Lonely and in need of friends or Crazy Stalker?
May 29th 2013, 2:31 am
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Lonely and in need of friends or Crazy Stalker?
I know that some of you work in the area of mental health and thought I'd ask your advice - sorry if it's a little long winded and confusing.
There is a lady who has two daughters at the ballet school my girls attend. Her girls also attended the local primary school that my kids went to a couple of years ago. I know a number of teachers at the school personally and know that this lady left the school at the end of last term because the school had called DOCS on her and had her kids taken away from her for a couple of days and also had to take an AVO out against her for threats she made to staff. She is now bombarding the school and the education department with emails saying she is charging them with theft as some of the kids pencils and spare stationary were not returned to them when they left. I know that she has stirred the pot at other institutions she's involved with, constantly emailing and trying to cause trouble.
Since leaving the school she's started to email the Principal of the dance school with complaints about certain families at the school saying they are racist (she's Indian Fijian) and that the school favours these families (amongst other crazy complaints such as fathers should not be permitted at the studio at any time).
She has been targeting one of my best friends in these complaint emails. She seems to think my friend has switched her daughters costume because it wasn't fitting her kid like it did six months before (she didn't own it, the ballet committee owns and hires out to the kids). The dance school Principal ended up giving her an ultimatum to have the costume altered (by the teacher) and stop complaining or leave the school. She initially chose to shut up, but less than a week later started emailing all of us on the Ballet Committee with every piece of correspondence between herself and my friend for the last year or so (some of the emails text had been tampered with). She insisted for days that we come clean and stop covering up my friends perceived deceit). During this time I turned up to the studio with my girls and the my friends girls for class. My daughter and her friend went into a class to let the teachers know that had been successful with their audition into a youth ballet company - it was something that everyone was really excited about. The woman in question turned on me and told me that I shouldn't have let them enter another class and was shouting at me in front of a pile of mothers in the foyer. After much more crap that I won't bore you with, I told her she was to stop communicating with me and my kids in any way. She had mentioned in an email that she would come to my house - I told her that she was not welcome and to stay away. She backed down and sent me messages saying how much she liked my family and we were always polite and kind - yada, yada, yada. I was polite but distant with her from then on.
On mothers day I came home from dinner and there was an email from her wishing me a wonderful mothers day and saying what a great mother I was and how I should be proud of my children. I didn't respond and still treated her with polite indifference at the studio. Then yesterday, her little girl turned up with home cooking for me - I took it and thanked the little girl sincerely, she's a little sweety and I have nothing against her. The timing of the "gift" was on a day that she knows I stay at the studio and chat with my friend that she has it in for. I felt that she was only doing it so that I would have to explain to my friend where the food came from and feel that she's trying to drive a wedge between us. Am I reading too much into this and she's just a lonely lady (her husband works away overseas for much of the year and she's on her own with no family support) or do you think my suspicions are warranted?
Sorry for the long winded post.
There is a lady who has two daughters at the ballet school my girls attend. Her girls also attended the local primary school that my kids went to a couple of years ago. I know a number of teachers at the school personally and know that this lady left the school at the end of last term because the school had called DOCS on her and had her kids taken away from her for a couple of days and also had to take an AVO out against her for threats she made to staff. She is now bombarding the school and the education department with emails saying she is charging them with theft as some of the kids pencils and spare stationary were not returned to them when they left. I know that she has stirred the pot at other institutions she's involved with, constantly emailing and trying to cause trouble.
Since leaving the school she's started to email the Principal of the dance school with complaints about certain families at the school saying they are racist (she's Indian Fijian) and that the school favours these families (amongst other crazy complaints such as fathers should not be permitted at the studio at any time).
She has been targeting one of my best friends in these complaint emails. She seems to think my friend has switched her daughters costume because it wasn't fitting her kid like it did six months before (she didn't own it, the ballet committee owns and hires out to the kids). The dance school Principal ended up giving her an ultimatum to have the costume altered (by the teacher) and stop complaining or leave the school. She initially chose to shut up, but less than a week later started emailing all of us on the Ballet Committee with every piece of correspondence between herself and my friend for the last year or so (some of the emails text had been tampered with). She insisted for days that we come clean and stop covering up my friends perceived deceit). During this time I turned up to the studio with my girls and the my friends girls for class. My daughter and her friend went into a class to let the teachers know that had been successful with their audition into a youth ballet company - it was something that everyone was really excited about. The woman in question turned on me and told me that I shouldn't have let them enter another class and was shouting at me in front of a pile of mothers in the foyer. After much more crap that I won't bore you with, I told her she was to stop communicating with me and my kids in any way. She had mentioned in an email that she would come to my house - I told her that she was not welcome and to stay away. She backed down and sent me messages saying how much she liked my family and we were always polite and kind - yada, yada, yada. I was polite but distant with her from then on.
