'Are we doing the right thing???'
 

This is the question my OH has just asked me....yet again!!!! Anybody know the answer????!!!!!! :blink: C x

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Pass




We will never know till we try.

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Oh C is he getting cold feet :ohmy:

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Thats what i keep telling him too!!!! ;) C x

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No not cold feet......its just the unknown i think. C x

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;) tell him no worries, she'll be right :D as they say!!!!

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Yes. Or no. HTH ;)

There's no right or wrong thing to do. There's a process to go through and a new place to live. Whether you enjoy the ride or not, it's still an adventure. And the experience will be useful; one way or the other. Try not to worry about the outcome and put pressure on yourself - just go with the flow and know that whatever happens in future, you've got more courage and determination for trying than most people. That already sets you up for great success, however things turn out in Aus :)

(That sounds way more wanky than it's intended to be. :o)

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Go for it - life is too short

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would he be asking the same if you decided to stay :blink: once the seed is planted in our heads I think theres no turning back untill the ride is over,

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tell him you will always have doubts but if you said ok dont go what would he feel relief or upset? theres his answer

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Hes well impressed with reply!!!!! Thanks. :thumbsup:
BTW what does HTH mean??:confused: C x

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I don't necessarly agree with that. I think it takes a lot of courage to say that your dreams have changed and you're no longer the same person as the one who applied for the visa. There's nothing saying you have to act on the visa, just because you have it. There's been at least one person on BE (that I can think of right now) who's decided not to go after being granted their visa.

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He didn't ask us, as what you two do won't affect us!

Hope you find your answers, sit down and discuss it and see what the outcomes are ;)

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Hope that helps. :)

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Theres no way that he's not intending to go, think as its so close now this is a question he just keeps asking himself and me!!!!!!

TBH dont think theres a definate yes or no answer really is there!!!! C x

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totaly agree here. if he is having serious doubts it could be doomed before it starts.

talking is the answer, you need to listne to what he says with complete understanding. it may be frustrating to think it may all end. but, he is only trying to do what he sees best for the future.

by the time tomorrow comes he will probably be ok again.

good luck

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This was just meant as a light hearted thread!!!!!
Fate has dealt us a lucky hand where Australia is concerned and we fully intend to take it!!!!!
Its just we both say to each other daily are we doing the right thing and then laugh and say 'Who knows, but lets find out!!!' C x :D

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well good luck, go grab it and see :)

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Thanks Louise, we fully intend too!!! Good Luck to you too...... C x

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shiels your hubby is suffering from n.s.d.s,..its a proven fact,i have noticed quite a few suffering from it in the last few weeks including me...dont worry he will be over it by next january..

ast

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Ast what the hell is n.s.d.s???? !!!!!!! :D C x

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nice sunny day syndrome...;)

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Well theres no worry of that lasting here in the UK then is there??!!!!;) :D C x

Thanks Ast.......

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seriously shiels,this time last year was the final nail in the coffin for me,,i was on the scaffold bloody freezin....i said to my mate today ,he is also going to oz,,"if it was like this all the time ,i wouldn't go",,,,,he said the same...

ast

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Totally disagree with louise4 ;) Tell him your cacking your pants about the move and you fully expect his support before, then and after. That should shut him up and leave you open to winge at will:rofl: :rofl:

And people say dungee jump riders are insane, they should sign up here.:thumbsup:

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I think like most ppl going to oz they are at a comftable stage of life
ie nice' house, car not rich or poor.Then we have to give every thing up to go to the other side of the world.With no job(for most) house not always any family and the big unknow. Every one at some stage has or will feel the same.

Our worries usally is what if it dont work out .and carn't get back on uk proppety ladder.I have gone through this also and my feeling is it if we do come back to a lot less It wont be the end of the world.And myself and family would have grown in the experience of it all.

But if we dont go we may regret it later on down the line when its too late to do ant thing about.

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mandy we are the same,,not rich ,not poor but i am looking to move to a house where i am going to end my days,,we all havent obviously found what we are looking for or we would not be going to oz...

its o.k to come on here and have a laugh and a joke,but as it get nearer it get a little scarey,,,god knows what it would be like if we did not have each other to lean on now and again...

once you get as far as we have there is only one way to see if the waters warm enough and thats to jump in..if it doesnt work ,we will get out dry our selves down and try again...nothings easy in life ,,,no ones going to tell you everythings going to be o.k..its only ourselves who will be able to tell that in a couple of years or so,,,

oh well folks ,,only time will tell...

aston..

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Well written aston.:thumbsup:

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Absolutely agree

Life is too short to wonder and worry - try it and see - thats all you can do. At the end of the day you reap what you sow - sit back on your laurels and you gain nothing - put the effort in and you will get back the rewards. If its not what you hoped then you have lost time and money - but you have gained experiences.

Im not near enough to panick yet but Im sure I will when I am - all you can do is support one another and be happy.

Free x

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I was about the most pro aussie move person migrating I think. Even I had moments when I wondered. Of course everone is going go go through the same. Your above to leave everything you have known for most of your life, a comfort zone which is hard to step out of.

You'll never know until you try. Lifes full of what ifs and if you dont do it then you'll be sitting there saying "what would it be like if we had have gone. Did we do the right thing by staying".

Really, my point is that everyone going through the migration process will have doubts, worries and such. Its called being human.

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It's not a right thing or a wrong thing... it's just a thing you're doing.

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:rofl: people usualy do :eek:

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"life is too short", it's also one song's name, one of my favorites.

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some great posts here folks :thumbup:

I'm having M.W.S (major wobbly syndrome) at the moment.

Got the ok house
Got the ok car (well the missus has :o )
Kids doing ok
Financially not too bad (always skint tho')
Work is money for old rope..wages ok
Live in an ok area

Why the hell am i putting myself thru this ???

Most people must feel this at some point IMO

Still wouldnt mind living in Aussie tho' :confused:

Keep the faith...

Lee :thumbup:

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Hey C
we are all wondering whether its right or not - but hopefully we will all give it a go and then find out for sure x

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its the waiting that gets you, gives you longer to reassess your motives for going away from the initial excitement of yippeee lets do it, lets emigrate.
im still in the skills assesment stage (10 week wait for nurses at the mo) and im starting to wonder if im mad, but i still want to go.

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There are two types of questions:

What the hell am I doing?

Do I still want to do this?

The two are entirely different. The former is normal and natural in the face of the great unknown. I'd be worried if people about to emigrate didn't ask themselves this. The latter indicates that perhaps you no longer want to make the move - for whatever reason. It's a much more serious question.

So long as you're only asking questions of the former nature, you're normal.

Here endeth the lesson. That's $200, thanks. :cool: ;)

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After 23 months from start to grant ....I really want to go now!!!! I have asked that question everysingle day for those 23 months and will probably keep doing so for a long time yet! If we stayed, I'm sure I'd still be asking exactly the same question!

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I can answer more questions, but the rate increases.

Should I set up a premium rate helpline, I wonder ...?

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We have had some "are we doing the right thing" over the last year and should we do a reccie as we had never been to OZ.
We are here now on our Reccie and love it, all worry's about doing the right thing have gone and I have had a couple of job offers which was my biggest worry. Just need to get our house sold and we can move out here.