Hard Making Friends?
Jan 7th 2016 | 7:11 am
#31
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Re: Hard Making Friends?
Reading this thread has gone some way to explaining one or two points that have been put to me since we've been here.
One comment made to me is that canadians on the whole don't like to say no. So when you ask 'come for coffee' you'll get a 'yes of course' but it probably won't happen. No offense intended, just the way it is.
Another is the apparent difference in sense of humour. This goes a long way to explain the brash and often offensive sarcasm, often bordering on insult, expressed by one poster to another on these forums. Letting off steam and overdosing on opportunity, and I choose to be charitable.
Liike many, I too am socially awkward. Learned long ago that social climbing in company was more hard work than it was worth, but fortunately employment in the engineering sector, where a man's worth is judged not by who he knows but by what he can achieve, has taught me how shallow some acquaintances can be. I doubt that this is very different here and accept it as such.
One comment made to me is that canadians on the whole don't like to say no. So when you ask 'come for coffee' you'll get a 'yes of course' but it probably won't happen. No offense intended, just the way it is.
Another is the apparent difference in sense of humour. This goes a long way to explain the brash and often offensive sarcasm, often bordering on insult, expressed by one poster to another on these forums. Letting off steam and overdosing on opportunity, and I choose to be charitable.
Liike many, I too am socially awkward. Learned long ago that social climbing in company was more hard work than it was worth, but fortunately employment in the engineering sector, where a man's worth is judged not by who he knows but by what he can achieve, has taught me how shallow some acquaintances can be. I doubt that this is very different here and accept it as such.
I am in the same boat and likely one of the biggest reasons other then education or lack of it as to why it's impossible to move up the social corporate ladder.
I never really figured out how to deal with the social aspect of company politics and connecting with others.
Suppose those with good social skills find it easy to move up, but those of us without those social skills struggle even if we do a better job and have better reviews, but largely forgotten because we lack the ability to properly play the game.
Jan 16th 2016 | 11:18 am
#33
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Re: Hard Making Friends?
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Jan 19th 2016 | 12:37 am
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Re: Hard Making Friends?
join the police force you ll make lots of friends
Jan 19th 2016 | 12:44 pm
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Re: Hard Making Friends?
Speaking of which, the Vancouver boat show is on this week. One could go a talk to vendors and exhibitors, there are lots of competitions for free sailing cruises/lessons that you could enter. I do recommend bringing a small flask of something, errm warming, if you go to the floating part of the show on GI. A ticket will cover both places plus there is a free shuttle between the two venues.
Last edited by Oink; Jan 19th 2016 at 12:47 pm.
