Originally Posted by iPom

I know someone with it, but I don't live with them. It depends on the severity of the condition to be honest. My friend eventually got a divorce from her hub, because he was too difficult to live with. Understanding the condition can help you live with it, but I think you need the patience of a saint to do that. My friend in the UK was in lots of support groups but at the end of the day, her husband was cold, disinterested, lacked empathy and was completely obsessed with trains and electronic things... It drove them apart. Once they were divorced, it didn't seem to affect him very much, but she was devastated... and guilty too.
Difficult situation.

Originally Posted by Australia_bound?

Sounds a fairly mild form of behaviours then! There are lots of books on the condition to swot up on if necessary, maybe he could do with reading about the condition so as to explain it to himself a bit more. So he can understand why he is the way he is and how best he can deal with things!
Have they got any kids? Have to say seems to run in the family although the experts seem to think it doesn't, quite a few of the kids I work with have fathers in particular who display very AS type behaviours

Originally Posted by Vash the Stampede

• My father
  
  
• The eldest daughter of some close friends in Adelaide
  
  
• My wife (high school teacher) used to teach a boy with Asperger's

It can be relatively simple to cope with if it's not too severe; in the case of my friends' daughter, you'd only know if you were told.

Originally Posted by glittababe

Its not that bad, my son gets on with life in his own little world. He has a girlfriend, close mates, none of whom have ever said anything nasty about him or his little ways. The only time I got upset (Cameron wasn't) was when I overheard one of my friends children calling Cameron "weird". He's not weird, he just has a set routine and needs plenty of reassurance. He still has a comfort blanket and can't handle large groups of people or anywhere unknown to him. He has a thing for the colour red (red is safety so I've always had a red coloured car) and he always needs to know the safety features of everything (from fire escapes to number of air bags in a car). He gets A's for maths and sciences and can follow instructions perfectly. If he finds himself in a situation where he has no control, he throws a wobbler which will include headbutting things! Up until recently he was keeping his room in a very organised way (from certain drawers for certain t-shirts to alphabetically organising his books), but teenage hormones are kicking in and he's starting to relax a bit about cleanliness. Oh and he has a thing about time, we have to leave the house by 07.45hrs or we go nowhere!

It took 7 years to diagnose Cameron. The first symtoms were spotted by our Health Visitor and GP in the UK. We went through various child development tests, attended lots of different centres before he was finally referred to a specialised unit at Gt Ormond St. One of the things they do is to put parent's through similar tests to see if it could be learnt behaviour from a parent, or genetic. I was fine, but poor hubby Mark was told "your in the autistic spectrum". Mark refused to take it any further as he functions perfectly well and says over the years he has learnt to adapt his behaviour around others. In fact he doesn't view himself as having any social probs!

All in all its not a major thing, when we went for our medicals for the visa, they didn't even want his hospital notes! The Dr said he was a happy and healthy lad with no major learning difficulties. In the UK he was on a record of support followed by statementing, here he doesn't need any help. The teachers are aware and never put him in any situations he'd feel uncomfortable with (like public speaking or huge group work).

Originally Posted by annqldau

A lot of what you say about your sons behaviour sounds very like friends husband behaviour still as an adult. He doesn't like his daughter to have too many friends around as can't cope.

Originally Posted by glittababe

Mind you I can't cope with a house full of kids either! Must admit a lot of what Cameron says and does goes over my head now; today driving to the dentist he said "mum do you know its been 4 mins and 30 secs since we left the house?" 5 mins later "Mum do you know its been 9 mins and 48 secs since we left the house" .........ummm and it went on like that. After a while you kinda switch off.

Originally Posted by annqldau

Suppose you allow more for children where with husbands you just want to pan their head in...

Originally Posted by glittababe

or turn to alcohol! It comes in handy for some things, Mark's a very organised person, if I leave him a list of things to do - it gets done plus the items get ticked off along the way, the house is spotless (he loves everything to be clean and I'm talking with bleach), he's a whizz at anything technical and he can fix just about anything (his nickname has always been McGuyver - the tv character that could make a bomb out of a paper clip and an elacy band)! Oh and he's a zero tolerant man re alcohol which means I can always have a drink when we go out, cos he'll always drive!

Originally Posted by annqldau

Can I borrow him?

Originally Posted by moneypen20

Join the queue

Originally Posted by annqldau

I asked for him first especially like the driving bit... .

Originally Posted by moneypen20

I had a bit of a thing about McGuyver

Originally Posted by glittababe

Can I charge?

Originally Posted by rowson_anne

I advise you to read

"a curious incident of a dog in the night time"

http://www.play.com/Books/Books/4-/7...e/Product.html

ive coppied a link to the book on play.com for you...

This book is a true story, and besed on a young boy who has aspergers syndrome...anyone can learn so much from it....its an extremly well written piece...

hope that helps

Annemarie

Originally Posted by annqldau

Yes unlike Autism they can function in normal jobs and get married etc. but it is the rituals and lack of social graces that often make it apparent. Have come across people who collect empty coke cans on mass and also take cars to bits but never put them back together as it is the ritual of collecting or stripping the cars down that is their obsession.