Silver wedding anniversary problem.
Nov 14th 2013 | 4:32 pm
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Re: Silver wedding anniversary problem.
Sorry, but if you are separated, you are no longer living as a married couple. If you are not divorced, it is technically your silver wedding, but it is hardly something to make a big fuss about with an expensive gift and a celebration if you are no longer in a committed relationship.
It is good that you still remain friends. Take her out for a meal.
It is good that you still remain friends. Take her out for a meal.
Nov 14th 2013 | 4:34 pm
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Re: Silver wedding anniversary problem.
No, I think marriages come in many guises and if this couple is legally married and enjoys whatever living arrangement they have... then why not celebrate what makes it work for them?
Feelings don't have rules and if the feelings are mutual in this marriage, then why not take the opportunity to enjoy life to the fullest?
Feelings don't have rules and if the feelings are mutual in this marriage, then why not take the opportunity to enjoy life to the fullest?
Nov 14th 2013 | 5:24 pm
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Re: Silver wedding anniversary problem.
Sorry, but if you are separated, you are no longer living as a married couple. If you are not divorced, it is technically your silver wedding, but it is hardly something to make a big fuss about with an expensive gift and a celebration if you are no longer in a committed relationship.
It is good that you still remain friends. Take her out for a meal.
It is good that you still remain friends. Take her out for a meal.
My parents never actually got divorced but had a farcical arrangement like this.
Nov 14th 2013 | 7:38 pm
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Re: Silver wedding anniversary problem.
Maybe she feels that if you love someone you should be able to marry them regardless of sex but if you don't you shouldn't put children through the possible nightmare of having your parents separate but not moving on and the children suffering with the consequences.
Nov 15th 2013 | 2:43 am
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Maybe she feels that if you love someone you should be able to marry them regardless of sex but if you don't you shouldn't put children through the possible nightmare of having your parents separate but not moving on and the children suffering with the consequences.
Nov 15th 2013 | 3:23 am
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Re: Silver wedding anniversary problem.
Maybe she feels that if you love someone you should be able to marry them regardless of sex but if you don't you shouldn't put children through the possible nightmare of having your parents separate but not moving on and the children suffering with the consequences.
You both know little of the OP's circumstances other than he is in a marriage which while not the stereotypical model, appears to work for him and his wife. Spare them the right please to celebrate what they have without tut-tutting them.
Nov 15th 2013 | 3:29 am
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Are you Sally's official representative?
You both know little of the OP's circumstances other than he is in a marriage which while not the stereotypical model, appears to work for him and his wife. Spare them the right please to celebrate what they have without tut-tutting them.
You both know little of the OP's circumstances other than he is in a marriage which while not the stereotypical model, appears to work for him and his wife. Spare them the right please to celebrate what they have without tut-tutting them.
Nov 15th 2013 | 8:07 am
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Re: Silver wedding anniversary problem.
Are you Sally's official representative?
You both know little of the OP's circumstances other than he is in a marriage which while not the stereotypical model, appears to work for him and his wife. Spare them the right please to celebrate what they have without tut-tutting them.
You both know little of the OP's circumstances other than he is in a marriage which while not the stereotypical model, appears to work for him and his wife. Spare them the right please to celebrate what they have without tut-tutting them.
Nov 15th 2013 | 8:23 am
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Re: Silver wedding anniversary problem.
It is quite an unusual situation so it is difficult to comment. On one hand I am wondering why you would do anything when you are separated and just good friends now. On the other hand though, perhaps you should actually just ask her how she feels about the date coming up and if she wants to mark it in some way.
Nov 15th 2013 | 8:26 am
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Re: Silver wedding anniversary problem.
If Hino was marries to Sally, I think it would adequately explain why he didn't want her in the same house. Do I win a prize??
