Originally Posted by soapy©

i thought i had heard it all over the years, but this one is a real dig
its easy to tell people to ignore the comments,but when its this heartfelt it would be really hard. my heart does go out to the OP

Originally Posted by BadgeIsBack

What gets me is the fact it was 12 years ago. It seems that people will try anything.

Originally Posted by asher

I think you should respond to your sister when she says horrible things, let her know that she has really hurt you in a calm conversational way just challenge her as to why she is saying things to deliberately hurt you

the explanation may be something totally different but at least she will know how cruel and unkind she is being, ask her if that is how she wants you to remember her

Originally Posted by itsmylife

rahrah, just come across your post, I thought my MIL was being awful about the whole emigrating malarkey (DH still hasn't told her we have got our visa ), but what your sister has said to you is awful . Just wanted to send you some support

Originally Posted by rahrah

Hello all,
I know the Barbie is usually a very 'upbeat' hang out - but didn't know which other forum to post in - and need some words of support to bolster my flagging spirit!!
Have been forging ahead with our plans but meeting resistance from my elder sister and emotional blackmail BIG style. Have been coping well with constant 'how could you do this to our family' stance but beginning to grind me down and getting p'eed off now!
She has finally resorted to reminding me that we will be 'leaving our baby son's grave behind' - Ouch! Our first son died 12 years ago, but feel that although he will never be forgotten, leaving his 'body' behind does feel disloyal ( it is hard actually) - but short of exhuming, what does she expect me to do??
Feels like a really low life dirty stunt to pull on me - I know she is upset, I feel like after this time passing, we are entitled to consider ourselves and our living kids primarily, but this constant kicking is beginning to impact.
I am trying to see her point of view and common sense tells me she is resorting to any ploy she can BUT the irrational side of me think, am I a heartless cow of a mother ?? Paranoia settling in deep, and I could do with an independant view! Opinions, please ( but be gentle!)

Originally Posted by GoldCoastOrBust

Google 'Crab Bucket'

Originally Posted by rahrah

Oh, wow - how true!!!!!!!!! As they say - if the cap fits............!!!

I am having a phenomenally fab week, you'll agree - newly decorated house, and leaky ceining - emotional blackmail by the (crab) bucketfull!!

But hey, I am made of strong stuff - at least I still have a ceiling, and I am not about to cave into my sis and her 'mind' games - ONWARDS!!

Ta for your thoughts - good luck with the 2nd viewing