what would you do?
Nov 12th 2004 | 1:12 pm
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what would you do?..possible flight ticket for sale
Hiya peeps...
Now what would you do in this situation?
Mum and auntie got flights booked and arriving Friday 19th ...next week.
Getting things ready for arrival..as you do!
Rang mum last night to chat with her..all excited like!....she says....
"I can't come!!!"
"Why?"
Heart sink ........sob!
Well it turns out that my mum has been having panic atacks...(worse than she has let on before)..mainly during the night and is very worried about the flight incase she has one on plane and cant control it!
I was stunned to say the least and ofcourse very upset as are the kids.
Anyway after long chats with her and my aunt it looks as if she isnt going to come but maybe later after she has tried hypnotherapy.
I can totally understand why she wouldnt want it to happen on the plane and I know she hasnt taken the decision not to come lightly because I know how much she wants to come.
She is already on tablets and has been for 10 weeks or so....not helping and Dr says too late to try to stop those and start something else...
Pity she cant be anaesthetised for the flight
My gut feeling is ...right I will go and get her and hold her hand all the way...she'll be ok then..and if I thought she would be then I would do it. Hubby doesnt want me really beacause it would mean(if I could get a flight ofcourse) flying there and back in a few days...and the risk of dvt etc high....
I think I just have to accept the fact that she might have to come over later when she is better...but its soooooooooooooo disappointing
PS....I think she is going to cancel the flights today and I suppose if she could sell it she wouldnt lose out much...so if any of you guys need a flight....manchester to perth via singapore thurs 18th nov ..singapore airlines...let me know!
Now what would you do in this situation?
Mum and auntie got flights booked and arriving Friday 19th ...next week.
Getting things ready for arrival..as you do!
Rang mum last night to chat with her..all excited like!....she says....
"I can't come!!!"
"Why?"
Heart sink ........sob!
Well it turns out that my mum has been having panic atacks...(worse than she has let on before)..mainly during the night and is very worried about the flight incase she has one on plane and cant control it!
I was stunned to say the least and ofcourse very upset as are the kids.
Anyway after long chats with her and my aunt it looks as if she isnt going to come but maybe later after she has tried hypnotherapy.
I can totally understand why she wouldnt want it to happen on the plane and I know she hasnt taken the decision not to come lightly because I know how much she wants to come.
She is already on tablets and has been for 10 weeks or so....not helping and Dr says too late to try to stop those and start something else...
Pity she cant be anaesthetised for the flight
My gut feeling is ...right I will go and get her and hold her hand all the way...she'll be ok then..and if I thought she would be then I would do it. Hubby doesnt want me really beacause it would mean(if I could get a flight ofcourse) flying there and back in a few days...and the risk of dvt etc high....
I think I just have to accept the fact that she might have to come over later when she is better...but its soooooooooooooo disappointing
PS....I think she is going to cancel the flights today and I suppose if she could sell it she wouldnt lose out much...so if any of you guys need a flight....manchester to perth via singapore thurs 18th nov ..singapore airlines...let me know!
Last edited by yvsie; Nov 12th 2004 at 1:19 pm.
Nov 12th 2004 | 1:23 pm
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Re: what would you do?
Oh Yvsie, you must be gutted... I know I would be.
I would try and stay positive, at least she has realised she has a problem and wants to get it sorted (my MIL just won't come, whatever). Has the doctor been helpful in giving her choices for hypnotherapy + do you know what would be involved? I wonder if a purely psycholgical approach would be better than medication?
Sorry not to be of much help, but sending you a huge cyber hug... I'm sure your mum will be over as soon as she can.
Take care
Larissa
I would try and stay positive, at least she has realised she has a problem and wants to get it sorted (my MIL just won't come, whatever). Has the doctor been helpful in giving her choices for hypnotherapy + do you know what would be involved? I wonder if a purely psycholgical approach would be better than medication?
Sorry not to be of much help, but sending you a huge cyber hug... I'm sure your mum will be over as soon as she can.
