuffed the carlories down their neck, nobody else)
Why should we be nice to fat people? when it’s so acceptable to treat smokers like lepers!
both set bad examples to youngsters, both cost us an excessive amount in taxes related to heath care…
Some peer pressure might just make these fatties sit up take up some exercise and become part of society rather than sitting one their ever fattening arses stuffing their faces with junk food whist waiting for their next health problem
For what its worth I have two kids now and a wife that enjoys working out in the gym, because she enjoys a healthly lifestyle and enjoys looking good, not for me but her!
And I think its clear I have a low tolerance for people who need excuses as to why they can't /won't look after themselves !
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Nov 27th 2007, 6:30 pm
#51
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Re: Anonymous Fat Wife Poll
Well for those that think wedding vow are scared should look at the stats
Divorce rules out that all people take them too seriously add in the accepted percentage of married couples that are involved in adulterous relationships at some time in their marriage then we can basically take it that the majority do not consider them cast in stone
So if were consider that wedding vows are a valid pint for remaining with someone then that rational is really misguided
If we consider that two people stay with each other because they make and become a team, then I’ll back you 100%
But in Adrian’s case if we look at this and say that one party has opted out of the team game and decided that they no longer want to be part of a team and they’re getting fat regardless of the others thoughts and input.
Would it be fair to say this has now become a one sided relationship and no longer a supported supportive environment
I for one will not continue in a relationship where To quote Iaink “The mother of your children is letting herself go and [b]wont do anything to lose the weight[b] she’s put on.”
I consider the fact that this person is no longer taking their part in the team seriously and if she’s getting excessively fat and is doing nothing (won’t do anything) about it is in effect giving up on taking a fair role in what it takes to be part of the team and in the process of setting a bad example to the children, and no doubt its highly likely that she’ll share these bad diet lifestyles with the children and more than likely they’ll end up obese in the presence of this person
If my cries to do something go ignored for long enough, apart from the risk of straying with somebody who is prepared to take care of themselves I’ll be considering divorce and taking the kids, I love my wife, but I also have to consider I’m responsible for my kids health and their future life too
Why are we letting people of the second biggest killer out there, obesity is the root cause of type 2 diabetes now being seen in kids, its directly linked to heart disease, recent studies indicate its is also directly linked to cancer
And it’s the easiest problem to solve with a sensible diet and exercise,
FFS….. People who choose to get fat, deserve what they get
Like I say I lump them in with smokers and drug abusers and I struggle with the idea that somehow society should make and exceptions for fat people when they are such a burden on heath care and resources
Why should we be nice to fat people when it’s so acceptable to treat smokers like lepers, both set bad examples to youngsters, both cost us an excessive amount in taxes related to heath care…
Some peer pressure might just make these fatties sit up take up some exercise and become part of society rather than sitting one their ever fattening arses stuffing their faces with junk food whist waiting for their next health problem
For what its worth I have two kids now and a wife that enjoys working out in the gym, because she enjoys a healthly lifestyle and enjoys looking good, not for me but her!
Divorce rules out that all people take them too seriously add in the accepted percentage of married couples that are involved in adulterous relationships at some time in their marriage then we can basically take it that the majority do not consider them cast in stone
So if were consider that wedding vows are a valid pint for remaining with someone then that rational is really misguided
If we consider that two people stay with each other because they make and become a team, then I’ll back you 100%
But in Adrian’s case if we look at this and say that one party has opted out of the team game and decided that they no longer want to be part of a team and they’re getting fat regardless of the others thoughts and input.
Would it be fair to say this has now become a one sided relationship and no longer a supported supportive environment
I for one will not continue in a relationship where To quote Iaink “The mother of your children is letting herself go and [b]wont do anything to lose the weight[b] she’s put on.”
I consider the fact that this person is no longer taking their part in the team seriously and if she’s getting excessively fat and is doing nothing (won’t do anything) about it is in effect giving up on taking a fair role in what it takes to be part of the team and in the process of setting a bad example to the children, and no doubt its highly likely that she’ll share these bad diet lifestyles with the children and more than likely they’ll end up obese in the presence of this person
If my cries to do something go ignored for long enough, apart from the risk of straying with somebody who is prepared to take care of themselves I’ll be considering divorce and taking the kids, I love my wife, but I also have to consider I’m responsible for my kids health and their future life too
Why are we letting people of the second biggest killer out there, obesity is the root cause of type 2 diabetes now being seen in kids, its directly linked to heart disease, recent studies indicate its is also directly linked to cancer
And it’s the easiest problem to solve with a sensible diet and exercise,
FFS….. People who choose to get fat, deserve what they get
Like I say I lump them in with smokers and drug abusers and I struggle with the idea that somehow society should make and exceptions for fat people when they are such a burden on heath care and resources
Why should we be nice to fat people when it’s so acceptable to treat smokers like lepers, both set bad examples to youngsters, both cost us an excessive amount in taxes related to heath care…
Some peer pressure might just make these fatties sit up take up some exercise and become part of society rather than sitting one their ever fattening arses stuffing their faces with junk food whist waiting for their next health problem
For what its worth I have two kids now and a wife that enjoys working out in the gym, because she enjoys a healthly lifestyle and enjoys looking good, not for me but her!
