I don't care what you think - Children
Mar 22nd 2008, 5:35 am
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Re: I don't care what you think - Children
Ummmm 
I'd like to think there is still a decent sized minority of kids who aren't shagging around in their teenage years.
Sure 99% of boys will say they have, and 10 % of girls will say they have. But I'd like to think the real figure is somewhere near 50%, and my kids won't be in the 'shagging' 50%.
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I'd like to think there is still a decent sized minority of kids who aren't shagging around in their teenage years.Sure 99% of boys will say they have, and 10 % of girls will say they have. But I'd like to think the real figure is somewhere near 50%, and my kids won't be in the 'shagging' 50%.
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Mar 22nd 2008, 5:39 am
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Oh I'm in agreement alright but I just wouldn't let them know I was monitoring it (cos I'm sneaky like that 
). My 11 year old is on MSN and I was surprised to see some of the things she had written attached to her messenger profile (nothing bad, but it's just interesting to see how they communicate when they don't think you know about it).
). My 11 year old is on MSN and I was surprised to see some of the things she had written attached to her messenger profile (nothing bad, but it's just interesting to see how they communicate when they don't think you know about it).Ohhh the sneaky stuff!!
Absolutely! 
By the time my kids are teenagers, I'll have put GPS positioning chips in their phones so I can follow their movements.
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Mar 22nd 2008, 5:41 am
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Yes, I'd like to think so but I don't think that's the case TBH. My main aim is to try and load them up with self confidence and self respect so that (a) they can stand up to peer group pressure and (b) they won't feel the urge to jump into bed with some grubby 16 year old who will say whatever it takes to get them there.
I was at an all boys school at 16. I know its true!
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Mar 22nd 2008, 5:50 am
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Mar 22nd 2008, 6:24 am
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Re: I don't care what you think - Children
I was watching Today Tonight, as it is a such an insightful thoughtful program
Anyway, I actually did like this bloke:
http://au.todaytonight.yahoo.com/art...arental-advice
and this comment he made
I'm not so keen on his view on his kids having sex in his house rather than elsewhere. How about they just don't have sex! Controversial
I've also got a bit of a query about this one:
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Ummm
asked them? What? Isn't their myspace profile a public webpage available to everyone in myspace. Yet I'd have to be the only one to 'ask' to view it?
Bollox to that. I'll be editing it. Replacing pictures of them with pictures of Ena Sharples and Margaret Thatcher, and listing their hobbies as bible reading, more bible reading, and running screaming from boys who give them inappropriate glances.
But his final bit I really do agree with
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Anyway, I actually did like this bloke:
http://au.todaytonight.yahoo.com/art...arental-advice
and this comment he made
I'm not so keen on his view on his kids having sex in his house rather than elsewhere. How about they just don't have sex! Controversial
I've also got a bit of a query about this one:
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Ummm
asked them? What? Isn't their myspace profile a public webpage available to everyone in myspace. Yet I'd have to be the only one to 'ask' to view it?Bollox to that. I'll be editing it
. Replacing pictures of them with pictures of Ena Sharples and Margaret Thatcher, and listing their hobbies as bible reading, more bible reading, and running screaming from boys who give them inappropriate glances.But his final bit I really do agree with
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Mar 22nd 2008, 6:48 am
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Mar 22nd 2008, 7:33 am
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Re: I don't care what you think - Children
Perhaps my difference of opinion is that I have two boys & no daughters!
However, neither of them are grubby & are hopefully being raised to have respect for themselves as well as for girls. They are also being slowly brainwashed into believing that sex should be part of a meaningful relationship!
I would not tolerate my sons bringing home every one night stand in the hope it may deter them but if they are in a long term relationship, then I would rather know where they were for the sake of both my son & his girlfriend!
However, neither of them are grubby & are hopefully being raised to have respect for themselves as well as for girls. They are also being slowly brainwashed into believing that sex should be part of a meaningful relationship!
I would not tolerate my sons bringing home every one night stand in the hope it may deter them but if they are in a long term relationship, then I would rather know where they were for the sake of both my son & his girlfriend!
Mar 22nd 2008, 8:12 am
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Re: I don't care what you think - Children
[QUOTE=JackTheLad;6095128
If I had a boy, I couldn't care less if he had a girlfriend over for the night.
Nice responsible parenting attitude good job there are others like myself who have boys who don't share your parenting skills.
If I had a boy, I couldn't care less if he had a girlfriend over for the night.
Nice responsible parenting attitude
good job there are others like myself who have boys who don't share your parenting skills.
Mar 22nd 2008, 8:19 am
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Perhaps my difference of opinion is that I have two boys & no daughters!
However, neither of them are grubby & are hopefully being raised to have respect for themselves as well as for girls. They are also being slowly brainwashed into believing that sex should be part of a meaningful relationship!
