Only just seen this post. Stay strong, thinking of you. C x

Forgive my ignorance but didn't you guys split up over a year ago????

If we did, no-one told me.


Damn, that could have saved me a whole heap of heartbreak.


Christ, why didn't anyone tell me?

All good wishes to you, having been there myself, I know what an awful time it is for you. Just try & keep a smile on your face, even when you don't want to.... soon it will be there naturally

PM me any time

..or maybe you posted something about 'wanting' to split up??

It's highly likely I posed a question about divorce and how it affected people and their kids some months ago now, during a time of incredibly high stress.

Over that now.

Future's the only important thing. Au revoir past.

Sooo hard to tell some-one you love so much something that will mean a big change. All the best for you and all of your children for the future.

Wishing you all the best for your futures

Suexx

You're a great mum, and good for you to say
that there aren't any battles, but just a sad
dad...as kids it's great to have parents who
try to make the best out of something that isn't.
Your kids will love the both of you for this later on
in life.

I was 18 when my parents got divorced, and they
did it the way you did, which is hard...but it is
better in the end.

So, have a great life and all the best!

Miranda

good luck babes.

you have to do the right thing by your kids and that is what you have done.

you are a credit to us all on here as there are not many people who are as strong and as level headded as you have been in this situation.

your eldest is a credit to you and you have raised a very mature and supportive daughter who will help you and your yonger kids through the tough time you are having.


good luck to all of you xx

Just read your thread and wanted to say how sorry I am to hear that you are splitting. You seem to have handled this perfectly and your kids have reacted well.

Good luck for the future.

Lynn xx

nothing to add as such other than kids are resilient..

you have my support..
hot chocolate... looovly

Whilst this may be the truth, I would be a little wary of statements like this, older kids can feel responsible for parents at these times and may want to try and make things easier for you.

Yes, I'm very aware of that.

What's come up since yesterday is organisational questions....

Eldest wants to know if she gets a fish, will I look after it whilst she's at her dad's....

8 yr old wants me to make sure that school knows that she will need to decorate two report covers so that we both have one....

Even when I had my second child, people would say things like 'Oh how lovely, now your eldest can help you with her'... and yet I thought that ridiculous and not her responsibility... My baby, my responsibility....
And I think I carry that through now to this situation. They're children and they need to be children, not be responsible for me.

The other thing of course, is that I am not really unhappy. I'm generally a really upbeat person who nearly always positive and once I've decided something, then it's done.
My marriage is over. I'm relieved. No more struggling with it all, trying to force myself to go somewhere that I didn't want to be... no more living in the past.
Her statements are just her way of reflecting my communication to her that this will be a good and positive change in their lives. They'll see a difference so quickly.
I wished I'd seen my parents as happy individuals... yet they're still together and still miserable...

I think that's an excellent perspective. When all this has calmed down, you really should write that book!