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Hang on a minute. Just slow down. You've been here 7 weeks. Jaysus, girl, it took me 6 months to start making friends and getting the tiniest inkling of a life that I had in the UK! :lol:

You're laying all your unhappiness at your husband's door. I'm not surprised he's angry with you!!! You've said it is his dream, like you've not been party to coming here at all! :blink:
Did you come here kicking and screaming? Were you forced somehow? Blackmailed into it? Kidnapped? :unsure:
I bet not, because at some point, you agreed to having a go and look at you 2 months down the line... you're angry, you're full of blame and self pity and you need to get real.
You're a team, a marriage and you're partners, yet you're talking about leaving him because he's trying to help you all get a better life?

Ok, reality check... because whilst I am sympathetic to your situation, all I can see is you blaming your OH and making him feel bad, whilst you have some temper strop about how terrible your life is.

If you carry on like this, how do you think your marriage is going to turn out exactly? Trust me when I say I've been there. :unsure:

Granted, there is never ever only one side to things, but unless you're willing to accept responsibility and start accepting why you've suddenly found yourself on the other side of the world, you will be having some very lonely times.

You're only living in a different country for a while. That's all. It's not the end of your life or the world as we know it!
It's just moving house for a bit and changing a few things.
Sure, they might be pretty big changes but this is where you show what you're made of Vik ...
Are you going to be a little girl and sit there and kick your heels on the floor and scream?

Or perhaps you can make the conscious decision to shake up and have a go at something new? :)

At what point didn't you think coming to Australia was not going to happen? When you got your visas? When you packed your house? When you loaded the container? When you went to the airport? When you sat on the plane?
You are an adult. You are part of a partnership. You had ample time to say you didn't want to do this, but you did because you love your husband and you wanted to support his dreams and maybe see if he wasn't onto something good.
That's why you're here.

What you do and how you deal with this is up to you. This moving lark, like marriage, takes effort. If you don't put in, you get nothing back. :lightbulb:

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Hi there

Sorry to hear you are feeling like this but it is acutally nice to hear there are other people out there like me who are really homesick. What we are feeling is normal!!! My husband and I have been here 8 weeks now and I am also home sick. We both had a dream to come over to Oz but when you get here you tend to question if it was the right decision etc as it would be so easy to go back. You leave all of the stability of your life back in the UK and have to start over again so it is normal to want to go back to the easier life in the UK. We have said we will stick it out for 2 years to give it a real go.

We joined a local expat club in Brisbane and went for our first 'meet up' yesterday. It is difficult to get out there and meet people but we are really glad we went. We met some really nice people who are all in a similar situation - we even got an invite for a BBQ next weekend!! I think the key to making it work out here is saying yes to any opportunity - you never know what may come of it.

I also think that you and your husband need to be there for each other. When I am having one of my bad days I always feel so much better after talking to my husband and having a good cry!!

I hope you can stick it out a bit longer!! Good luck!!

Re: What do I do
 

Your thread asks "what do I do?"

First thing is switch the PC off and get out and about, find some clubs / social things / volunteer work - absolutely anything that will get you out of the house and meeting new people.

Making friends is probably one of the most important factors in feeling settled and happy again - OK you wont replace your good UK friends straight away and it does take a while to build good friendships, but even the chance to chat to people outside the home really helps.

Good luck :)

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For the record I do not blame my husband for anything, how I am feeling is totally down to me (although being in the early stages of pregnancy and having the morning sickness from hell isn't helping!) I have always been honest with my husband about my reservations so this is not a huge surprise to him, I have done this for him because I do love him but that doesn't mean its right for me. I'm not ready to jump on a plane back yet I just don't see at the moment that this is where I want to stay. I do know people here and do get out and about but sadly that doesn't help. I hope it doesn't come to me moving back and him staying but at the end of the day you can only do so much and you can't live your life for other people, what you want counts too.

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I know how you feel with the homesickness - me and OH have been here for 6months now and the homesickness hasnt got any better. I want to go home NOW.

I felt left out at Christmas when all the family were together. My SIL gave birth to my new baby nephew yesterday. Me and OH feel so left out.

Dont want to be left out of anything else - we are heading home in October probably for a hol and deciding what to do (i secretly I want to go forever and never come back to brisbane) but thats just wishful thinking.

On a positive note - I have my mum and dad here for three weeks they arrived last sunday. We are both working this week but taking the next two weeks off to explore with them - and show them a few sights and discover new ones with them.

The way I see it is - you only have one life and you have to make it the happiest it can be. If that means moving home - do it. Whats the point in being depressed here.

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Hello,
I really do know how you feel. We moved to Oz years ago at the time I only had my 2 year old son. I could not settle and eventually moved back to the UK. Like yourself it was my husbands dream that I went along with, and he was devastated but supportive.
Everyone told me that I was doing the wrong thing but I did'nt listen.
Now after years of being back in the UK I cannot wait to leave this country.
We are moving back permanently in June this year with my 2 sons. I am so excited and I know that I will make a go of it. It will such a better life for you and the children you really need to hang on. Please I have the t shirt it really is not the right thing to do. The homesickness will get easier, and just say to yourself that your on a long holiday, don't ever think that you can't see your family and freinds in the uk
Hope this helps, please give it more time or you will regret it I know that I regret coming back
Hugs
Janex