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Old Apr 2nd 2024, 11:24 pm
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Avomine is good for sleeping - as someone who gets motion sick, an avomine will also help lull you off into the land of nod. Equally good for the motion sick are hyoscine transdermal patches which you can get OTC in UK (just one or two) but arent available in Aus unfortunately. They aid sleep too!!!! I usually knit a lot and watch movies, walk around and stretch and get a few hours of kip in as well. I tend to be asleep before wheels up on a good day. Next flight I am going via Melbourne to Heathrow via Perth, my preferred option.
I'll check it out. My doctor prescribed Temazapine. I haven't looked it up yet but he claimed no lasting impact in the sense of drowsiness. Don't get on well with the recycled air on planes. Some airlines worse than others. I find an aisle seat best in preventing the feeling of being trapped. Nothing worse than being seated next to someone that sleeps most the flight and feel unable to disturb with any degree of frequency.
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Old Apr 2nd 2024, 11:30 pm
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Originally Posted by brits1
Giving advice is not whinging, if you do not like the advice then fine but to call it whinging is a big ignorant and rude to say. We bought a home within a few months of arriving in Aus, we both gained good jobs and made friends really quickly with peoples from various continents, we did not even visit the UK for our first 7 years as we wanted to explore Australia which we certainly did that, but for some whatever reason that may be a new country may never be home, I can also say that beaches and parks are not enough for some, we enjoyed doing that type of things at weekends but not really in the summer way too hot and not enough shade plus after a few years we found that a bit boring, that was us but for others it may be the “bee’s knees” and in all of my life here in the UK I have never been pigeon holed, if I/we want to do “something “ we do etc. In my own personal experience no where is perfect.
Alternative views should be welcomed. With so many of the old cliches now increasingly discredited, it should surely be time the 'old' Whingeing Pom should be laid to rest. Goodness, what is unfolding in this country should be shouted from the roof tops. The gravity is severe and the silence is deafening.
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Old Apr 7th 2024, 10:28 pm
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If the OP is still with us...I wonder if he and his wife have considered the compromise of a "trial run": going to Oz for just a year, and coming back if there is too much unhappiness. If they've been married long enough to have a three-year-old child, they have probably encountered a few situations already in their life together, that have required some kind of compromise. And a year isn't forever. What does the Team think?
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Old Apr 7th 2024, 11:35 pm
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Originally Posted by Gordon Barlow
If the OP is still with us...I wonder if he and his wife have considered the compromise of a "trial run": going to Oz for just a year, and coming back if there is too much unhappiness. If they've been married long enough to have a three-year-old child, they have probably encountered a few situations already in their life together, that have required some kind of compromise. And a year isn't forever. What does the Team think?
I thought along those lines as well. Where I would be a bit reluctant though is the scarcity of rentals. (especially with a young child) It would be difficult, I imagine to stay in a Back packers? But definitely a good idea to get a feel for the country before deciding on a longer stay.
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Old Apr 7th 2024, 11:43 pm
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I thought along those lines as well. Where I would be a bit reluctant though is the scarcity of rentals. (especially with a young child) It would be difficult, I imagine to stay in a Back packers? But definitely a good idea to get a feel for the country before deciding on a longer stay.
Yes, I take your point. But I assumed (?) that the Police Force would find a place for them to live. (Although the Police might well require a commitment longer than one year!)
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Old Apr 8th 2024, 1:52 am
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Originally Posted by Gordon Barlow
If the OP is still with us...I wonder if he and his wife have considered the compromise of a "trial run": going to Oz for just a year, and coming back if there is too much unhappiness. If they've been married long enough to have a three-year-old child, they have probably encountered a few situations already in their life together, that have required some kind of compromise. And a year isn't forever. What does the Team think?
The cost of shipping your home contents, plus airline tickets, alone likely makes the cost prohibitive, not to meantion sales of cars and buying replacements in Aus.

Unless you were recently a happy back-packing student, the idea of rocking up in Aus with the contents of two suitcases each and attempting to set up your life without spending a substantial amount on furniture and homewares (kitchen utensils, tablewares, bedding and towels, plus additional clothing) seems like a recipe for stacking the odds, heavily, against a happy and successful trial run. And then there's the cost of going home if the trial "fails", and either facing the cost of shipping newly purchased stuff back, or discarding it to get back down to the two-suitcases-each limit.

In short, I think the "try it for 12 months" is simply a bad idea for a family,
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Old Apr 8th 2024, 8:10 am
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Originally Posted by Gordon Barlow
Yes, I take your point. But I assumed (?) that the Police Force would find a place for them to live. (Although the Police might well require a commitment longer than one year!)
It well be the case. Thing is there is a high level of disgruntlement within the police. At least there is in WA. (record number leaving) Just the fact that it appears more of a discovery tour to see if like and fit (as in a year) suggests to me fraught with possible issues.
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If the OP is still with us...I wonder if he and his wife have considered the compromise of a "trial run": going to Oz for just a year, and coming back if there is too much unhappiness. If they've been married long enough to have a three-year-old child, they have probably encountered a few situations already in their life together, that have required some kind of compromise. And a year isn't forever. What does the Team think?
This team member is very much against giving it a go for a year or two - sorry but there is no guarantee that if one says nah, I hate it I want to go home, the other wont say "tough bikkies, I wont let you take the child" and if they are here on a visa that gives them some longevity all the court will say is that they are habitually resident here and wont let a child leave, no matter how much of a drop kick the other parent is. We have seen so many times that goalposts have been changed and someone ends up very unhappy - if there were a way around it, maybe like a signed contract of "if one of us hates it we will go home" but I expect the law would just chuckle at that and say too bad, too sad. It would be nice if you could be sure that everyone would stand by an agreement but, sadly, lots of people dont. In theory it is OK but not something I would do if I were a reluctant participant and if there was a child involved.
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Old Apr 8th 2024, 4:38 pm
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Yes, Pulaski is right. I go back to my original advice: Don't go. Born in Australia, I can say that every one of my ancestors was an emigrant/immigrant. But in those non-divorce times, once the boat sailed from England, there was no going back. And there was no telephone or WhatsApp either. Only postal letters, telling of the wretched circumstances - and no doubt many of them (the letters) saying what a swine the husband was for making his family move!
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Old Apr 9th 2024, 9:14 am
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Originally Posted by Gordon Barlow
If the OP is still with us...I wonder if he and his wife have considered the compromise of a "trial run": going to Oz for just a year, and coming back if there is too much unhappiness. If they've been married long enough to have a three-year-old child, they have probably encountered a few situations already in their life together, that have required some kind of compromise. And a year isn't forever. What does the Team think?
They could always give that option “a go” but I have known quite a number of “couples” who have tried that and bar one couple that option did not work out for the others ie one wanted to stay the other did not, children loved it wanted to stay parents did not and wanted to leave but felt guilty doing so stayed and they eventually separated or the other couple where the original partner (who wanted the move) was very unsettled and eventually left Aus leaving their ex being very happy in Australia. Migrating can open a can of worms, you can work through “things” if both are on the same ish page or by really listening to each others concerns and working on from that, my dad use to say “some things in life just take a bit hard work and compromise sometimes it worth it and for others life has a different plan”

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