sound words x x

Thanks Natty.

Must be me Accy 'roots' eh

sure is!! lol! x x

Ditto for me! I did BUNAC for a year after Uni and when I went back to England at the end of the year my long term 5 year relationship ended. My dream of emigrating to Canada never died though and I'm now here as a PR, single, independent and with absolutely no regrets.

I couldn't agree more - I did change plans for another boyfriend at one point and stayed in England rather than going work abroad. The relationship failed and I never forgave him or myself for the fact that I compromised what I wanted to do for him.

You have lots of time, take it step by step and see how it goes. BUNAC for a year after Uni would be a great idea - make your mind up that you'll do it and then when it comes to the time see whether he decides to join you. If not then he probably wasn't serious about the relationship anyway. Focus on enjoying your life and que sera, sera!

Good luck :-)

Thanks again guys - I've never been to Canada but I'm hoping it's the kind of place that if I manage to get him to visit, he won't want to go home either. By the sound of it, if he won't give it a shot it's not destined to work, so will just wait and see how things go in the meantime.

If it doesn't work out, you better all be there to console me with a beer in 4 years time

Wouldnt you prefer some shots?

Totally agree re doing BUNAC 12 month working holiday visa.

See it as an adventure for a year ...you can keep your options open...with or without him! That's what we did initially. It's not as scary or as big as EMIGRATING. You can see if Canada's right for you (both?) and if not, you've not lost anything. If it is then you can work out how you can stay.

Everybody wins!

(Just don't go having any babies in the meantime. You can't include sprogs on a BUNAC visa. )

I hope this was tongue in cheek. If not, my crystal ball thinks your current boyfriend will not be the big priority after you graduate. Once you've sorted custody of the dog the world will be your oyster

On a more serious note, BUNAC is great way to get you some experience of Canada.

so if you had to move 200 miles to another uni to complete your training would that be too far for him to visit his family? its a few hours on a plane, they have the internet there. i will horribly miss my family cos here i see my mum every ay, but she is not getting any younger and neither are we, we need to live our lives and we want better for our kids than a government that told our aunt as she lost her house recovering from massive cancer surgery that she would have a better chance at a council house if she was pregnant or foreign.

if you want to go then go, try it. if he comes with then cool. if not then either he means more to you than canada does or the other way round.

BUNAC is a great idea, im just concerned you are thinking about canada when you have already said you have never been there and already have itchy feet from travelling. get a taster of canada before you decide. you never know you might talk him into it and then want to move on in 6 months cos its not for you.
lot to think about, and i dont envy you.

I agree with all the above posts. I have wanted to live in Canada for ten years or more and for various relationship and family reasons, I kept putting my dreams on hold.

I am now single and happy again and have decided not to put my dreams on hold any longer no matter what!! I have applied for PR and waiting to hear about this. I am also very close to my family, but have decided i cannot live my life for them, as i am not getting any younger Lol.

You are still very young and I think you need to follow your dreams, not his. If he is the right person he will support you and have to decide what is more important to him....

Give it a go, you only get one chance in life, take it.....

Emmjay

Deepfriendbrain.....
welcome to my dilema!
i have been with my partner for over 5 years.
emigrating was something which i have wanted to do for years, for the same reasons as yourself! i cant imagine bringing kids up in this country, i hate the attitude of people here, i dont like the way the country is going down the pan!
my other half was coming, then she wasnt, then she was, and now i dont think she will!
however, its my aim to go.
if i stayed here, i would end up resenting her if things didnt work out.
5 years isa long time for a relationship, but im on 24, and im sure there are other fish in the sea!

sounds like you have made your mind up that you are going on your own already reading this..... like you are detaching yourself already from her!

i agree with not bringing kids up in england, i have two friends here with small kids and two friends in canada with kids, and i can tell already who is having the best start in life.......the kids in canada!

I can't agree with you. I have grown up children from my first marriage whom I consider to have had a much more enjoyable childhood in England than the one I feel able to offer my young children from my second marriage here in Canada.

That's not to say that children in Canada don't have a great childhood but it depends entirely on the individual circumstances and nothing to do whether they are in Canada or the UK.

Five years is a long time for a relationship? My! Aren't you a keeper?

Maybe shes thinking the same thing about you. Dunno why people get it into their heads that if they want to move to another country that it's their partner that is the negative one pulling them down. Moving to a new country is big and as someone who is inclined to move back to England but is married to a Canadian that is somewhat reluctant to move back I know that she's the only woman for me and I'll stay here for the rest of my life if need be.

I can't relate to anyone thinking that they are still in a relationship if they think that there are other fish in the sea.

Hi Amy ,
I have been in Canada for nearly a year now and moved here with my husbands job.I was the reluctant partner as I didnt want to leave all my family behind and found the first couple of months so hard but I was prepared to give it a go as you are only here once and there would always be the question What if ??? Nearly 12 months on I have no regrets and love it here ,I love the country and the people and my children love life here and would not go back to UK!! I went back to UK in March and my parents have just been over for 3 weeks and really enjoyed their time here and were pleased to see us all so happy. So follow your heart and your dreams !! Best of luck to you
Janine