Originally Posted by donna

I do feel for you and god knows what i would do in that situation .But i think you have just solved your own problem,you know sometimes when you have a problem and dont know what to do,then you share it with a friend and hear yourself saying the words ,and think,you silly bugger ,yes thats what i need to do,well i think you have just done that.Does that make sense??anyway i think you have done the right thing,oh and give Tom all the birthday and teach her a lesson for being sooo rude(only joking)

Originally Posted by Syedney

I know it may sound like easy to say but hard to do, and it is !! but stay strong...

She will notice the change in you....(Can't take you for ride anymore) and ultimately will respect you for this...

You're doing the right thing so stay strong...Hopefully the whole episode wil make see who she really is: a little child playing childish manipulating tricks on parents...She may even grow up after this.

You can cruel to be kind too, you know?

Originally Posted by somme

Hi Sasbear, I have left older children back in the Uk and know all about the guilt trip, what you are suggesting seems really fair, I only wish I had made desions like that in the past .............good luck with whatever you decide. Somehow unless they get exactly what they want, you are in the wrong.