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Pomster Apr 14th 2012 8:08 am
The call came
 
One (of several) reason(s) we decided to stay a while in UK was because my mother was in poor health- dementia and fraility.

Over the last couple of weeks I have been driving back and forth to see her as often as I can.(she lives couple of hours away)

Last week on the way home from work I got the call to say her final hours were close. Phoned home to get Mr P to pack a bag and we drove off to the place my mother was based.

I sat with her for 4 hours til she took her last breath. Horrible awful experience but I guess I'm glad I was based in the UK and could be with her, even though it was painful to experience.

Hope no one else is experiencing this from afar.

Turban Explorer Apr 14th 2012 8:17 am
Re: The call came
 
Originally Posted by Pomster (Post 10005725)
One (of several) reason(s) we decided to stay a while in UK was because my mother was in poor health- dementia and fraility.

Over the last couple of weeks I have been driving back and forth to see her as often as I can.(she lives couple of hours away)

Last week on the way home from work I got the call to say her final hours were close. Phoned home to get Mr P to pack a bag and we drove off to the place my mother was based.

I sat with her for 4 hours til she took her last breath. Horrible awful experience but I guess I'm glad I was based in the UK and could be with her, even though it was painful to experience.

Hope no one else is experiencing this from afar.
You were nearby and were there for her - that's everything you could do. All my sympathies. :sad_smile:

rasen78 Apr 14th 2012 8:21 am
Re: The call came
 
Originally Posted by Pomster (Post 10005725)
One (of several) reason(s) we decided to stay a while in UK was because my mother was in poor health- dementia and fraility.

Over the last couple of weeks I have been driving back and forth to see her as often as I can.(she lives couple of hours away)

Last week on the way home from work I got the call to say her final hours were close. Phoned home to get Mr P to pack a bag and we drove off to the place my mother was based.

I sat with her for 4 hours til she took her last breath. Horrible awful experience but I guess I'm glad I was based in the UK and could be with her, even though it was painful to experience.

Hope no one else is experiencing this from afar.
So sorry for your loss Xx

quoll Apr 14th 2012 8:33 am
Re: The call came
 
Sympathies to you and your family - at least you were there and she knew she was loved (((hugs)))

Bernieboy Apr 14th 2012 11:00 am
Re: The call came
 
Big hug mate.:thumbup:

paulry Apr 14th 2012 11:12 am
Re: The call came
 
Originally Posted by Pomster (Post 10005725)
One (of several) reason(s) we decided to stay a while in UK was because my mother was in poor health- dementia and fraility.

Over the last couple of weeks I have been driving back and forth to see her as often as I can.(she lives couple of hours away)

Last week on the way home from work I got the call to say her final hours were close. Phoned home to get Mr P to pack a bag and we drove off to the place my mother was based.

I sat with her for 4 hours til she took her last breath. Horrible awful experience but I guess I'm glad I was based in the UK and could be with her, even though it was painful to experience.

Hope no one else is experiencing this from afar.
Sorry about you and your family's sad loss.

Dorothy Apr 14th 2012 11:55 am
Re: The call came
 
Originally Posted by Pomster (Post 10005725)
One (of several) reason(s) we decided to stay a while in UK was because my mother was in poor health- dementia and fraility.

Over the last couple of weeks I have been driving back and forth to see her as often as I can.(she lives couple of hours away)

Last week on the way home from work I got the call to say her final hours were close. Phoned home to get Mr P to pack a bag and we drove off to the place my mother was based.

I sat with her for 4 hours til she took her last breath. Horrible awful experience but I guess I'm glad I was based in the UK and could be with her, even though it was painful to experience.

Hope no one else is experiencing this from afar.
I'm really sorry for your loss. I'm sure it meant a lot to her to have you there in her final hours.

eddie007 Apr 14th 2012 4:35 pm
Re: The call came
 
Just popped in to say how sorry I am for you.... You're lucky to have been nearby and you WILL look back and be glad that you were there at the end, its a tremendous priviledge and you know for sure how it happened.... Its so bloody hard at the time, but its a good thing.... its so many peoples one regret.....

Cyber hugs

Jan4kids Apr 15th 2012 2:17 am
Re: The call came
 
[QUOTE=eddie007;10006135]Just popped in to say how sorry I am for you.... You're lucky to have been nearby and you WILL look back and be glad that you were there at the end, its a tremendous priviledge and you know for sure how it happened.... Its so bloody hard at the time, but its a good thing.... its so many peoples one regret.....

Cyber hugs[/QUOT

How very true Eddie x

I was holding my Dads hand when he died......yes very traumatic, but you'll be SO glad you were there with your Mum in the future. My Mum died as I was flying back......TRYING to be with her :(

I'm so sorry for you, butyou should be very proud that you did the right thing for you Mum xx

Jan

alipally Apr 15th 2012 2:24 am
Re: The call came
 
So sorry for your loss :(

Glad you made the decision to go back and be with her.

My thoughts are with you and your family at this sad time.

DeadVim Apr 15th 2012 2:26 am
Re: The call came
 
Originally Posted by Pomster (Post 10005725)
One (of several) reason(s) we decided to stay a while in UK was because my mother was in poor health- dementia and fraility.

Over the last couple of weeks I have been driving back and forth to see her as often as I can.(she lives couple of hours away)

Last week on the way home from work I got the call to say her final hours were close. Phoned home to get Mr P to pack a bag and we drove off to the place my mother was based.

I sat with her for 4 hours til she took her last breath. Horrible awful experience but I guess I'm glad I was based in the UK and could be with her, even though it was painful to experience.

Hope no one else is experiencing this from afar.
Sorry to hear about your loss, it sounds like you did all you could to comfort her.

soapy© Apr 15th 2012 2:30 am
Re: The call came
 
Originally Posted by Pomster (Post 10005725)

I sat with her for 4 hours til she took her last breath. Horrible awful experience .
phew! this brought it back to me. its strange. sometimes i struggle to picture my mum as the happy wee woman she was. but i can remember that moment without even having to think :(

everyone says times a healer and it is
but its a long time and i hope you have the right people around you to help you through this
for a long time i was comforted by the thought that i was there at the end

now i wish i hadn't

everyones different though and i do hope those last moments will help you through your loss

chris and farideh Apr 15th 2012 3:44 am
Re: The call came
 
Sorry for your loss, glad that you could be there with her my thoughts are with your family.

irishbloo Apr 15th 2012 9:51 am
Re: The call came
 
Sorry to hear of your loss.May your Mum rest in peace.Her pain is over.You will find some days harder than others.Be kind to your self and treasure your memories.x

OakTree Apr 15th 2012 9:15 pm
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Sorry to hear of your loss. May her soul rest in peace.

Take care xx


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