Are you invisible?
totally wrong of course!
Feb 16th 2010 | 10:07 pm
#19
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Re: Are you invisible?
Yup, I've experienced that. I fit the age and gender criteria (unfortunately). It's dependent on where I am but I'm definitely extremely invisible at work.
I'm currently contracting again (been there four months this time) in a mammoth open-plan office which is mainly staffed by people in their late twenties, early thirties. The people I actually deal with on a regular basis are OK but a lot of the others are downright rude. They never make eye-contact, they look away if they do happen to catch my eye and they wouldn't speak in a million years. And these are people who've seen me every day for four months
. And the women are much worse than the blokes.
And I never wear beige
. I'm one of the few people in the place who wears colours - most of the girls wear ghastly, dreary black outfits day in, day out..
I'm currently contracting again (been there four months this time) in a mammoth open-plan office which is mainly staffed by people in their late twenties, early thirties. The people I actually deal with on a regular basis are OK but a lot of the others are downright rude. They never make eye-contact, they look away if they do happen to catch my eye and they wouldn't speak in a million years. And these are people who've seen me every day for four months
. And the women are much worse than the blokes. And I never wear beige
. I'm one of the few people in the place who wears colours - most of the girls wear ghastly, dreary black outfits day in, day out..
Feb 16th 2010 | 10:12 pm
#20
Auntie Fa
Joined: Nov 2006
Posts: 7,344
From: Seattle
Re: Are you invisible?
I'm late forties so I guess I've got this to look forward to 
Or maybe it's happening now and I'm just blissfully unaware? Way too self-absorbed to realise.
After years of being a white face (or an ang moh kow - red haired monkey) in an asian country, I like being what's termed an "invisible expat" anyway.
Or maybe it's happening now and I'm just blissfully unaware? Way too self-absorbed to realise.
After years of being a white face (or an ang moh kow - red haired monkey) in an asian country, I like being what's termed an "invisible expat" anyway.
Feb 16th 2010 | 11:14 pm
#21
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Re: Are you invisible?
It's nothing to worry about. People under 35 don't know what they're talking about. So it's no big loss.
Feb 16th 2010 | 11:20 pm
#22
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Re: Are you invisible?
A mate who is about 50 tells me that you come invisible - people don't see you any more - at a certain age...(around middle age - he is very philosophical and positive about it).
He tells me that it can be particularly stressing for women.
Never thought about it! Anyone understand, or have first-hand experience of this or even commit the crime without realising?
He tells me that it can be particularly stressing for women.
Never thought about it! Anyone understand, or have first-hand experience of this or even commit the crime without realising?
Feb 17th 2010 | 12:16 am
#24
Lost in BE Cyberspace
Joined: May 2004
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From: Birkdale QLD
Re: Are you invisible?
A mate who is about 50 tells me that you come invisible - people don't see you any more - at a certain age...(around middle age - he is very philosophical and positive about it).
He tells me that it can be particularly stressing for women.
Never thought about it! Anyone understand, or have first-hand experience of this or even commit the crime without realising?
He tells me that it can be particularly stressing for women.
Never thought about it! Anyone understand, or have first-hand experience of this or even commit the crime without realising?
So get me that invisibility cloak now!
JTL
Feb 17th 2010 | 12:33 am
#25
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Posts: 23,400
Re: Are you invisible?
I dont feel invisible, Im nearly 43 but dont feel invisible - yet.
I get invited out by my work pals and am seen as 'one of the gang'. I think I sort of blend in really as although I dont stand out, I am not invisible but I know how to have a laugh and enjoy myself so perhaps people see that instead.
No matter how old I am, I will always try and take care of myself, get my hair done etc. But invisibility I suspect could pounce at any time at my age.
I get invited out by my work pals and am seen as 'one of the gang'. I think I sort of blend in really as although I dont stand out, I am not invisible but I know how to have a laugh and enjoy myself so perhaps people see that instead.
No matter how old I am, I will always try and take care of myself, get my hair done etc. But invisibility I suspect could pounce at any time at my age.
Feb 17th 2010 | 12:34 am
#26
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Re: Are you invisible?
I dont feel invisible, Im nearly 43 but dont feel invisible - yet.
I get invited out by my work pals and am seen as 'one of the gang'. I think I sort of blend in really as although I dont stand out, I am not invisible but I know how to have a laugh and enjoy myself so perhaps people see that instead.
No matter how old I am, I will always try and take care of myself, get my hair done etc. But invisibility I suspect could pounce at any time at my age.
I get invited out by my work pals and am seen as 'one of the gang'. I think I sort of blend in really as although I dont stand out, I am not invisible but I know how to have a laugh and enjoy myself so perhaps people see that instead.
No matter how old I am, I will always try and take care of myself, get my hair done etc. But invisibility I suspect could pounce at any time at my age.
Feb 17th 2010 | 1:41 am
#29
Joined: Jan 2006
Posts: 28,998
Re: Are you invisible?
Nope. I'm female, nearly 50 and am anything but invisible.
