Do you find people 'flakey' here?
Sep 10th 2007, 2:22 pm
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Re: Do you find people 'flakey' here?
I've said to my Mum that I'm tired of whoring myself out in the name of a new friendship. It's just really hard to find people that you 'click' with.
It's a fine line between being open to new friendships and being shat on from a great height! I just haven't found the balance yet.
Sep 10th 2007, 2:29 pm
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Re: Do you find people 'flakey' here?
Didn't really hit it off with the only other Brit I know that lives in my town. Nice enough bloke, but not a lot of common ground between us .. beyond the fact that we were both from the UK, so I left it at that. Don't know if that constitutes flakey behaviour, but I do know where you're coming from Jules.
I don't think your example constitutes flakey behaviour. When it goes on to involve several nights out and the offer is never recipriocated, or trying to involve people that never return the compliment - that's flakey IMO. You didn't click, fair enough.... move on.
On a lighter note, Hutch - you would be proud of us, we signed the whole family up for Surf Lifesaving this weekend. Won't be doing the Bronze though and the budgie smugglers are definately out for the OH
My son has a yellow and black hat - and BOY does he look attractive in it 
I just wish I could get the images of Paul Hogan out of my head!J
Sep 10th 2007, 2:37 pm
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Re: Do you find people 'flakey' here?
It does wear a little thin, doesn't it?
I've said to my Mum that I'm tired of whoring myself out in the name of a new friendship. It's just really hard to find people that you 'click' with.
It's a fine line between being open to new friendships and being shat on from a great height! I just haven't found the balance yet.
I've said to my Mum that I'm tired of whoring myself out in the name of a new friendship. It's just really hard to find people that you 'click' with.
It's a fine line between being open to new friendships and being shat on from a great height! I just haven't found the balance yet.
You've got me started now
Sep 10th 2007, 2:39 pm
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Re: Do you find people 'flakey' here?
Our closest friends in Australia are one couple who live a few mins away, who don't come on this site, a couple with kids in Tasmania (who occasionally posts)- and a handful of other friends...Brits and Aussies...but they are friendships built over time ...not borne from the 'clinging onto the log' situation.
You've got me started now
You've got me started now
) or the clinger? 
Sep 10th 2007, 2:39 pm
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Re: Do you find people 'flakey' here?
WOW! Two Brits in one town! I think we've only got two Aussies
I don't think your example constitutes flakey behaviour. When it goes on to involve several nights out and the offer is never recipriocated, or trying to involve people that never return the compliment - that's flakey IMO. You didn't click, fair enough.... move on.
On a lighter note, Hutch - you would be proud of us, we signed the whole family up for Surf Lifesaving this weekend. Won't be doing the Bronze though and the budgie smugglers are definately out for the OH My son has a yellow and black hat - and BOY does he look attractive in it I just wish I could get the images of Paul Hogan out of my head!
J
I don't think your example constitutes flakey behaviour. When it goes on to involve several nights out and the offer is never recipriocated, or trying to involve people that never return the compliment - that's flakey IMO. You didn't click, fair enough.... move on.
On a lighter note, Hutch - you would be proud of us, we signed the whole family up for Surf Lifesaving this weekend. Won't be doing the Bronze though and the budgie smugglers are definately out for the OH
My son has a yellow and black hat - and BOY does he look attractive in it I just wish I could get the images of Paul Hogan out of my head!J
We know exactly how you feel. We kept aranging things to do with other people, BBQ'S, Bonfire night, Birthdays, Boxing days things ect, we got so fed up with people not bothering to turn up, turn up to nosey round the house then leave, or a couple of times been told they are not comming because they have found something better to do! that we don't bother anymore. We were the ones who did the travelling and saw people round at their houses but only 2 to this day have done the same back, we have been here for 5 years now. By the way we are still in England if anyone is getting confused.
We came to the point of sod them and do our own thing. If someone like minded came along and made the effort, then great. Otherwise we cant be bothered with it all.
IMHO, dont bother arranging big things until you know that they want the same as you. A friendship. Just meet for a few coffee's or lunch, if they don't turn up then it is time on your own with a relaxing coffe and lunch!
This is exactly the same same thing we will do when we get out there. We will have enough on our plates and don't need that kind of behaviour and mentality.
Sep 10th 2007, 2:44 pm
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Re: Do you find people 'flakey' here?
It was from when you said 'survivors clinging to a familiar log' - well, I don't want to be a log any more.
How long have you been here?
I've been here since Jan 2005 ...so see what I meant about me being settled etc...?
How long have you been here?
I've been here since Jan 2005 ...so see what I meant about me being settled etc...?
Sep 10th 2007, 2:46 pm
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Re: Do you find people 'flakey' here?