On mothers day I came home from dinner and there was an email from her wishing me a wonderful mothers day and saying what a great mother I was and how I should be proud of my children. I didn't respond and still treated her with polite indifference at the studio. Then yesterday, her little girl turned up with home cooking for me - I took it and thanked the little girl sincerely, she's a little sweety and I have nothing against her. The timing of the "gift" was on a day that she knows I stay at the studio and chat with my friend that she has it in for. I felt that she was only doing it so that I would have to explain to my friend where the food came from and feel that she's trying to drive a wedge between us. Am I reading too much into this and she's just a lonely lady (her husband works away overseas for much of the year and she's on her own with no family support) or do you think my suspicions are warranted?
Sorry for the long winded post.
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May 29th 2013, 4:13 am
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Re: Lonely and in need of friends or Crazy Stalker?
Crazy stalker.. Find the longest available barge pole and insert it PR and sideways if she comes within spitting distance again
May 29th 2013, 4:28 am
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Re: Lonely and in need of friends or Crazy Stalker?
Thanks ladies, that's what my guts telling me but I'm just one of those people that feels they have to give people the benefit of the doubt.
May 29th 2013, 5:19 am
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Re: Lonely and in need of friends or Crazy Stalker?
Crazy stalker avoid like he plague!
May 29th 2013, 6:06 am
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Re: Lonely and in need of friends or Crazy Stalker?
Sounds like a typical PD.... The bain of mental health pros apparently.
PD = Personality disorder.
PD = Personality disorder.
May 29th 2013, 6:07 am
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Re: Lonely and in need of friends or Crazy Stalker?
Sounds like a typical PD.... The bain of mental health pros apparently.
PD = Personality disorder.
You'll get roped into her world if you get too close.
PD = Personality disorder.
You'll get roped into her world if you get too close.
May 29th 2013, 6:51 am
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Re: Lonely and in need of friends or Crazy Stalker?
I don't think there is anything medically wrong with her. She just sounds like a bitch. I know many. People always try to blame some mental illness, when in fact a lot of people are just wankers.
May 29th 2013, 7:46 am
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May 29th 2013, 8:00 am
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Re: Lonely and in need of friends or Crazy Stalker?
Err, I hope you didn't eat the food she gave you 
May 29th 2013, 8:15 am
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May 29th 2013, 1:08 pm
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Re: Lonely and in need of friends or Crazy Stalker?
I agree with the others. A Loop from the Planet Fruit most definitely.
May 29th 2013, 9:43 pm
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Re: Lonely and in need of friends or Crazy Stalker?
I know that some of you work in the area of mental health and thought I'd ask your advice - sorry if it's a little long winded and confusing.
There is a lady who has two daughters at the ballet school my girls attend. Her girls also attended the local primary school that my kids went to a couple of years ago. I know a number of teachers at the school personally and know that this lady left the school at the end of last term because the school had called DOCS on her and had her kids taken away from her for a couple of days and also had to take an AVO out against her for threats she made to staff. She is now bombarding the school and the education department with emails saying she is charging then with theft as some of the kids pencils and spare stationary were not returned to them when they left. I know that she has stirred the pot at other institutions she's involved with, constantly emailing and trying to cause trouble.
Since leaving the school she's started to email the Principal of the dance school with complaints about certain families at the school saying they are racist (she's Indian Fijian) and that the school favours these families (amongst other crazy complaints such as fathers should not be permitted at the studio at any time).
