parkhigh

Hi Folks
I havent posted for a couple of weeks since the nightmare of my exchange of contracts on my house. To be honest we are still reeling from that experience but nonetheless the house completed finally on Monday this week!
We have had a few mad weeks getting things ready for packing for the shippers and its been quite emotional. As much as the house was like a lead weight around my neck I still feel very sad about leaving...it was quite strange.
Our buyers had asked to come and measure up etc but as those of you know what we have been through we were not to receptive to that idea and said no. We would have taken their deposit quite happily!
We then moved into my mum and dads who were really happy for us to be there for about 5 minutes and then my dad started. Why are you leaving us? we need help etc etc. I replied that my brother could help and he said he is too busy. In other words because my brother is the man of his house he is too busy! This really upset me...
Anyway things deteoriated more and basically because he is upset with me leaving but i feel really sad as we have limited time left together and I would like it to have been good.
Anyway by Thursday we moved into my friends house on Thursday and this is where we are at. Another friend has also offered us a bed but I feel quite miserable that my friends have assisted where my family hasnt! I just feel like leaving as soon as possible.
I handed in my notice too and my work have been really kind and saying such wonderful things it will be hard to leave. I work hard and have a difficult job but the team I work with I shall really miss. I can honestly say that I dont dislike anyone and that makes it hard. I keep getting nice compliments and letters etc and it makes me really upset. I think being 19 weeks pregnant doesnt help either so as you can see its been an emotional roller coaster and i cant wait to get off.
sorry to sound so gloomy but i had to get it off my chest.
I have sent out invites for our leaving party for the 1st october and need to book flights for the week commencing 8th october. Anyone got suggestions for good deals, I also am thinking of a stopover for a break before we get to aus to live with relatives once again. However being pregnant im worried about vaccinations so any suggestions would be good.
Thanks folks without your help and words it makes the process so much more difficult.
Irene

rangersman

You're nearly there, sorry to hear your family aren't being supportive, it is really hard for them but sometimes people can be a bit selfish and only think of their own feelings.
I know exactly what yu mean about leaving a lovely team at work that is going to be hard for me too.
Our leaving do is on 1st October too, we fly with Singapore airlines with no stopover just wanted to get the journey over and done with.
Hope next couple of weeks go ok, keep your chin up.
Love Nicola

Timber Floor Au

Christs sake Irene all thats missing from your ordeal is a bloody ingroin toenail !!

Itll get better mate ....

Glad you finally echanged, I dont really chat 1 on 1 with ppl on here, spose I should , but I sure as shit read a lot.

Singapore is a great stopovr, and sum brill shopping, not sure on Jabs but.

Making friends in a new country is gonna be easy for you, you have the right attitude in my mind, and as the saying goes .. you can pick your.... etc etc

Itll be rite

God Bless... Stevo Debs n the Menagerie

gobbyjock

Try and keep your chin up and try to think of your parents as not being selfish but upset that you are leaving - it may just be too difficult for them to express it properly though. Will send you some karma being pregnant doesn`t help you either (I was either crying all the time or walking around wanting to punch someone - no different from normal for me really!! )

pako

You poor thing, i'm sorry to hear your having an awful time of it. it must be very stressful for you. however you have the chance to try something different for you and your family. It's a great opportunity grab it with both hands. I hope you get more support from your family soon. If not there's plenty of us on here in the same boat.

parkhigh

Hi Everyone
Thanks for all your comments its you posters on here that keep me going sometimes. I keep thinking that eventually it will get better, it just seems to have taken us such a long time. We had our visa last May and its a long time coming to go for good.

We had a good day today as my friend is away and has kindly let us stay in his house. We just milled around and did some odd jobs around the house, we are so use to doing something we cant stop LOL!

Anyway I popped over to my mum and dads and they were civil for all of 5 minutes but Im trying to not let it get me down. My brother also upset me though as he said he wont be coming to our party as its "not his thing...socialising". I got very upset, I doubt I will see him now before I go as he is very stubborn and I dont think he really cares anyway. it sounds terrible I know but I have always had a difficult relationship with my brother but for the sake of my children and my nieces and nephews I try to get along, but its hard.

Anyway thanks everyone you really really do help and its appreciated. i will start looking at booking my flights tomorrow. I said to Rich that I just want to go asap, we finish work on the 7th and as far as im concerned im happy to go on the 8th! whats worth hanging around for? Anyway will post when ive booked.
Good luck to everyone else. Take care and goodnight
Irene

hilary6

Irene,
what a time you are having. Not long before you go now, families just cant help themselves at times. I cant offer any advise but Im sure they wish you well, but it would be nice if they didnt put you on a guilt trip.
Hilary

Mrs JFW

OMG! you really have been through it by the sounds of things and all on top of being preggers as well. I sincerely hope that things get better for you and that you enjoy your new life down under. Good luck with the baby too. I believe Quantas have some good deals on at the mo if you book before end of September.

Do let us know how you get on.

Bix da Boss

Hi

Dont worry Irene you are not alone - were families are concerned! NONE of my husbands family came to our leaving do as also 'not their thing' EXCUSE ME!!! So what! Its a one off, to say farewell to loved ones - very important!
Like you, the pressure from my Mum was really bad, upsetting. Made the last few weeks really difficult for all of us. I was in the exact position as you regarding 'looking after/being there' for your parents. My sister was not, so I was the one they always leaned on, even more after my Dad died, bless him.
Let your Brother take the responsibility for once - and don't feel guilty about doing so Irene

I know it is hard to put yourself first - i've been there m8! But, its been said before - LIFE IS TOO SHORT!!! Go after your dream - better than regrets, much better

Hope your pregnancy goes well - good luck and take care of yourself!

Gill

Bella Donna

Irene, check out http://www.who.int/ith/countries/en/ - here you can find out what jabs - if any - are required for foreign travel. There are often none at all - despite what your HPs might tell you. I think you are right to be concerned about having vaccinations while pregnant, but you may well find that you don't actually need any for the country of your choice. This list will tell you.