Hi all,

My silver wedding anniversary is coming up soon and I'm at a bit of a loss as to how to deal with the event. My wife and I have been separated for over ten years, but we get on well and still go on holidays etc. together. I am almost seventy and my wife's a couple of years older.

Obviously with such a big event, I have to 'push the boat out' somehow, but what do you think will go down best.......just flowers and a card ? I don't think that would go down too well.

A silver gift ?...a pair of bloody candlesticks, or something else to stick in the back of a cupboard gathering dust ?

A vacation perhaps, but I'm running out of time as the date is later this month, and she's the sort of woman who runs her life from an appointment book, so 'spontaneous' isn't really an option.

Any bright ideas would be greatly appreciated

Renew your vows and show that you're still a couple - if you're still celebrating wedding anniversary's together, may as well make it official.

I did think about that, but being a bloke I found it little too 'heavy duty'

My wife tells me not to bother with gifts and things for our wedding anniversaries..................................... ..... so I don't

I think just remembering is enough for her, which I just about manage to do.

12 years in a few months! Married younger than most do these days, been married nearly 12 years at an age where many are just getting married or thinking about it.

You say you're separated but still friends - why would you even consider renewing vows in this situation?. Don't do this unless you are getting back together and even then this may be more than she wants - absolutely do not 'surprise' her with this.

What about jewellery? A beautiful watch. What's your budget?

Agreed. A nice silver watch would be likely much more appropriat than renewing vows when you've been separated for 10 years.

A spontaneous no-committment-required erection.

Seriously, you can produce watches and shiny trinkets to order but an erect wanger just can't be beat for emotional impact.

Especially at your age.

What about giving her a day of sensory overload? Seriously.

Take her somewhere visually spectacular, give her a box of her favourite chocolates, (or dinner) and a cd of her favourite music (or a concert) and something soft to touch (like velvet, cashmere or silk) and a bottle of her favourite perfume (or bunch of her favourite scented flowers.)

Share time.

Agreed. Far more meaningful and with a touch of nostalgia, you soft thing you

Sorry, but if you are separated, you are no longer living as a married couple. If you are not divorced, it is technically your silver wedding, but it is hardly something to make a big fuss about with an expensive gift and a celebration if you are no longer in a committed relationship.

It is good that you still remain friends. Take her out for a meal.

No, I think marriages come in many guises and if this couple is legally married and enjoys whatever living arrangement they have... then why not celebrate what makes it work for them?

Feelings don't have rules and if the feelings are mutual in this marriage, then why not take the opportunity to enjoy life to the fullest?

25 years and you are both happy with eachother. That's definitely worth celebrating

You women are freaks

Go with the boner idea, much more personal you could tattoo 'i love you this much' on the old chap