How do you handle upset parents?
Sep 12th 2013, 1:33 pm
#61
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Location: Calgary, AB
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Re: How do you handle upset parents?
You are quite correct.... if you all feel that this is what you want to do then you have to go for it.....Who wants to die with the 'what if" as as tomb stone.. not many get the opportunity to follow their dreams ... and not many have the strength to do it.... and if it turns out that the dream you had doesn't hold the rainbow you were seeking, then you can just give up and go back... However if you have such a strong desire to seek 'the adventure' to live in a country that is BIG, DIVERSE, OPPORTUNIST and BREATHTAKINGLY BEAUTIFUL...and in my opinion the best of the UK and the best of the USA all in one, then like me, you'll be here 23 years from now...
Stay strong and go with your heart... it's hard work, not always easy, but the rewards are there for you to enjoy. No rain .. no rainbows...
I apologize anyone I suspect I may offend right now... but I think those that make the most of any move to a new country are those that don't expect a 'hand out' and move with a desire to integrate... I think you work harder here, but you also reap the rewards of your hard work... neither of which I remember being part of my life in the UK. Are there things in the UK I miss... OH absolutely... could I live there again ... OH absolutely ... but only if I was rich and had a lot of choice of where I ended up.. I've got very used to the 'space' I have here.
If you want to make it work ... it will... good luck with your endeavours
Stay strong and go with your heart... it's hard work, not always easy, but the rewards are there for you to enjoy. No rain .. no rainbows...
I apologize anyone I suspect I may offend right now... but I think those that make the most of any move to a new country are those that don't expect a 'hand out' and move with a desire to integrate... I think you work harder here, but you also reap the rewards of your hard work... neither of which I remember being part of my life in the UK. Are there things in the UK I miss... OH absolutely... could I live there again ... OH absolutely ... but only if I was rich and had a lot of choice of where I ended up.. I've got very used to the 'space' I have here.
If you want to make it work ... it will... good luck with your endeavours
Sep 14th 2013, 9:50 am
#62
Feeling the love!....
Joined: Sep 2010
Location: Bowmanville ON, after 3yrs of finally getting PR (Nov15)
Posts: 31
Re: How do you handle upset parents?
Apologies for coming into this discussion quite late but the title is something that my family & I will need to face sooner or later now that we're at the final stages of our application....Fortunately my real mum (both parents have remarried) has been aware of our intentions to emigrate for 3yrs now but none of the remaining or extended family are aware. This has been a longtime coming but something that my husband & I have to face together & can only hope that the people who really care about us will be fully supportive of our life choices.
Hopefully our announcement (once we finally have PR) will be something they saw coming....as to live with the regret of not going is not an option!
Hopefully our announcement (once we finally have PR) will be something they saw coming....as to live with the regret of not going is not an option!
Sep 14th 2013, 11:17 am
#63
Going back....
Joined: Jan 2005
Posts: 192
Re: How do you handle upset parents?
Try upsetting them when you leave, have them follow you over and then have to upset them again when you decide to go back 
Sep 14th 2013, 11:37 am
#64
Feeling the love!....
Joined: Sep 2010
Location: Bowmanville ON, after 3yrs of finally getting PR (Nov15)
Posts: 31
Re: How do you handle upset parents?
Oh no!! You poor thing, double wammie!
You poor thing, double wammie!
Sep 15th 2013, 5:32 am
#66
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Location: Calgary, Alberta
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Re: How do you handle upset parents?
In threads like this I have to say I do wonder at the comments about "you've got to do what is best for you" etc. because I wonder if you'll still have that POV when your kids emigrate... 
Everyone's circumstances are different, e.g. you might be an only child and be missed more than if you have ten siblings. Or your family might be awful. Or you might be a asshole and they'll be glad to see the back of you.
I know I have a relative who moved to Canada and everyone was glad to see the back of her because she's such an emotional wreck and her husband is a bit of a prick. Then they couldn't stand it and moved back and that was another part of their drama.
Can't generalize on this topic. It depends.
Everyone's circumstances are different, e.g. you might be an only child and be missed more than if you have ten siblings. Or your family might be awful. Or you might be a asshole and they'll be glad to see the back of you.
I know I have a relative who moved to Canada and everyone was glad to see the back of her because she's such an emotional wreck and her husband is a bit of a prick. Then they couldn't stand it and moved back and that was another part of their drama.
Can't generalize on this topic. It depends.
