Hi all

Just a quick question if anyone can give me thier opinion.

I have wanted to imigrate for as long as I can remember but the better half isnt as enthusatic as myself. Did any of you have the same problem.

Yes, my husband is Canadian, we spoke about moving to Canada couple of times but because he never got any information together I presumed he was settled here. I mean being married 15 years, living here 15 years, had a good job, a decent home, 2 sons (12 & 14) and decent standard of living. Then he dropped the bombshell 2nd January he was moving back to Canada. Flew back first class 7th February.

On his own? Without you? Are you not following?

Yes, Barbara, you've got me wondering too! I'm not too dissimilar actually. We have been together for 17 years, but married ten years in Sept. My Canadian OH had been vehemently anti living in Canada for years, and had always put me off. Every time we visited he would say 'I couldn't fit back in here'. He had a complete volte-face this year, everything has changed. He really wants to go home suddenly, but I think it's also that he sees our ten year old son as having a better future there. I am now 'embracing' the idea of Canada, in every way! I can make our move there happy, I can make the difference between it going well or badly, and am going to do my very best to make it a success, or expire from trying.

To the OP - some people just 'don't' have a wanderlust - they just like where they live and nothing will ever shift them. I have an almost physical need to change our life every ten years or so, but I have friends who would think a move of a couple of hundred miles to be adventure of the unimaginable kind, and I don't know if I'm dismissive or envious!

Have either of you been over for a visit? If not, perhaps suggest to her you come over for a visit so she can see for herself what it's all about. When we first came for a visit, I was a little unsure about it all but, by the end of the two weeks we were here, I'd completely fallen for it!

I think something as major as this needs you both to want it, especially if the other person is completely happy with their current life.

Yes Dotty without us Wasn't prepared to wait and take us with him.

I'm very sorry to hear that and hope your lives are working out for you back here.....

Barbara, as your husband left in February, and you joined this site in March, is it because you are now thinking about going to join him later? I am now resolved about going to Canada, but I can't for a moment pretend that it is with the utter Mary Poppins like enthusiasm that I sometimes try to persuade myself that I feel - there are days when I am scared stiff! I do also think that specifically for my family this move makes sense, but it wouldn't for eveyone. Please do tell me to bog off and mind my own business too, as I really don't seek to pry into your personal details, other than in the broadest of senses.

I was thinking about joining him, with our 2 boys, however, I wanted him to come back and do the journey together, forms, selling up and the emotional side to it. He has a job now there not earning a great deal I may add, and has refused to come back. This is such a big emotional step for all of us. Time to move on with my life and my sons.

Barbara that sounds bloody horrid. I have PM'd you.

I've no wish to sound nasty here, but it does sound a teensy bit like he's left you.

This is confirmed in another of the OP's posts on another thread.