I generally like women who keep thin by smoking and taking drugs.
I wonder if there are statistics for men commiting adultery with women who are bigger than their partners. I don't suppose it's common. It certainly upset my wife "older than me ok, uglier than me I can live with, but she's nearly a kilo (2 and a bit pounds) heavier than me, you shit!!".
Nov 27th 2007, 6:36 pm
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Re: Anonymous Fat Wife Poll
As long as people stop to think about the vows they took long enough not to make some sort of snap knee-jerk decision, then they are doing their job. Do most people still get married in church? I figure civil services must be getting up there by now, but what do I know...we were married by Elvis...or at least a close approximation.
By the time you run around after two little kids and feed them and bathe them and get them in bed and do all the chores I think Smoking and Drugs are probably the only practical way a regular mom has of loosing weight, at least until the kids are old enough to free up at least a little bit of "me time".
I never understood the health care expense argument.
People gotta die. Cheaper for them to die quickly of disease than to live on indefinitely into senility.
Does it really cost more to treat cancer or heart disease and have people die in their 70s than it would cost society for people to outlive their brains and end up in a nursing home with Alzheimer's for the last 20 years of their life. Sure they live into their 90s and later, but at what cost to society?
I'll take my chances with some timbits and heart attack in my 60s or 70s rather than live to be 100 and be a drooling burden on my family for the last 20 years of my life?
By the time you run around after two little kids and feed them and bathe them and get them in bed and do all the chores I think Smoking and Drugs are probably the only practical way a regular mom has of loosing weight, at least until the kids are old enough to free up at least a little bit of "me time".
I never understood the health care expense argument.
People gotta die. Cheaper for them to die quickly of disease than to live on indefinitely into senility.
Does it really cost more to treat cancer or heart disease and have people die in their 70s than it would cost society for people to outlive their brains and end up in a nursing home with Alzheimer's for the last 20 years of their life. Sure they live into their 90s and later, but at what cost to society?
I'll take my chances with some timbits and heart attack in my 60s or 70s rather than live to be 100 and be a drooling burden on my family for the last 20 years of my life?
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Nov 27th 2007, 6:40 pm
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Re: Anonymous Fat Wife Poll
So by that token we should be encouraging more people to drink heavily, smoke and take drugs? Beautiful corpse? Interesting idea. Do you have a pamphlet?
Nov 27th 2007, 6:50 pm
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Re: Anonymous Fat Wife Poll
Perhaps some therapy might help you with that.
You're living in an industrialized nation in the 21st century. There will be people you can not tolerate around you. And likely more and more as time goes on. Learn to cope or the stress of being in public might do you in.
Nov 27th 2007, 6:55 pm
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Re: Anonymous Fat Wife Poll
Nov 27th 2007, 7:37 pm
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Re: Anonymous Fat Wife Poll
As long as people stop to think about the vows they took long enough not to make some sort of snap knee-jerk decision, then they are doing their job. Do most people still get married in church? I figure civil services must be getting up there by now, but what do I know...we were married by Elvis...or at least a close approximation.
By the time you run around after two little kids and feed them and bathe them and get them in bed and do all the chores I think Smoking and Drugs are probably the only practical way a regular mom has of loosing weight, at least until the kids are old enough to free up at least a little bit of "me time".
I never understood the health care expense argument.
People gotta die. Cheaper for them to die quickly of disease than to live on indefinitely into senility.
Does it really cost more to treat cancer or heart disease and have people die in their 70s than it would cost society for people to outlive their brains and end up in a nursing home with Alzheimer's for the last 20 years of their life. Sure they live into their 90s and later, but at what cost to society?
I'll take my chances with some timbits and heart attack in my 60s or 70s rather than live to be 100 and be a drooling burden on my family for the last 20 years of my life?
By the time you run around after two little kids and feed them and bathe them and get them in bed and do all the chores I think Smoking and Drugs are probably the only practical way a regular mom has of loosing weight, at least until the kids are old enough to free up at least a little bit of "me time".
