The4BellsLondon

I love how this thread had just died a death ... Bit like trying to make friends in Van.. You just give up after a while

scrubbedexpat091

That is the biggest downside for me and not living in California anymore, missing out on things.

3 of my nieces have not even met me, and some are almost out of high school, and were 7 when I left.

Missed 2 funerals for grandparents. Sisters wedding. Step Brothers wedding.

I know my parents are getting older, and I may very well regret moving away when they do pass. They don't see that old, late 50's but my mom had cancer 10 years ago, and has health issues again, and my dad is only 5 years away from the age my grandfather was when he died.

If I had to do it over again, I'd have not moved, I think being away family in the end isn't worth it, but hindsight is always 20/20.

SchnookoLoly

It's not exactly encouraging when someone comes in trying to set something up and then someone else just rains all over the parade.

I suggested trying to organise a meetup and literally got laughed at. Maybe things would be more lively if even 3-4 people took the attitude of "hey, that could be fun, let's try it."

There's a Toronto meetup on Friday with 16 people confirmed. It's not a ton but it's something.

The4BellsLondon

Maybe if you lived here and understood the dynamics of the area you would realise why we laughed.

As previously stated various people have tried.

Friendships happen, eventually BUT it's not quick or easy (usually).

scrubbedexpat091

I met more people in my 4 months in Ontario, 7 months in Alberta then I have in almost a decade in BC (Vancouver, Chilliwack, Mission, Abbotsford, Squamish) the BC crowd can be hard to break into to form friendships.

I never felt like I fit in anywhere in Vancouver, and now the 2 main activities where I am seem to be outdoor sports (not my thing) and kids (don't have any) or something related to those 2 things. My GF was born and raised in this town and even she has issues making friends because we don't fit into the main groups of what people enjoy doing.

Weird province BC can be at times.

burks

Just at times?

I would be more open to a meet up in Vancouver if I lived closer. But I don't understand why people in Van are so against it.. yes BC folk like their closed circles and such.. but it's a meet up with other Brits! We're supposed to be a social bunch.

I have seen that there is a group arranging England viewing parties at half a dozen or so pubs throughout the Lower Mainland.. They seem to be pretty popular!

The4BellsLondon

The England House...They all sold out really quick ! I didn't fancy hanging with a load of polyester clad geezers

Oink

Last time I went to a bar to watch an England game I very nearly got into a punch up (old skool) with a really drunk Scotch bloke.

prosky83

Why do you think that is then? cant be just cos your not interested in them 2 things makes sense now read a couple of people say that about BC mainly Vancouver tho

The4BellsLondon

Eh?

prosky83

I dunno, theres a real good question in there somewhere haha