She has been targeting one of my best friends in these complaint emails. She seems to think my friend has switched her daughters costume because it wasn't fitting her kid like it did six months before (she didn't own it, the ballet committee owns and hires out to the kids). The dance school Principal ended up giving her an ultimatum to have the costume altered (by the teacher) and stop complaining or leave the school. She initially chose to shut up, but less than a week later started emailing all of us on the Ballet Committee with every piece of correspondence between herself and my friend for the last year or so (some of the emails text had been tampered with). She insisted for days that we come clean and stop covering up my friends perceived deceit). During this time I turned up to the studio with my girls and the my friends girls for class. My daughter and her friend went into a class to let the teachers know that had been successful with their audition into a youth ballet company - it was something that everyone was really excited about. The woman in question turned on me and told me that I shouldn't have let them enter another class and was shouting at me in front of a pile of mothers in the foyer. After much more crap that I won't bore you with, I told her she was to stop communicating with me and my kids in any way. She had mentioned in an email that she would come to my house - I told her that she was not welcome and to stay away. She backed down and sent me messages saying how much she liked my family and we were always polite and kind - yada, yada, yada. I was polite but distant with her from then on.
On mothers day I came home from dinner and there was an email from her wishing me a wonderful mothers day and saying what a great mother I was and how I should be proud of my children. I didn't respond and still treated her with polite indifference at the studio. Then yesterday, her little girl turned up with home cooking for me - I took it and thanked the little girl sincerely, she's a little sweety and I have nothing against her. The timing of the "gift" was on a day that she knows I stay at the studio and chat with my friend that she has it in for. I felt that she was only doing it so that I would have to explain to my friend where the food came from and feel that she's trying to drive a wedge between us. Am I reading too much into this and she's just a lonely lady (her husband works away overseas for much of the year and she's on her own with no family support) or do you think my suspicions are warranted?
Sorry for the long winded post.
There is a lady who has two daughters at the ballet school my girls attend. Her girls also attended the local primary school that my kids went to a couple of years ago. I know a number of teachers at the school personally and know that this lady left the school at the end of last term because the school had called DOCS on her and had her kids taken away from her for a couple of days and also had to take an AVO out against her for threats she made to staff. She is now bombarding the school and the education department with emails saying she is charging then with theft as some of the kids pencils and spare stationary were not returned to them when they left. I know that she has stirred the pot at other institutions she's involved with, constantly emailing and trying to cause trouble.
Since leaving the school she's started to email the Principal of the dance school with complaints about certain families at the school saying they are racist (she's Indian Fijian) and that the school favours these families (amongst other crazy complaints such as fathers should not be permitted at the studio at any time).
She has been targeting one of my best friends in these complaint emails. She seems to think my friend has switched her daughters costume because it wasn't fitting her kid like it did six months before (she didn't own it, the ballet committee owns and hires out to the kids). The dance school Principal ended up giving her an ultimatum to have the costume altered (by the teacher) and stop complaining or leave the school. She initially chose to shut up, but less than a week later started emailing all of us on the Ballet Committee with every piece of correspondence between herself and my friend for the last year or so (some of the emails text had been tampered with). She insisted for days that we come clean and stop covering up my friends perceived deceit). During this time I turned up to the studio with my girls and the my friends girls for class. My daughter and her friend went into a class to let the teachers know that had been successful with their audition into a youth ballet company - it was something that everyone was really excited about. The woman in question turned on me and told me that I shouldn't have let them enter another class and was shouting at me in front of a pile of mothers in the foyer. After much more crap that I won't bore you with, I told her she was to stop communicating with me and my kids in any way. She had mentioned in an email that she would come to my house - I told her that she was not welcome and to stay away. She backed down and sent me messages saying how much she liked my family and we were always polite and kind - yada, yada, yada. I was polite but distant with her from then on.
On mothers day I came home from dinner and there was an email from her wishing me a wonderful mothers day and saying what a great mother I was and how I should be proud of my children. I didn't respond and still treated her with polite indifference at the studio. Then yesterday, her little girl turned up with home cooking for me - I took it and thanked the little girl sincerely, she's a little sweety and I have nothing against her. The timing of the "gift" was on a day that she knows I stay at the studio and chat with my friend that she has it in for. I felt that she was only doing it so that I would have to explain to my friend where the food came from and feel that she's trying to drive a wedge between us. Am I reading too much into this and she's just a lonely lady (her husband works away overseas for much of the year and she's on her own with no family support) or do you think my suspicions are warranted?
Sorry for the long winded post.
Everyone knows the score.