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OK - so now I am VERY concerned

Old Jan 8th 2011, 2:50 am
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Originally Posted by Hebe View Post
Based on my experience I wouldn't be planning a whole weekend meet as your first date, even if you have phone, email contact before.
Ditto. Girlfriend, have you lost your mind? I know it might be tricky out in the sticks but seriously, I wouldn't get myself into a captive situation on a first date. If it has to be that way, at least get them round to yours (and have the neighbours on standby). I was single on and off for most of my 30s and liked to stay in control of the situation, be able to kick them out at any time.

I hated dating, in fact I think I only went on one true date and found it excrutiating. We both did, so we agreed to drop the best behaviour, get scandalously drunk and just have a good time regardless
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Old Jan 8th 2011, 11:01 pm
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a friend of mine joined an expensive dating site (thinking the cost would rule out any mingers) and the only contact she got was from middle aged couples looking for a single woman for 3-somes ...
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Old Jan 8th 2011, 11:16 pm
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I have friends who met their husbands online - one married ten years, one recently had her second child. I think it's a sign of the times that it's quite the norm to do this and, let's face it, the ones you meet in bars aren't always the ones you'd like in your every day life

I also have friends who have been hounded by African scammers purporting to be expat American oil men, and many, many men who turned out to be married and just looking for fun. You certainly have to kiss a lot of frogs.
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Old Jan 9th 2011, 2:19 am
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Default Re: OK - so now I am VERY concerned

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I met my OH online but had to meet many frogs first. Based on my experience I wouldn't be planning a whole weekend meet as your first date, even if you have phone, email contact before. A coffee is fine and then dinner if all ok.

My shortest date was about 5 minutes. Awful bloke looked good on paper but shit he was vile!!!

Had a stalker who still contacts me through any medium he can find and that was 7 years ago!

Any way hope the date goes well and if not then don't give up.

Erm - WHY did you not post this earlier

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what a frikkin *************@#$_)*&^%#

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Old Jan 9th 2011, 3:07 am
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Erm - WHY did you not post this earlier

LOL

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Old Jan 9th 2011, 5:01 am
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Thanks - I suppose I deserved that - the thing is advice is always good if you didn't take it......

The good news is...the guy I had a couple of dates with over the last 5 weeks - the one I wasn't sure if he was or wasn't interested (I was at the stage of thinking -wow this is a nice guy) - well I think he is - but just very shy.

So no more blind dates for me - just going to go with the flow - and see if anything happens with this guy - I am not going to pursue - but hopefully be pursued... and if not - then it isn't meant to be.
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Old Jan 9th 2011, 5:24 am
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Thanks - I suppose I deserved that - the thing is advice is always good if you didn't take it......

The good news is...the guy I had a couple of dates with over the last 5 weeks - the one I wasn't sure if he was or wasn't interested (I was at the stage of thinking -wow this is a nice guy) - well I think he is - but just very shy.

So no more blind dates for me - just going to go with the flow - and see if anything happens with this guy - I am not going to pursue - but hopefully be pursued... and if not - then it isn't meant to be.

Get out there and enjoy yourself hun the right guy will come along when you least expect it.

So what happened on the date lol spill the beans.

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So no more blind dates for me - just going to go with the flow - and see if anything happens with this guy - I am not going to pursue - but hopefully be pursued... and if not - then it isn't meant to be.
Quite right Sas.

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Default Re: OK - so now I am VERY concerned

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Get out there and enjoy yourself hun the right guy will come along when you least expect it.

So what happened on the date lol spill the beans.

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well I can't mags - I wish I could - you would all have a jolly big laugh on BE - and I think I would never live it down...so better of buried methinks

And to say that I came home early after making a big whopping lie....should explain how desperate I was to get away...
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Old Jan 9th 2011, 5:44 am
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well I can't mags - I wish I could - you would all have a jolly big laugh on BE - and I think I would never live it down...so better of buried methinks

And to say that I came home early after making a big whopping lie....should explain how desperate I was to get away...
aw come on not many of us will read it, besides we've all had a bad experience of some sorts which luckily enough most of us can laugh about now
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aw come on not many of us will read it, besides we've all had a bad experience of some sorts which luckily enough most of us can laugh about now
Nooooooooooo.....I don't think she should post it on here.

She can PM us
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Nooooooooooo.....I don't think she should post it on here.

She can PM us


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Old Jan 9th 2011, 7:26 am
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well I can't mags - I wish I could - you would all have a jolly big laugh on BE - and I think I would never live it down...so better of buried methinks

And to say that I came home early after making a big whopping lie....should explain how desperate I was to get away...
I think we have all had dating disasters lol nothing to be ashamed of hun.

So I take it you wont be doing a second date

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I think we have all had dating disasters lol nothing to be ashamed of hun.

So I take it you wont be doing a second date

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ermmmm - nope
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ermmmm - nope
lol you seriously can't leave us dangling like this. You have to tell us now
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