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About 25 years ago my uncle decided to emigrate to New Zealand. He sold his business in the UK & got on a plane headed for NZ. He didn't even leave the airport in NZ & got on the first plane back :confused:

None of us could quite understand it. He could have at least had a holiday before heading back.

Alison x

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Having lived in New Zealand, I can understand it perfectly well! :rofl:

BB

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On the day that I moved to Dorset I had an overwhelming feeling of "WTF have I done?". It can be quite powerful, and I'm someone who has moved around a lot :blink:

It was a huge culture shock for me - I moved from a big city to a village on the edge of a small town. I left a job I loved to start a job I hated. It seemed very unsophisticated here. A lot of the culture shock I see people experience when they move to Australia, I experienced within two places in England.

I have also moved from England to Ireland and back to England. More culture shock! Some places feel right immediately or very quickly, others take time.

I think the trick is to stay with it and let it pass. Every day that you stay is a day when everything becomes more familiar. It didn't take me long to begin to see the benefits of living in such a beautiful place, but it took 3 years and a new job until I felt really settled.

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Time to call in a pro:lol:

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:rofl::rofl:

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Linkypoo please BC.
I agree 100% with this. I left home at 15 and travelled all across Canada for 7 years before moving back to my hometown and can never remember feeling homesick or missing people/places. 7 years later my OH and I moved to Vancouver together, where I had lived before, but the minute the doors closed on the plane for us to go I broke down into a blubbering mess of tears. For no reason other than "because I could" I hated every second of our 3.5 years there. I just knew that it was not the place for me.

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For people to return after a matter of days or weeks is irrational, but if you analyse it, there are are reasons why people become irrational under these circumstances.

Emigrating is bloody hard for most of us: it takes forever, it can be (and usually is) stressful, logistically complex, expensive and just one endless bloody hassle. If you have close family ties in your home country, so much the worse.

By the time many people get here, they are at the end of their emotional tether, especially if they have just said goodbye to loved ones. It doesn't take much to push them over the edge, so the smallest episode can cause them to make rash decisions to give up and go back. Depression and anxiety are co-morbid with the whole experience for many people.

The solution has been touched on of course: give it time; ideally a few years, and then you are in a much more informed position to decide whether it is still for you or not.

I had a horrendous first two years here and would not wish to relive those experiences again ever. I envy those who made a smooth transition to Aus and fell in love with the place from the off. I like Aus enough to know I will probably stay. I now have good friends here and an excellent social network. I love the wildlife, climate and scenery here in the Wet Tropics and feel oddly out of place even in other parts of Aus, so different are they from Cairns. It doesn't fit me to a tee, but I certainly can't complain. What I can't do however is condemn those who go back. Everyone has a right to make that decision, but one would hope after giving it careful consideration first.

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But he'd never been to the country prior to emigrating & didn't see anything of it in his momentary visit bar the arrival & departure lounges:huh:

Alison x

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You might think that nobody would move because of football but I know people who's whole lives revolve around football, Im a massive football fan (I wouldnt move my whole family for it though!) and one of the first questions I asked was can you still watch the premier league in OZ.

Football is a big passion of mine, I would miss going to the games for the atmosphere but as long as I could follow it every week then I would be happy.

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Thanks for finding it :thumbsup:

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I think that just by simply saying "give it time" people tend to sweep everyday issues under the rug. I would go a step further, by elaborating the "time" part with working through a carefully prepared plan, that will a) keep your mind busy on things that DO matter, b) keep your mind off things that DO NOT matter, esp. in the first few months after arrival. I speak from experience - I used to travel a lot for a job and developed a callus in a place where others feel homesickness.

Back to the plan - a research done in a good faith will allow you to put yourself in a right frame of mind and have something in store for the time when some things go pearshaped, just because they will. If you are not prepared, everything comes as a surprise and you can take so many surprises.

So, in a personal opinion, I generally have respect for people diving in head first, but in a risk-conscientious manner, because they are those that push boundaries and show the way to do things (or, some times to not do things). But, having said that, when a family uproots itself with no contingencies and no upfront planning, they deserve all that is coming.

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I suppose if you haven't really thought the whole thing through, and get caught up in the preparation of the move, then the long plane journey could give you time to reflect and to decide that you've made the wrong decision.

I agree he should at least have had a holiday

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Coming to terms with pot noodles costing $3.75:p

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I tried to move to Ireland, the plan was to take a 2 week holiday with some friends and then look for work.

I'd been there a few times before so I wasn't going in completely green.

I decided to go back 2 days after the holiday ended.

No specific reason, it just didn't feel right, 6 months later I met the OH in Cyprus and here we are.

Life eh?

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Reason #64: Lack of bunny petting opportunities

Try before you buy!