Take care
Larissa
Nov 12th 2004 | 1:27 pm
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thanks larissa...yeah feel pretty crap this morning..
its funny but weve joked about her coming and thinking oh god 3 months is a long time and will it be difficult for us...you know will we all get along well etc.....
its funny but weve joked about her coming and thinking oh god 3 months is a long time and will it be difficult for us...you know will we all get along well etc.....
Nov 12th 2004 | 1:34 pm
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Awww.. I'm sorry to hear that Yvsie! I know exactly how you must feel because my mother and sister were supposed to be here for my wedding but due to some extenuating circumstances... didn't make it.
It's may be a long while before they can come too. Chin up, love! Take it a day at a time and let's hope that you're mum finds something to soothe her nerves for the flight.
Siren
It's may be a long while before they can come too. Chin up, love! Take it a day at a time and let's hope that you're mum finds something to soothe her nerves for the flight.
Siren
Nov 12th 2004 | 1:57 pm
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Re: what would you do?
Oh Yvsie, I'm so sorry to hear that. Hope you all find a way to overcome it. Perhaps hypnotherapy would be the way to go?
Big hug coming your way
Big hug coming your way
Nov 12th 2004 | 2:32 pm
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Re: what would you do?
Oh yes... and karma sent your way! lol
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Nov 12th 2004 | 7:22 pm
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Re: what would you do?..possible flight ticket for sale
Originally Posted by yvsie
Hiya peeps...
Now what would you do in this situation?
Mum and auntie got flights booked and arriving Friday 19th ...next week.
Getting things ready for arrival..as you do!
Rang mum last night to chat with her..all excited like!....she says....
"I can't come!!!"
"Why?"
Heart sink ........sob!
Well it turns out that my mum has been having panic atacks...(worse than she has let on before)..mainly during the night and is very worried about the flight incase she has one on plane and cant control it!
I was stunned to say the least and ofcourse very upset as are the kids.
Anyway after long chats with her and my aunt it looks as if she isnt going to come but maybe later after she has tried hypnotherapy.
I can totally understand why she wouldnt want it to happen on the plane and I know she hasnt taken the decision not to come lightly because I know how much she wants to come.
She is already on tablets and has been for 10 weeks or so....not helping and Dr says too late to try to stop those and start something else...
Pity she cant be anaesthetised for the flight
My gut feeling is ...right I will go and get her and hold her hand all the way...she'll be ok then..and if I thought she would be then I would do it. Hubby doesnt want me really beacause it would mean(if I could get a flight ofcourse) flying there and back in a few days...and the risk of dvt etc high....
I think I just have to accept the fact that she might have to come over later when she is better...but its soooooooooooooo disappointing
PS....I think she is going to cancel the flights today and I suppose if she could sell it she wouldnt lose out much...so if any of you guys need a flight....manchester to perth via singapore thurs 18th nov ..singapore airlines...let me know!
Now what would you do in this situation?
Mum and auntie got flights booked and arriving Friday 19th ...next week.
Getting things ready for arrival..as you do!
Rang mum last night to chat with her..all excited like!....she says....
"I can't come!!!"
"Why?"
Heart sink ........sob!
Well it turns out that my mum has been having panic atacks...(worse than she has let on before)..mainly during the night and is very worried about the flight incase she has one on plane and cant control it!
I was stunned to say the least and ofcourse very upset as are the kids.
Anyway after long chats with her and my aunt it looks as if she isnt going to come but maybe later after she has tried hypnotherapy.
I can totally understand why she wouldnt want it to happen on the plane and I know she hasnt taken the decision not to come lightly because I know how much she wants to come.
She is already on tablets and has been for 10 weeks or so....not helping and Dr says too late to try to stop those and start something else...
Pity she cant be anaesthetised for the flight
My gut feeling is ...right I will go and get her and hold her hand all the way...she'll be ok then..and if I thought she would be then I would do it. Hubby doesnt want me really beacause it would mean(if I could get a flight ofcourse) flying there and back in a few days...and the risk of dvt etc high....
