paulry

A best attempt at reconcilliation is an option too.

Good luck Dougie - and Louise.

Broad Shoulders

really sorry to hear that Dougie. It's a bit of a double whammy for you so I can only imagine would be really difficult to take right now.

How old are your kids?

rinkerdink

Easy to say, but if you girls gather round and the "you've got to think about yourself now" conversation takes place, if anything anything goes anywhere near the CAB or heaven forbid a divorce lawyer the man will (if there are children involved) get royally screwed by the system. I'm not taliking from personal experience but I have seen it happen around me enough!

bobbyftm

All the best for the future mate in whatever you decide . Que Sera Sera !!

jazzys

The end of a dream eh, not necessarily Dougie.

In June 2007 i started a thread with a similar title. "My dream has died" if i remember rightly. We had our house up for sale, we had visa's in passports and it was all sysytems go. Me the wife and two kids, off to sunny Oz

Then she walked out.

Now i don't know you, louise or your circumstances. But the reason my other half walked out was she felt she was on a runaway train and the only way she could get off it was to walk out. Basically she wasn't ready to move, it had been my dream all along, not hers. She was doing it for me.

We had two kids together, one wanted to come to Australia, the other one didn't want to leave her mother. An extremely tricky and uncomfortable time was had by everyone involved. The family split right down the middle.

Two years on and my ex missus just lives for the day when she can be here in brisbane, back with her boys. The house that was up for sale in 2007 is still for sale. After xmas she will be renting it out and fully intends to be here full time by may / june 2010 when she gets our daughter set up in a flat of her own/

Our daughter still plans to stay in the UK for the foreseeable future but the missus is dead set on coming to be with us.

I suppose what i'm trying to say is, things could turn out differently to what your currently expecting. If you want her back, give her time to miss you and then let her know how you feel.

Good luck
Jazzys

bobbyftm

Quite a remarkable turn around Jeff ,pleased as punch for yous all mate

jazzys

Thanks mate, just proves that those dark days can eventually turn out to be sunny and happy again.

Jazzys

framac67

Take care mate and keep the chin up. Words are cheap but it will turn out good in the end.

looky

Sorry to hear about your current situation but I quite agree with some here who mentioned to just come here anyway and start life afresh. Isn't that what immigration is all about? To start afresh.

Marriage is a burden sometimes when it comes to a bad ending and it seems alot of marriage ends up in that way these days. To the point of whenever I hear about someone getting married I will be wondering when they will be going their separate ways. Its even trickier with kids involved. Being free means I know no one but I can affect what I have planned for my life.

Australia is waiting for you

moneypenny20

But his children wouldn't be with him, they'd be 12,000 miles away very confused as to what had happened to their family. His wife may have walked away from him, doesn't mean he can walk away from his children.

Syedney

Mate, just read this and am so sorry for you...

Haven't read everything here but will do ...Just thought to pass on my sentiments and my best wishes for you...

Like you say, shit happens and that's a very good and noble way of seeing things...Keep your chin up and like you say kids are priority...

Fly Away

Sorry to hear your news.

I was just wondering if it was both your dreams to move to Australia or just yours? If you both still want to go, would it be possible to still do it but live apart in Australia?

paulry

A great happy ending, Jazzy. I bet you kids are real chuffed about it Imagine how differently it could have turned out if you'd fought a bitter struggle for custody and assets.

Kingseat

aaah Dougie I am sorry. WHat a shock.

Dougie

OK Here goes


Thanks and yes i,m sure things will be kept amicable as she is many things but wouldn't do that

Yup never say never thats why when I get a minute I may see the application through to the end just in case you never know ! but not sure how it would work as Louise and the boys are on the application but I'll look into it for sure


Yes it is the last thing on my mind just gutted about the expense also that I have only recently spent !!

And yes your very true WE WILL CONQUER THE WORLD @ some stage

Thanks and as you probs know its not something I would wish on anyone this !

Your a star Em and yeah i'll be around for a little while yet as this place as come like a second home when I've had out else to do x

Yeah it takes a while to get your head around the process and I've liked helping people out when and where I could just to save them a little time if nothing more.
And yea I,m sure things will work out ......................... not sure when as this seems like a long dark tunnel with no sign of any light from where I,m stood at the minute !

Its the boys thou or I'd be there like a shot !

And at the minute I really need to keep a hold of this house for a little normality for the boys and they have loads of really good mates that play all day really well out in the close.

I,m sure it will like you say if its meant to be !

Me too matey

Nobody more sorry than me and yes lots of decisions to make in the near future just hope I make the right ones??

Thanks it is a nice break from the chaos to come on here to winge on peoples shoulders about it, If they wanna listen they will if they dont then thats fine too.
Thats the joy of the forum I guess

Cheers Cooler,

Guess I wont be meeting you in SA for that beer anytime soon hey !

Alll the best with your move thou

Cheers kporte

Thanks for the wishes and its the future I have to look forward to know your right

I,m pretty sure it won't get nasty involving legalities etc as we are both not like that and the provisional plans that we have in place for access is fair and suits us both regarding work commitments etc.

I.m liking your comments alot TP its a very good perspective to have

X

I,m sure we will be fine the boys adore me and we have a laugh each and every time we are together and the feelings mutual.


Like I have mentioned I'm pretty sure that it wont come to that but you are very correct these genitals dont pull any weight what so ever in the family courts I've seen it too often myself !

As mentioned we are both not that kind of people access, maintanence and equity from the house have already been agreed so hopefully I'll stay out of the gutter for a while yet !

Triple whammy dude losing the Wife Kids and the dream !!!

Lets hope I can raise the funds for her share and keep the house otherwise me and the kids will be gutted even further !

The boys are 4 & 8

~Yup what ever we'll be we'll be alright weather we like it or not !!


Top post Jazzy I am really made up for you and hope that it all turns out great for you and yours in the end

Yah shit does happen and its the only way to look at things at the moment as everything is so out of my hands I just have to hold on till things slow down and take it from there

Yea a joint decision with equal input but unfortunetly what with her new degree course that she has enrolled on for 3 years her new plans and her poisioned parents I am sure that tis would not be an option for us sadly

Yes a very big shock a minor dissagrement 2 weeks ago caused her to flip and she's gone in another 9 days so yes still very much in shock.


THANKS VERY MUCH for all your kind and helpfull comments its very much appreciated.


Regards


Dougie