My OH has family in UK but doesn't give a flying #### about any of them... so he is the most UN homesick person you could want to meet...

Anyone who remembers my posts from 5 years back when I first came here will know that I was ready to love the country, I'd always enjoyed visiting it, I was going to "embrace the Aussie way of life" "live the dream" all that stuff.
I never ever expected to get homesick, but I did. I always remember why I came here, it was to marry the man I love, but fighting delibilitating illnesses, problems with nightmare bullying employers, constant knockbacks from people, all took its toll, and I suddenly realised that there WAS no dream any more.

I love reading that people are happy here and that it works for them, but everyone is different, and for some people Australia just doesn't work. Remembering why you moved here in the first place doesn't solve the problem, I'm afraid, any more than posts from people telling us that the UK is drity and overcrowded etc. The UK - for some of us - will always be "home" its that simple.

And people like AHamm are the lucky ones, who can return home, for a lot of us its more difficult and I'm sure I'm not the only one who is now resigned to living in a place where I feel trapped.

Yup, trapped describes it perfectly!

I suffer with homesickness and I'm sure Sunshine is in no way trying to trivialise it at all, she just aint like that

So glad you you've settled so well Sunshine

C x

Thanks C

I know you are feeling homesick at the moment and I would never do anything to trivialise that as you know. Like scousecarol said I was just trying to put a good feeling out there.

Have pm'd you let me know

G xx

Maybe 'over-simplify' would have been better than trivialise!

I certainly did not mean to cause offence by discussing aspects of your post & if I did so, I apologise!

Yes I can see that I may have over-simplified things. I am really happy here. I will not say that I do not miss the Uk because I do especially the family over there but they all understand why we made the move. Also when I moved back to the uk from Australia after living here for 18 years I did not miss it here but I did live in victoria at the time and are now on the gold coast. Also there is only me and the hubby to consider as we have never had kids. So we don't have grandparents missing the grandchildren and I can imagine that must be hard. I only have 2 neices and they are over here so i now treasure all the time I have with them.

To anyone that I offended with my post by comming accross as being flippant I apologise and truly was just trying to say how happy i was.

Sunshine23

I agree-I was born here and love Aus plus most of my family (not parents alas-mum died, dad in Europe) are here spread around various cities. I can see that I can enjoy a great lifestyle (which is why I came) here when I (hopefully) get over my homesickness but...

I also love the UK having spent 30 years there despite being dirty, overcrowded etc etc etc it's a wonderful place in countless ways. If I am truly honest if I'd won the lottery whilst putting my OH's spouse via through we would probably have stayed in UK-exchanged our 1 bed London flat with big mortgage for nice house on Richmond Hill and had a yearly hol to satisfy my Aus yearnings. I'm not a money orientated person but it certainly does give you more choices-no-one can argue that.

Love or lifestyle whatever brings you here it can be tricky. Respect to everyone seeing it through!

I came here three years ago with my husband and left my parents, brother and other fmaily members. My OH left his children in the UK. They were 17 at the time. We felt settled and comfy here within 2-3 days! It felt so so right!

I never feel homesick for the place. There are aspects I miss...........going to the Lake District (CazBeckham will be laughing at that!), I miss theatreland in London.

I miss people. I will always miss people. I lost my Nan and a close friend whilst being out here and that is the hardest part. I used to see my mum 2-3 times a week so having not seen her for nearly three years is AARRGGHHHHHH!!!!

I found my home/people sickness kicked in at 2 years. We had some horrible days where we just couldnt talk about anyone in the UK (wont say home cos home is Australia!), anything would start us off feeling lousy!

But hey, you work through it. There is good and bad times in life. You work through the bad nad look to the good and make the best of your life!

I do however believe that EVERYONE gets homesick/people sick.............its just that some wont admit it!

Having suffered myself recently I can wholeheartedly agree with this comment.

We arrived Oct 2005, OH got a job, got housing sorted and made a few friends, loved everything. Missed my family of course and some good friends but nothing out of the norm.

Then last June I gave birth to our first baby. My mum had been here for 3 months, my dad came for a couple of weeks and then they went home... and the depression hit. I've never felt so low, yes, I know some of it was to do with PND but the homesickness was so awful. I felt guilty that my nan might never get to meet her first great grandchild and missed my parents SO much.

Now I am almost back to an even keel and the PND is about gone (yippee!), and dont get me wrong, not once did I want to move back BUT I understood what all those people who'd posted about homesickness really meant.

G, I just knew you would settle right away. This is what you have been waiting for. I am just so happy for you, I know it was a long time coming!!
I am about to pm you.
J x

My children and grandchildren are there

Sorry to hear you have had it so rough, that is when family matters, glad your little one is on the mend.

Not sure that you should comment if you have not never suffered, but weel done for seeing other people's points of view. Everyone's is here for all different reasons and different circumstances which affects them.

We had to return to the Uk from Australia two years ago. When I was in OZ I used to miss silly things like pork pies, Sainsburys, some of the TV programmes. When we returned I soon realised that it was all meaningless. As for the people, apart from close family, no one was really interested, they had enough problems of their own to worry about. A night in the pub to tell the story of our adventure and then it was all back to normal. I wouldnt think twice about returning to Australia.