I think I just have to accept the fact that she might have to come over later when she is better...but its soooooooooooooo disappointing
PS....I think she is going to cancel the flights today and I suppose if she could sell it she wouldnt lose out much...so if any of you guys need a flight....manchester to perth via singapore thurs 18th nov ..singapore airlines...let me know!
Nov 14th 2004 | 1:20 am
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Re: what would you do?..possible flight ticket for sale
just a quick update for those of you who may be interested....
my mum is coming afterall!
my mum is coming afterall!
Nov 14th 2004 | 1:22 am
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Re: what would you do?
Oh YAYYYYYY!!
I am so pleased for you!!! You must be excited now
Wonderful news Yvsie.
Siren
I am so pleased for you!!! You must be excited now
Wonderful news Yvsie.
Siren
Nov 14th 2004 | 1:25 am
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yeah siren I am...
horrid couple of days though..which I am sure so did my mum!
still dont know how she will cope with the panic attacks if they come on....but hopefully if the stewardesses are aware beforehand then they will help too eh?
soooooooooooooooo can't wait now...
horrid couple of days though..which I am sure so did my mum!
still dont know how she will cope with the panic attacks if they come on....but hopefully if the stewardesses are aware beforehand then they will help too eh?
soooooooooooooooo can't wait now...
Nov 14th 2004 | 1:29 am
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Re: what would you do?
Gravol!! and LOTS of it...LOL
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Nov 14th 2004 | 1:58 am
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siren what's gravol???? 
Nov 14th 2004 | 10:59 am
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Re: what would you do?
It's a medication for motion sickness that makes you drowsy. People often take it on flights, cruises or car trips (but not when driving...lol) to keep their stomach from protesting.
I had it on me when I brought the kids from Canada to Oz but they never needed it!
The point is... it relaxes you and makes you sleepy.. good thing, no?
Siren
I had it on me when I brought the kids from Canada to Oz but they never needed it!
The point is... it relaxes you and makes you sleepy.. good thing, no?
Siren
Nov 14th 2004 | 11:06 am
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Originally Posted by Siren
It's a medication for motion sickness that makes you drowsy. People often take it on flights, cruises or car trips (but not when driving...lol) to keep their stomach from protesting.
I had it on me when I brought the kids from Canada to Oz but they never needed it!
The point is... it relaxes you and makes you sleepy.. good thing, no?
Siren
I had it on me when I brought the kids from Canada to Oz but they never needed it!
The point is... it relaxes you and makes you sleepy.. good thing, no?
Siren
only prob with my mum is that she gets the panic attacks during the 'night' at home..she wakens and instantly knows if she's gonna have one....
it aint gonna be an easy flight for her...but once she's here she has 3 months to settle
Nov 14th 2004 | 11:16 am
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Hi Yvsie
Sad to say we are going through exactly the same experience. When we emigrated my husbands mum and dad were going to come out for several months. Few months after we left she began to have panic attacks and they have got progresively worse. The doctor has said they have probably started due to the traumer of us leaving ( now don't feel bad!!!)
She is on anti depressants and we have decided to go home in june for a few weeks to see her. I have just put together a video of our life in oz to try and convince her to come !!
Unfortunatley with panic attacks they will go when they are good and ready . Try sending her lots of positive images of perth and the kids you never know it might work!!!
Hugs Manda
Sad to say we are going through exactly the same experience. When we emigrated my husbands mum and dad were going to come out for several months. Few months after we left she began to have panic attacks and they have got progresively worse. The doctor has said they have probably started due to the traumer of us leaving ( now don't feel bad!!!)
She is on anti depressants and we have decided to go home in june for a few weeks to see her. I have just put together a video of our life in oz to try and convince her to come !!
Unfortunatley with panic attacks they will go when they are good and ready . Try sending her lots of positive images of perth and the kids you never know it might work!!!
Hugs Manda
