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scrubbedexpat091 Jan 7th 2016 7:11 am

Re: Hard Making Friends?
 

Originally Posted by dave_j (Post 11830316)
Reading this thread has gone some way to explaining one or two points that have been put to me since we've been here.
One comment made to me is that canadians on the whole don't like to say no. So when you ask 'come for coffee' you'll get a 'yes of course' but it probably won't happen. No offense intended, just the way it is.
Another is the apparent difference in sense of humour. This goes a long way to explain the brash and often offensive sarcasm, often bordering on insult, expressed by one poster to another on these forums. Letting off steam and overdosing on opportunity, and I choose to be charitable.
Liike many, I too am socially awkward. Learned long ago that social climbing in company was more hard work than it was worth, but fortunately employment in the engineering sector, where a man's worth is judged not by who he knows but by what he can achieve, has taught me how shallow some acquaintances can be. I doubt that this is very different here and accept it as such.


I am in the same boat and likely one of the biggest reasons other then education or lack of it as to why it's impossible to move up the social corporate ladder.

I never really figured out how to deal with the social aspect of company politics and connecting with others.

Suppose those with good social skills find it easy to move up, but those of us without those social skills struggle even if we do a better job and have better reviews, but largely forgotten because we lack the ability to properly play the game.

Parnell Jan 16th 2016 11:11 am

Re: Hard Making Friends?
 

Originally Posted by Oink (Post 11829925)
People suck, especially other people. :thumbdown:

That's why I can't work out why people spend huge amounts on big power boats for fishing?
I fish alone in a battered (self induced) tinny.
Fishing for me is solitude and self indulgence

Sailings different

Stinkypup Jan 16th 2016 11:18 am

Re: Hard Making Friends?
 

Originally Posted by Parnell (Post 11839807)
That's why I can't work out why people spend huge amounts on big power boats for fishing?
I fish alone in a battered (self induced) tinny.
Fishing for me is solitude and self indulgence

Sailings different

Boating with your other boat however is an entirely different matter:rofl:

Parnell Jan 16th 2016 11:33 am

Re: Hard Making Friends?
 

Originally Posted by Stinkypup (Post 11839815)
Boating however with your other boat however is an entirely different matter:rofl:

?
Sailings a hobby and inclusive of a team with minimal impact on environment so why not?

Aviator Jan 16th 2016 12:02 pm

Re: Hard Making Friends?
 

Originally Posted by Parnell (Post 11839807)
I fish alone in a battered tinny.

I thought one battered the fish, not the boat?

robinswh Jan 19th 2016 12:37 am

Re: Hard Making Friends?
 
join the police force you ll make lots of friends

getoutofbritainquick Jan 19th 2016 12:19 pm

Re: Hard Making Friends?
 

Originally Posted by Aviator (Post 11829893)
I do find two factors that helped me, being a miserable git and anti social. Puts one at a significant advantage.

...and say eh at the end of every sentence.

Oink Jan 19th 2016 12:44 pm

Re: Hard Making Friends?
 

Originally Posted by Parnell (Post 11839831)
?
Sailings a hobby and inclusive of a team with minimal impact on environment so why not?

And if you live in Vancouver, you can always volunteer to crew on racing days/evenings. Many boats don't mind if you're a beginner as long as you can listen and follow instructions quickly and competently. Would be a great way to meet new people if that's what you want to do as I'm sure a few of them might go out for a drink afterwards. ;)

Speaking of which, the Vancouver boat show is on this week. One could go a talk to vendors and exhibitors, there are lots of competitions for free sailing cruises/lessons that you could enter. I do recommend bringing a small flask of something, errm warming, if you go to the floating part of the show on GI. A ticket will cover both places plus there is a free shuttle between the two venues.


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