I would not tolerate my sons bringing home every one night stand in the hope it may deter them but if they are in a long term relationship, then I would rather know where they were for the sake of both my son & his girlfriend!
However, neither of them are grubby & are hopefully being raised to have respect for themselves as well as for girls. They are also being slowly brainwashed into believing that sex should be part of a meaningful relationship!
I would not tolerate my sons bringing home every one night stand in the hope it may deter them but if they are in a long term relationship, then I would rather know where they were for the sake of both my son & his girlfriend!
Mar 22nd 2008, 10:49 am
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Re: I don't care what you think - Children
I have 3 girls and a boy.
Kelsey is 14 and keeps on about meeting up with her mates to go to the park after school. I keep saying no cos
1) it was getting dark early when she started asking.
2)i dont really want her hanging around the park doing nothing.
3)she informs me that when her mates meet up some of them are drinking and smoking and one of the girls.....quote 'put this boys willy in her mouth' unquote.
Hmmmmmm and i wonder why she wonders why im not letting her go.
She has mates who are boys and mates who are girls and i trust her enough to meet up with both sexes and either go shopping or go round someones house. I hope i have taught her enough to respect herself as i have told all of my kids that the hardest respect to keep is self respect, once you lose that then its damn hard to get it back.
I dont want her hanging round the park where there are weirdos knocking around.
she went out not so long back and at 5 oclock on a sunday, when it was dark, phones me and informs me she is alone by the park, this park 2 girls aged 16 have at seperate times been raped and one was stabbed...both times around 10ish on a sat morn.
I rush to get her, shes stood with her hood up and didnt even see me till i beeped at her, i drive a bloody 7 seater!!!! she wouldnt have stood a chance if it had been someone else she just wouldnt have seen them!!!
Forgot where im going with this now so im gonna shush.
Nickie
Kelsey is 14 and keeps on about meeting up with her mates to go to the park after school. I keep saying no cos
1) it was getting dark early when she started asking.
2)i dont really want her hanging around the park doing nothing.
3)she informs me that when her mates meet up some of them are drinking and smoking and one of the girls.....quote 'put this boys willy in her mouth' unquote.
Hmmmmmm and i wonder why she wonders why im not letting her go.
She has mates who are boys and mates who are girls and i trust her enough to meet up with both sexes and either go shopping or go round someones house. I hope i have taught her enough to respect herself as i have told all of my kids that the hardest respect to keep is self respect, once you lose that then its damn hard to get it back.
I dont want her hanging round the park where there are weirdos knocking around.
she went out not so long back and at 5 oclock on a sunday, when it was dark, phones me and informs me she is alone by the park, this park 2 girls aged 16 have at seperate times been raped and one was stabbed...both times around 10ish on a sat morn.
I rush to get her, shes stood with her hood up and didnt even see me till i beeped at her, i drive a bloody 7 seater!!!! she wouldnt have stood a chance if it had been someone else she just wouldnt have seen them!!!
Forgot where im going with this now so im gonna shush.
Nickie
Mar 22nd 2008, 11:17 am
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[quote=Streaks;6095769][quote=JackTheLad;6095128
If I had a boy, I couldn't care less if he had a girlfriend over for the night.
Nice responsible parenting attitude good job there are others like myself who have boys who don't share your parenting skills.[/QUOTE]
I have two daughters, I don't care about MY parenting attitude, I'm fine. I care about your parenting skills
Don't bring up a spotty wanker that doesnt know the consequences of unprotected sex. Or in fact any sex.
Until they're 28 obviously
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If I had a boy, I couldn't care less if he had a girlfriend over for the night.
Nice responsible parenting attitude
good job there are others like myself who have boys who don't share your parenting skills.[/QUOTE]I have two daughters, I don't care about MY parenting attitude, I'm fine. I care about your parenting skills
Don't bring up a spotty wanker that doesnt know the consequences of unprotected sex. Or in fact any sex.
Until they're 28 obviously
JTL
Mar 22nd 2008, 11:22 am
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Mar 22nd 2008, 11:31 am
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Re: I don't care what you think - Children
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Mar 22nd 2008, 12:18 pm
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Mar 22nd 2008, 1:09 pm
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Re: I don't care what you think - Children
in my experience it is now the girls that make the first move. my sons are 21 and 19. I have always kept them supplied with free condoms as I didn't want a grandchild when my kids were young.
I have tried to bring mine up that sex happens only in a meaningful relationship but have found you can't beat peer pressure.
I allow mine to have sex under my roof however my son pays me rent and is in a long term relationship I dont think everyone would be quite so happy about this were I not deaf
I have tried to bring mine up that sex happens only in a meaningful relationship but have found you can't beat peer pressure.
I allow mine to have sex under my roof however my son pays me rent and is in a long term relationship I dont think everyone would be quite so happy about this were I not deaf