Originally Posted by Fleaflyfloflum

I cant believe i missed this thread!

C, i want to wish you all the best for the weekend. Please dont take any notice of this post as it is only my experience and we are all different. If you feel this will work for you, go for it all guns blazing i say!

I had quite an extraordinary experince revoloving the lap banding process.

When i lived in Adelaide, I was extremely obese. I went to the hopsital to be accepted for lap banding. I was shown the procedure, looked at the band itself and got all the blurb. The doc put me on a 6mth waiting list for the surgery. I was soooo excited at the prospect of gertting this done. I had suffered years of misery from obesity.
I was not a fat child or even fat in early adult years, but i developed a binge eating disorder after a violent sexual attack. I subsequently found out it was triggered to make myslef unattractive to men!! (bit bizarre seeing as i managed to get married and have 2 kids, but i eventually realised it was true)
The problem with doing this was that most of society, not just adult males shun you and make life much more difficult than it needs ot be. Mainly because humans are shallow creatures who make judgements on appearance alone ... sigh... anyway, i digress..

I came back from the hospital full of beans, thinking all this was the answer to my prayers. Over the next few weeks I ofund myself thinking a lot about what i was about to undertake. I was aware of the pitfalls, side effects, possible drawbacks and suffering I would go through, then, it suddenly dawned on me....

If I am prepared to put myself thorugh this hell and discomfort to achieve a normal sized body, why cant I do it WITHOUT the physical suffering????? It played on my mind so much I thought of nothing else.
One morning I just woke up, lay on the bed and said to myself "f**k it!!!, I CAN do this the normal way if it means so much i am prepared to do it via surgery" It has to be that important right??
Once I have the band I have no choice but to be extremely limited in what I can eat.If I am prepared to enforce that on myself surgically, why cant I enforce that on myself voluntarily by changing ho I live my life WITHOUT the band?

I jumped out of bed, looked up a fitness store, bought a treadmill, got me a sensible eating plan and that was it!!
During this time I moved to Sydney, but still carried on with my plan. Dont get me wrong, it wasnt easy, and I did struggle some weeks, but all up over the next 18mths I managed to lose 49kg.
My life changed big time! I was swimming 3 times a week, doing 3hr cliff walks, and enjoying life for the first time in years.

I am not for a second saying to anyone dont do it. If this is what you need and you truly feel there is no other way, go for it and best of luck.

I am in a bit of a state now though. Due to a cronic illness since June, which means I cannot walk more than 50mtres, I am getting zero exericse and have gained 20kg It is really upsetting me right now and i cannot do anything about it until i get my health back. Hopefully, i can shake it all off once i am moving again...anyway..

Good luck Northernbird. I look forward to hearing about your progress

Originally Posted by Jan3kids

Wow!!! That's amazing Flea! I wasn't aware of just how well you had done....I am currently 4 stone overweight, I lost 2 stone last year only to regain it grrrr! Currently losing again .......

Very Best Wishes Northern Bird, I will be watching this thread with interest....and might even show it to the young girl at work who is currently piling on heaps of weight on purpose so that she is eligible for the surgery....madness!!

Jan x

Originally Posted by Fleaflyfloflum

I cant believe i missed this thread!

C, i want to wish you all the best for the weekend. Please dont take any notice of this post as it is only my experience and we are all different. If you feel this will work for you, go for it all guns blazing i say!

I had quite an extraordinary experince revoloving the lap banding process.

When i lived in Adelaide, I was extremely obese. I went to the hopsital to be accepted for lap banding. I was shown the procedure, looked at the band itself and got all the blurb. The doc put me on a 6mth waiting list for the surgery. I was soooo excited at the prospect of gertting this done. I had suffered years of misery from obesity.
I was not a fat child or even fat in early adult years, but i developed a binge eating disorder after a violent sexual attack. I subsequently found out it was triggered to make myslef unattractive to men!! (bit bizarre seeing as i managed to get married and have 2 kids, but i eventually realised it was true)
The problem with doing this was that most of society, not just adult males shun you and make life much more difficult than it needs ot be. Mainly because humans are shallow creatures who make judgements on appearance alone ... sigh... anyway, i digress..

I came back from the hospital full of beans, thinking all this was the answer to my prayers. Over the next few weeks I ofund myself thinking a lot about what i was about to undertake. I was aware of the pitfalls, side effects, possible drawbacks and suffering I would go through, then, it suddenly dawned on me....

If I am prepared to put myself thorugh this hell and discomfort to achieve a normal sized body, why cant I do it WITHOUT the physical suffering????? It played on my mind so much I thought of nothing else.
One morning I just woke up, lay on the bed and said to myself "f**k it!!!, I CAN do this the normal way if it means so much i am prepared to do it via surgery" It has to be that important right??
Once I have the band I have no choice but to be extremely limited in what I can eat.If I am prepared to enforce that on myself surgically, why cant I enforce that on myself voluntarily by changing ho I live my life WITHOUT the band?

I jumped out of bed, looked up a fitness store, bought a treadmill, got me a sensible eating plan and that was it!!
During this time I moved to Sydney, but still carried on with my plan. Dont get me wrong, it wasnt easy, and I did struggle some weeks, but all up over the next 18mths I managed to lose 49kg.
My life changed big time! I was swimming 3 times a week, doing 3hr cliff walks, and enjoying life for the first time in years.

I am not for a second saying to anyone dont do it. If this is what you need and you truly feel there is no other way, go for it and best of luck.

I am in a bit of a state now though. Due to a cronic illness since June, which means I cannot walk more than 50mtres, I am getting zero exericse and have gained 20kg It is really upsetting me right now and i cannot do anything about it until i get my health back. Hopefully, i can shake it all off once i am moving again...anyway..

Good luck Northernbird. I look forward to hearing about your progress

Originally Posted by northernbird

Wow Flea, I know it wasn't your intention but I somehow feel such a failure now. I have tormented myself for years over my weight and just the thought of trying to lose almost 70kg fills me with horror and I just know in my heart of hearts that I can't do it without this. In time your health will return and you can shift those extra kilos with the determination that you have.

Originally Posted by Fleaflyfloflum

I believe very single one of us on here is 100% behind you. We want you to succeed and god damn it you will!

Originally Posted by Fleaflyfloflum

Dont you DARE feel like a failure!!!!!!!!

You are very brave. You are doing what you have to do to help yourself. How the hell can that be failing? As far as i am concerned it doesnt matter HOW we do it, as long as we keep trying in whatever form we choose.

You, me, and anyone else that has had to suffer the indignity of being shunned by the rest of the world for our appearance, had to work harder at being accepted, ridiculed, laughed at and poured scorn on because we have a food issue, as opposed to say, a drink, gambling or drugs issue which is somehow more socially acceptable it seems nowadays (god knows why)
can never be considered a failure. We have more resolve, more guts (pardon the pun ) and often far more empathy and tolerance towards other people because of it.
Dont you ever let me read you saying you are a failure!

I believe very single one of us on here is 100% behind you. We want you to succeed and god damn it you will!

Originally Posted by northernbird

Thanks Flea, I agree with all of that. I have had to suffer the humiliation of trying to find new underwear today. I hope to god that is the last time I have to go and find pieces of shadecloth disguised as knickers

Thanks again everyone for your kind wishes, will update Sunday.

Originally Posted by northernbird

Thanks Flea, I agree with all of that. I have had to suffer the humiliation of trying to find new underwear today. I hope to god that is the last time I have to go and find pieces of shadecloth disguised as knickers

Thanks again everyone for your kind wishes, will update Sunday.