Aspergers do you know some one with it?
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Aspergers do you know some one with it?
Hello
Girl I work with has just been told by Doctors her husband has Aspergers but he's quite old, has anyone else lived with an adult with Aspergers? Have met plenty of patients with it but was just wanting peoples real life experiences of living with someone with the condition???
Girl I work with has just been told by Doctors her husband has Aspergers but he's quite old, has anyone else lived with an adult with Aspergers? Have met plenty of patients with it but was just wanting peoples real life experiences of living with someone with the condition???
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Re: Aspergers do you know some one with it?
I know someone with it, but I don't live with them. It depends on the severity of the condition to be honest. My friend eventually got a divorce from her hub, because he was too difficult to live with. Understanding the condition can help you live with it, but I think you need the patience of a saint to do that. My friend in the UK was in lots of support groups but at the end of the day, her husband was cold, disinterested, lacked empathy and was completely obsessed with trains and electronic things... It drove them apart. Once they were divorced, it didn't seem to affect him very much, but she was devastated... and guilty too.
Difficult situation.
Difficult situation.
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Re: Aspergers do you know some one with it?
I know someone with it, but I don't live with them. It depends on the severity of the condition to be honest. My friend eventually got a divorce from her hub, because he was too difficult to live with. Understanding the condition can help you live with it, but I think you need the patience of a saint to do that. My friend in the UK was in lots of support groups but at the end of the day, her husband was cold, disinterested, lacked empathy and was completely obsessed with trains and electronic things... It drove them apart. Once they were divorced, it didn't seem to affect him very much, but she was devastated... and guilty too.
Difficult situation.
Difficult situation.
I like spontaneity in most things.
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Re: Aspergers do you know some one with it?
I know someone with it, but I don't live with them. It depends on the severity of the condition to be honest. My friend eventually got a divorce from her hub, because he was too difficult to live with. Understanding the condition can help you live with it, but I think you need the patience of a saint to do that. My friend in the UK was in lots of support groups but at the end of the day, her husband was cold, disinterested, lacked empathy and was completely obsessed with trains and electronic things... It drove them apart. Once they were divorced, it didn't seem to affect him very much, but she was devastated... and guilty too.
Difficult situation.
Difficult situation.
I only ever worked with a young boy with this, he was 7 and a big handfull. Sorry this doesn't help you at all.
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Re: Aspergers do you know some one with it?
not an adult, sorry. as above, i was a teachers aide to a 9/10 year old boy in the uk. not much help, i am sorry. it is late in the day to be diagnosed though, but at least they now have something to work towards.
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Re: Aspergers do you know some one with it?
I know someone with it, but I don't live with them. It depends on the severity of the condition to be honest. My friend eventually got a divorce from her hub, because he was too difficult to live with. Understanding the condition can help you live with it, but I think you need the patience of a saint to do that. My friend in the UK was in lots of support groups but at the end of the day, her husband was cold, disinterested, lacked empathy and was completely obsessed with trains and electronic things... It drove them apart. Once they were divorced, it didn't seem to affect him very much, but she was devastated... and guilty too.
Difficult situation.
Difficult situation.
apart from the trains thing!
i've often wondered if he was a sufferer, but like SB i've only ever worked with children with this condition,
I know it is often over looked in adults
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Re: Aspergers do you know some one with it?
Yes unlike Autism they can function in normal jobs and get married etc. but it is the rituals and lack of social graces that often make it apparent. Have come across people who collect empty coke cans on mass and also take cars to bits but never put them back together as it is the ritual of collecting or stripping the cars down that is their obsession.
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I work with lads in year 11 (last year of school) who are fantastic people. One is very self centred, the other very argumentative and fully aware of his condition - he also has ADHD.
He also tells me that he won't work as he 'has no social skills as you know and if you don't you should read my bl**dy file'.
Somedays it does feel like I live with them - 6 hours a day - as I feel like a nag and he often asks why my husband puts up with me!!
I wouldn't change things for all the world but having said this, I know how difficult things are for families as I can walk out of the door at 3.30pm.
J x
He also tells me that he won't work as he 'has no social skills as you know and if you don't you should read my bl**dy file'.
Somedays it does feel like I live with them - 6 hours a day - as I feel like a nag and he often asks why my husband puts up with me!!
I wouldn't change things for all the world but having said this, I know how difficult things are for families as I can walk out of the door at 3.30pm.
J x
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Re: Aspergers do you know some one with it?
Hello
Girl I work with has just been told by Doctors her husband has Aspergers but he's quite old, has anyone else lived with an adult with Aspergers? Have met plenty of patients with it but was just wanting peoples real life experiences of living with someone with the condition???
