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Originally Posted by shiels

I was full of anything and everything to do with Australia, until I submitted my spouse visa application last week and now its hit home and god am I panicking!!!!!!!! Its all happened sooooo quickly hav'nt had time to think......
so here we are now planning to move our family and life to the other side of the world.............please tell me we are not MAD!!!!!!!! C x

Hi.No one is mad for being brave enough to try new things.Go for it!
PS.I cried when offer came on house as it finally seemed real. Someone else is going to live in my lovely house.I felt bereft. :)

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Originally Posted by Margaret3

Anyone who knows me, will know i have every doubt imaginable about emigrating. I read some threads about people who got their visa and they cant wait.

Cant say i have ever felt like that , i sort of saw it as passing an exam, finally got the bloomin thing, but cant use the 'not having a visa' as an excuse anymore.

Just wondered if anyone else goes through this :)

I am embarassed by this thread, coz we are defo going, but the doubts are

still there :o

On the other hand , and this is how it usually goes, i argue with myself, the thought of sitting here on me backside for another 10 years watching east enders makes me want to jump in the nearest river, I WANT CHANGE :)

Hi Margaret 3

Think we all feel the same, scary proposition but we want to be brave enough to live life - come on we are only here once - whats the worst that can happen - hark at me - 2morro I will be the one sh...ng it.

Where are you headed - how far on is your application!

Talk soon.

Marie

Your off line now but thought Id add my feelings to the mix.

We are very close to our move to Brisbane and we have had many doubts also. They are perfectly natural and viewing on the ole BE can sometimes allay those fears and sometimes add to them. But what yo have to bear in mind above all else Margaret is that "only you can live your life" no-one else. its yours and yours alone. your Kids will have there time of decision making and doubts later on in life but for now,.. its you.

One future vision remains forever seared in my thoughts, When I'm old and in that Piss stained chair looking out across whatever view they afford me at whatever gods waiting room I get,.. I will only and I want to make this very clear ONLY have my memories of what I have seen and felt touched and loved, and its those things that will matter and keep that smile on your face and the contentment in your soul. we come into this world alone and go out the same way. the bit in between is the voyage and every voyage entails travel and change.

So head up shoulders back and best foot forward.

Best of luck! ;)

Mark Kerry and three girls! (Brisbane in January) :beer:

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Originally Posted by Wilgar

HI & thank you .I feel comforted that so many other people have fears/doubts too about making such a big life change. It has seemed to me that most users of BE are wildly happy about their lives Down Under or cannot wait to start it.
We are off ito Sydney in Jan.Husband excited at prospect, 12 y.o son hates us but is coming round to idea ,the younger children seem not to quite grasp the reality of situation and focus on all the fun & excitement of moving (which is great) and I`m living on an emotional rollerocoaster ! Some days cannot wait to start new life and other days not wanting to change what is generally a happy life here.We`re going as husband has been relocated by company but also is Australian and wants to go home for a while.
Of course we could change plans if I really wanted to but we very much believe in nothing ventured nothing gained.I`d hate lying on my death bed wondering what might have been.
My final word is of course you will have doubts,fewer after a glass of wine ,go for it and if it doesn`t work out you can always come home. Or try somewhere else!
Good luck with the sleepless nights!

Good attitude Wilgar, that will take you a long way! Whats the worst that can happen!

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Originally Posted by bloomers

Hi Kerry

Am gonna print your post and keep it close so I can keep focused on negative days - we also hope to go Brisbane or abouts next year, waiting on Visa, cd be a while. Have 3 rugrats also - keep in touch and keep our chins up together. Talk Soon - Marie

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Originally Posted by Margaret3

Rubbish innit, wondering night after night if your doing the right thing, not for yourself, but your family

A move like that is not irreversable! Hard but not impossible. Wouldn't you rather do it and decide it's not for you based on experience than never know and always regrett never trying? Starting again is hard, but life is for living - not being stuck in the same routine day in and day out. You may love it! If not, you will know for sure where you want to be and be happy for the rest of your days knowing you have chosen to be there.....where ever that may be! :D

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Originally Posted by elmtree

but I have a sister who will be totally against it and will hate me for it - not that it will have any impact on her as she lives 250 miles away.

People seem to forget that often their relatives are far enough as it is to preclude anything other than planned, 'a few visits a year', maybe once a year. However once they are in Australia, all of a sudden this gets forgotten and it seemed like they were around the corner- which it would seem like......

My mother lives on the other side of the country and I've seen her 3 times in 7 years! The last time she was a bit cheeky so I walked out - and haven't seen her since. (The second to last time, a few weeks earlier, I saw her was to introduce her to my wife! :scared: )

But we really 'get on' well over email so it's not so bad.

hello margaret :)
We ve been here 18 months now,and its the biggest thing we ve ever done in our lives,we up rooted our then 17 yrs old daughter who got cold feet at the last minute and didnt want to come,sold our house,so we were homeless and sent all our worldly goods to the other side of the world.Has it been easy?not always,is money tight?yes it is,has our life changed?unrecognisable,do we miss england? not at all,have we done the right thing,absolutely YES!
It was a risk,we d never visited australia before,to be honest its not somewhere id even craved to come for a holiday,we just wanted more out of life than working full time for what was essentially 2 weeks holiday a year,we didnt seem to do much else.We were attracted to the more out door lifestyle.We went through the tra,medicals and visa process,never really thinking we d ever actually do it,but we sold our house almost straight away and it was like a daze to be honest,i dont think i really registered that it was real,i know it sounds odd but it felt just like i was going on holiday,it was until we were on our was that it suddenly hit me,OMG im homeless!
We we arrived in brisbane and have made loades of friends,hubby got a job within 3 weeks,im gradually building up my business and my daughter although has found it hard because she had already left school is gradually making a life for herself.Money is tight,we didnt have alot to bring with us, we have a large mortgage but there is so much to do and see here that doesnt cost anything,the lifestyle is so relaxed,we re well away from the fast paced liestyle of the uk,its definately the best move we ve ever made,i would go back now,it was a risk but one worth taking :D so dont worry just take each day as it comes and enjoy exploring your new life,whats the worst that can happen,if you dont like it here you can always move on to somewhere else,the world is a big place.
As for friends and family well the webcams are great and i probably talk to my brother more now im here than i ever did in the uk,and you can look forward,or not :scared: to visits.

tracey