I never understood the health care expense argument.
People gotta die. Cheaper for them to die quickly of disease than to live on indefinitely into senility.
Does it really cost more to treat cancer or heart disease and have people die in their 70s than it would cost society for people to outlive their brains and end up in a nursing home with Alzheimer's for the last 20 years of their life. Sure they live into their 90s and later, but at what cost to society?
I'll take my chances with some timbits and heart attack in my 60s or 70s rather than live to be 100 and be a drooling burden on my family for the last 20 years of my life?
Well said Iain.... I have to agree with everything you've written here on this thread.
And just to add my two pennies worth - yes my wife has put on weight, is it significant? hell no in fact I love her more for it because I see two beautiful children everyday that she nurtured for 9 months a piece. I had a full head of hair when we met, now I don't. I'm sure she looks at me sometimes and wonders what if..... Underneath we are the same people, love the same things, enjoy each others company. Yes we've had problems - me dragging her halfway around the world was a big issue. We have got over it - Divorce for some people is too easy. They shouldn't have taken the plunge in the first place!
Anyway, I'm off to enjoy my coffee and goodies this afternoon and look forward to the couple of glasses of wine this evening......
Cheers
Dobbie
Nov 27th 2007, 8:15 pm
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Re: Anonymous Fat Wife Poll
By the time you run around after two little kids and feed them and bathe them and get them in bed and do all the chores I think Smoking and Drugs are probably the only practical way a regular mom has of loosing weight, at least until the kids are old enough to free up at least a little bit of "me time".
They provide plenty of exercise, the little lad can do at least 3kms, and if I want to hike more I do the rest of the Km's with an extra 35lbs on my back, try doing your regular cycle ride but with a passenger ( a passenger that wants to go faster)
I’ve never seen havinh children as a reason to eat badly, more so keeping every thing going and running around after two kid’s means that eating sensibly has become more important.
Did my wife put on weight? Yes on the first kid and it had all gone after 16mnths, same with the second and again the weights coming off, slightly faster now we're chasing two instead on one…
Nov 27th 2007, 8:24 pm
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Happy in NB
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Re: Anonymous Fat Wife Poll
As long as people stop to think about the vows they took long enough not to make some sort of snap knee-jerk decision, then they are doing their job. Do most people still get married in church? I figure civil services must be getting up there by now, but what do I know...we were married by Elvis...or at least a close approximation.
By the time you run around after two little kids and feed them and bathe them and get them in bed and do all the chores I think Smoking and Drugs are probably the only practical way a regular mom has of loosing weight, at least until the kids are old enough to free up at least a little bit of "me time".
I never understood the health care expense argument.
People gotta die. Cheaper for them to die quickly of disease than to live on indefinitely into senility.
Does it really cost more to treat cancer or heart disease and have people die in their 70s than it would cost society for people to outlive their brains and end up in a nursing home with Alzheimer's for the last 20 years of their life. Sure they live into their 90s and later, but at what cost to society?
I'll take my chances with some timbits and heart attack in my 60s or 70s rather than live to be 100 and be a drooling burden on my family for the last 20 years of my life?
By the time you run around after two little kids and feed them and bathe them and get them in bed and do all the chores I think Smoking and Drugs are probably the only practical way a regular mom has of loosing weight, at least until the kids are old enough to free up at least a little bit of "me time".
I never understood the health care expense argument.
People gotta die. Cheaper for them to die quickly of disease than to live on indefinitely into senility.
Does it really cost more to treat cancer or heart disease and have people die in their 70s than it would cost society for people to outlive their brains and end up in a nursing home with Alzheimer's for the last 20 years of their life. Sure they live into their 90s and later, but at what cost to society?
I'll take my chances with some timbits and heart attack in my 60s or 70s rather than live to be 100 and be a drooling burden on my family for the last 20 years of my life?
infact according to my 17 year old daughter I am already there.
Nov 27th 2007, 8:26 pm
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Re: Anonymous Fat Wife Poll
Does it really cost more to treat cancer or heart disease and have people die in their 70s than it would cost society for people to outlive their brains and end up in a nursing home with Alzheimer's for the last 20 years of their life. Sure they live into their 90s and later, but at what cost to society?
I'll take my chances with some timbits and heart attack in my 60s or 70s rather than live to be 100 and be a drooling burden on my family for the last 20 years of my life?
I'll take my chances with some timbits and heart attack in my 60s or 70s rather than live to be 100 and be a drooling burden on my family for the last 20 years of my life?
I would say that was through regular exercise and healthy living
So I would say about 49 years paying tax, 24 good years on a pension and 3 years pulling on the health system