Girl I work with has just been told by Doctors her husband has Aspergers but he's quite old, has anyone else lived with an adult with Aspergers? Have met plenty of patients with it but was just wanting peoples real life experiences of living with someone with the condition???
Work long hours so virtually live with them during term time! What exactly are you wanting to know?
Each one is very individual and severity of condition can vary from one extreme to the other. I take it if he's been diagnosed later in life he'll be mildly obsessive about things such as lining up tins in the kitchen cupboard so they all face forward . Kids I work with can be very impulsive at times and don't handle confrontation well, some can appear very normal until their trigger is found, others are very wacky all of the time and have strange obsessions that they frequently talk about!
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Re: Aspergers do you know some one with it?
I work with lads in year 11 (last year of school) who are fantastic people. One is very self centred, the other very argumentative and fully aware of his condition - he also has ADHD.
He also tells me that he won't work as he 'has no social skills as you know and if you don't you should read my bl**dy file'.
Somedays it does feel like I live with them - 6 hours a day - as I feel like a nag and he often asks why my husband puts up with me!!
I wouldn't change things for all the world but having said this, I know how difficult things are for families as I can walk out of the door at 3.30pm.
J x
He also tells me that he won't work as he 'has no social skills as you know and if you don't you should read my bl**dy file'.
Somedays it does feel like I live with them - 6 hours a day - as I feel like a nag and he often asks why my husband puts up with me!!
I wouldn't change things for all the world but having said this, I know how difficult things are for families as I can walk out of the door at 3.30pm.
J x
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Re: Aspergers do you know some one with it?
I work with at a school full of them Is never a dull moment
Work long hours so virtually live with them during term time! What exactly are you wanting to know?
Each one is very individual and severity of condition can vary from one extreme to the other. I take it if he's been diagnosed later in life he'll be mildly obsessive about things such as lining up tins in the kitchen cupboard so they all face forward . Kids I work with can be very impulsive at times and don't handle confrontation well, some can appear very normal until their trigger is found, others are very wacky all of the time and have strange obsessions that they frequently talk about!
Work long hours so virtually live with them during term time! What exactly are you wanting to know?
Each one is very individual and severity of condition can vary from one extreme to the other. I take it if he's been diagnosed later in life he'll be mildly obsessive about things such as lining up tins in the kitchen cupboard so they all face forward . Kids I work with can be very impulsive at times and don't handle confrontation well, some can appear very normal until their trigger is found, others are very wacky all of the time and have strange obsessions that they frequently talk about!
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Re: Aspergers do you know some one with it?
Have they got any kids? Have to say seems to run in the family although the experts seem to think it doesn't, quite a few of the kids I work with have fathers in particular who display very AS type behaviours
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Re: Aspergers do you know some one with it?
Hello
Girl I work with has just been told by Doctors her husband has Aspergers but he's quite old, has anyone else lived with an adult with Aspergers? Have met plenty of patients with it but was just wanting peoples real life experiences of living with someone with the condition???
Girl I work with has just been told by Doctors her husband has Aspergers but he's quite old, has anyone else lived with an adult with Aspergers? Have met plenty of patients with it but was just wanting peoples real life experiences of living with someone with the condition???
- My father
- The eldest daughter of some close friends in Adelaide
- My wife (high school teacher) used to teach a boy with Asperger's
It can be relatively simple to cope with if it's not too severe; in the case of my friends' daughter, you'd only know if you were told.
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Re: Aspergers do you know some one with it?
Hello
Girl I work with has just been told by Doctors her husband has Aspergers but he's quite old, has anyone else lived with an adult with Aspergers? Have met plenty of patients with it but was just wanting peoples real life experiences of living with someone with the condition???
Girl I work with has just been told by Doctors her husband has Aspergers but he's quite old, has anyone else lived with an adult with Aspergers? Have met plenty of patients with it but was just wanting peoples real life experiences of living with someone with the condition???
It took 7 years to diagnose Cameron. The first symtoms were spotted by our Health Visitor and GP in the UK. We went through various child development tests, attended lots of different centres before he was finally referred to a specialised unit at Gt Ormond St. One of the things they do is to put parent's through similar tests to see if it could be learnt behaviour from a parent, or genetic. I was fine, but poor hubby Mark was told "your in the autistic spectrum". Mark refused to take it any further as he functions perfectly well and says over the years he has learnt to adapt his behaviour around others. In fact he doesn't view himself as having any social probs!
All in all its not a major thing, when we went for our medicals for the visa, they didn't even want his hospital notes! The Dr said he was a happy and healthy lad with no major learning difficulties. In the UK he was on a record of support followed by statementing, here he doesn't need any help. The teachers are aware and never put him in any situations he'd feel uncomfortable with (like public speaking or huge group work).