We know exactly how you feel. We kept aranging things to do with other people, BBQ'S, Bonfire night, Birthdays, Boxing days things ect, we got so fed up with people not bothering to turn up, turn up to nosey round the house then leave, or a couple of times been told they are not comming because they have found something better to do! that we don't bother anymore. We were the ones who did the travelling and saw people round at their houses but only 2 to this day have done the same back, we have been here for 5 years now. By the way we are still in England if anyone is getting confused.
We came to the point of sod them and do our own thing. If someone like minded came along and made the effort, then great. Otherwise we cant be bothered with it all.
IMHO, dont bother arranging big things until you know that they want the same as you. A friendship. Just meet for a few coffee's or lunch, if they don't turn up then it is time on your own with a relaxing coffe and lunch!
This is exactly the same same thing we will do when we get out there. We will have enough on our plates and don't need that kind of behaviour and mentality.
We came to the point of sod them and do our own thing. If someone like minded came along and made the effort, then great. Otherwise we cant be bothered with it all.
IMHO, dont bother arranging big things until you know that they want the same as you. A friendship. Just meet for a few coffee's or lunch, if they don't turn up then it is time on your own with a relaxing coffe and lunch!
This is exactly the same same thing we will do when we get out there. We will have enough on our plates and don't need that kind of behaviour and mentality.
No really, one of the first meets I went to was hard. I didn't have a lot in common with the people there. It wasn't anyones fault it was just one of those things. Horses for courses and all that!
I have found that a lot of the ex pats population that I have met did go on a bit about what they had.
No they didn't they went on a lot lol however, you don't expect to get on with everyone. Jules is cool, a really nice down to earth girl with a lovely family. own teeth and everything. (I live along way from the sea HA! Don't make me laugh) sorry about that, an in joke!
You'll make loads of friends mate and if you don't well..... you'll be lonely lol lol lol.
love lace x
Sep 10th 2007, 2:48 pm
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Re: Do you find people 'flakey' here?
On a lighter note, Hutch - you would be proud of us, we signed the whole family up for Surf Lifesaving this weekend. Won't be doing the Bronze though and the budgie smugglers are definately out for the OH My son has a yellow and black hat - and BOY does he look attractive in it I just wish I could get the images of Paul Hogan out of my head!
J
My son has a yellow and black hat - and BOY does he look attractive in it I just wish I could get the images of Paul Hogan out of my head!J
Sep 10th 2007, 2:48 pm
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Re: Do you find people 'flakey' here?
Just have to keep trying I guess until we find like-minded people. Didn't think we were that rare!
Sep 10th 2007, 2:49 pm
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Re: Do you find people 'flakey' here?
I know what you mean and you know that I know that. lol
No really, one of the first meets I went to was hard. I didn't have a lot in common with the people there. It wasn't anyones fault it was just one of those things. Horses for courses and all that!
I have found that a lot of the ex pats population that I have met did go on a bit about what they had.
No they didn't they went on a lot lol however, you don't expect to get on with everyone. Jules is cool, a really nice down to earth girl with a lovely family. own teeth and everything. (I live along way from the sea HA! Don't make me laugh) sorry about that, an in joke!
You'll make loads of friends mate and if you don't well..... you'll be lonely lol lol lol.
love lace x
No really, one of the first meets I went to was hard. I didn't have a lot in common with the people there. It wasn't anyones fault it was just one of those things. Horses for courses and all that!
I have found that a lot of the ex pats population that I have met did go on a bit about what they had.
No they didn't they went on a lot lol however, you don't expect to get on with everyone. Jules is cool, a really nice down to earth girl with a lovely family. own teeth and everything. (I live along way from the sea HA! Don't make me laugh) sorry about that, an in joke!
You'll make loads of friends mate and if you don't well..... you'll be lonely lol lol lol.
love lace x
Sep 10th 2007, 2:50 pm
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Re: Do you find people 'flakey' here?
I might be lonely, but at least I can walk to the beach
........................... and drown myself with despair lol!Love ya!
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Sep 10th 2007, 2:52 pm
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Re: Do you find people 'flakey' here?
Sep 10th 2007, 2:58 pm
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Re: Do you find people 'flakey' here?
dont start you shed or you'll be sitting lonely on Wed lol
STOP PICKING ON MY BEACH
see what I mean this is why the girl has no mates lol
we can always meet at the vernon on Fri. if ya want!!
Lace xxx
STOP PICKING ON MY BEACH
see what I mean this is why the girl has no mates lol
we can always meet at the vernon on Fri. if ya want!!
Lace xxx
Sep 10th 2007, 2:59 pm
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Re: Do you find people 'flakey' here?
Thats what I meant before...our close friends just 'appeared' so to speak
Sep 10th 2007, 3:05 pm
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