im confused are you a man or a women and are you talking about your self? Because there are so many contradictions in here its painful

I am a Barrister and Solicitor in Alberta and a solicitor (non-practising) in England and Wales

In the same way that you get paid for doing your job? Is that "winning"?

Divorce lawyers - I'm sure there are some that actually try and help people but unfortunately I have never meet one nor have I meet anyone that has anything good to about them.

There is a difference in doing your job and creating conflict by giving advice on how money your entitled to get from your ex. But it may take awhile then drag things out, create lots of paperwork and generate fees.

My experience and from I've been told by others that go through a divorce is that as soon as lawyers are involved you will just bleed money.

So if you are a divorce lawyer hopefully you fall into the category that no one I know has ever experienced. Otherwise, good luck with your profession.

Makes sense to me. 'He' is the posters partner 'she' is is his ex 'they' are 'he' and 'she'.

I am a divorce lawyer. As I am sure you are aware, my duty is to give the best advice I can to my client. Once I have done that, it is up to them to instruct me to take the action they wish me to take. I am not responsible for their decision, they are. I will inform them of the cost of the options available to them when I provide the advice.

I have previously provided anecdotes on this board about how, when in England, I acted for a spouse that spent huge amounts of money arguing over a parrot.

I am now able to inform those that wish to listen about how a client of mine spent in excess of $10,000 arguing over a cat. The cat had walked into the client's property as a stray. My client put up "found" posters informing her neighbours that they had found a cat. No one replied, so the cat remained with the family. Fast forward a few years and they decide to divorce. Neither of them wished to give up the cat, so the Court had to make a decision.

I suspect that that client now bad mouths me to anyone that will listen about how the lawyer bled money from the client. I have a different position: I told the client how much the application would cost and I was instructed to pursue the application. The cost incurred was as a result of the argument between the parties and the decision the client made. Personally, I did not care which party retained possession of the cat.

Most divorce cases are very similar to the above. It is the parties that are responsible for the costs incurred. I appreciate that one party may wish to be more aggressive than the other but each party can decide whether they wish to oppose the other party's position or to accept it.

As I am sure you are aware, lawyers are duty bound to carry out their client's instructions, unless to do so is illegal or would require the lawyer to act in an unethical fashion. If the client insists that the lawyer perform such activities, the lawyer should withdraw from the matter.

I accept that there are unethical lawyers, just as unethical people can be found in all occupations.

Well, you would think that, had you never had to call upon the services of a forensic accountant.

That's right

It seems OK.

The OP (chrissyb) is female, she's talking about her male partner and the run around his female ex (don't ask, but we are in the 21st century) is giving them.
Viewed from that perspective it makes sense... to me at least.

Hey.

I'm so confused now, can she get an attachment of earnings put on me?
I live here in Canada she lived in the uk.

We both signed the seperation agreement we agreed on 65%, split 50% was the house the other 15% was a lump sum payment for child maintenance plus 1000 a year extra. And I paid for there flights back and the dog plus cash to re-settle.
Not bad I think for her!! The house sold for 40k under the market value. ..

And she still wants more.
I asked her as we've been seperated for two years will you sign the divorce paper she said no!! I want more money,
Now I just don't have the money, she asked me if I wanted a divorce so I could re-marry. I said no, I just want it dotted for the sake of our daughter.

What can I do?

Thanks.

Leave her to stew until she wants to remarry. If you don't need to be divorced then leave her be, she's enjoying winding you up.

I'm not sure your daughter will be overly affected if you are married (on paper) or not, as she must already realise you are separated.

I'm inclined to agree with bats on the 'let her stew' thing. I'd also stop contacting her unless it is related to the welfare of your daughter. That is of course unless you have another agenda and wish to remarry in Canada?
I'd also not give her another penny, over and above what you have already agreed to, unless forced to do so legally.

Not sure how old your daughter is, but surely your wife can work can't she? You have a life to lead also. I say get on with your life and start to make her realise that you will not be her meal ticket forever. She will try and hang your daughter over your head as leverage. Women can do that. My ex tried it with my sons and was putting her personal need for revenge before the welfare of my sons.

^^^ This. Soundest advice so far on this thread.

Or, to put that another way, she can reasonably ask that, since you created the child, you support it until the end of full time education.

That sounds like the best thing to do.
Is it right that I can get a divorce after 5 years without her signing the divorce papers?? If so I only have to wait 3 more years.

The reason I want it is so I can propose next year to my Girlfriend.
But I guess I can still get engaged? Not sure ?

...and give her the house, most of your salary and support the ex wife also until the child leaves full time eduction.. yeah sure... why not roll over take it from the rear as well!

It's not all about the wife and children's rights!

Of course she can reasonably ask but I have yet to see that happen. Most divorces I am aware of end up anything but reasonable.

I agree that child support is one path that can be taken. A clean break is anther path. In my case the judge saw the clean break as the way forward.
She got the house, the business and the two boys. I came away with the clothes I was wearing. Before the ink was dry on the court order she sold the house, sold the business and promptly re-married to an undeclared (in court) partner who was minted!