Moving to Oz... think VERY carefully!
Aug 10th 2008, 11:26 am
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Re: Moving to Oz... think VERY carefully!
Aug 10th 2008, 1:14 pm
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Re: Moving to Oz... think VERY carefully!
Ummm, my OH is over 40 and me vast approaching. I think emmigrating when 30 and emmigrating when 40 is very very different!
For us, I thought ok, I'll miss my mates big time but I'll make new ones and my little ones are too young for an impact to be seen.
Reality check:
Making friends is not neccesarily as easy as it was when you had your kids as people have their lives established. Me & my UK mates were strongley bonded within months, have only felt that sort of connection with one person here, who has a very busty life and its difficult to sort out schedules. yes I get out and about.
3 year old is vissibly lonely. As you have older kids they will probally be ok but with little ones they rely on you.
I think when you hit 40 you are fairly established in life and having to start again and sometimes settle for less in whatever area is a big shock to the system (I've done all this before).
Not meant to deter you just to give you some first hand feelings.
For us, I thought ok, I'll miss my mates big time but I'll make new ones and my little ones are too young for an impact to be seen.
Reality check:
Making friends is not neccesarily as easy as it was when you had your kids as people have their lives established. Me & my UK mates were strongley bonded within months, have only felt that sort of connection with one person here, who has a very busty life and its difficult to sort out schedules. yes I get out and about.
3 year old is vissibly lonely. As you have older kids they will probally be ok but with little ones they rely on you.
I think when you hit 40 you are fairly established in life and having to start again and sometimes settle for less in whatever area is a big shock to the system (I've done all this before).
Not meant to deter you just to give you some first hand feelings.
ooo er sounds fascinating. What does this involve????
Aug 10th 2008, 6:49 pm
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Re: Moving to Oz... think VERY carefully!
I doubt very much theres many people who emigrate without thinking very carefully, especially if theres kiddys to think about.
I'm one of the I'd rather regret what i did do than regret what i didn't brigade. My sunnies are definitely not rose tinted, I hope we all love Oz but if not then hey ho at least we've tried it.
Lindsay x
I'm one of the I'd rather regret what i did do than regret what i didn't brigade. My sunnies are definitely not rose tinted, I hope we all love Oz but if not then hey ho at least we've tried it.
Lindsay x
Aug 10th 2008, 9:16 pm
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Re: Moving to Oz... think VERY carefully!
Lots of very positive and excited people on here and I don't want to burst anyone's bubble but...
Think very carefully why you want to move out here. Be honest with yourself. I know many people will say "you only live once... give it a try" but getting your 'old uk life' back can be hard.
It is easy to think (as I did), the beaches, the sunshine, the lifestyle, it will be great. You very quickly get used to it!
Think about what actually makes you happy living in the UK (sometimes its easy to forget)? Do you enjoy Saturday nights out with close friends? Regular trips to Europe? Knowing where 'home' is? Being able to pop round and see family anytime you want? Going to family events, birthdays etc? Once family members are gone you never get that time back and 'sunny days' are not an adequate trade.
Of course I thought about missing family/uk but it takes moving for it to actually feel real. If you are close to your family and/or have a good circle of friends think hard!
Every persons life has problems, sometimes you only need to change a few small things to improve it... not everything!
Good luck to those making the trip. Just leave an escape route!!!!
Think very carefully why you want to move out here. Be honest with yourself. I know many people will say "you only live once... give it a try" but getting your 'old uk life' back can be hard.
It is easy to think (as I did), the beaches, the sunshine, the lifestyle, it will be great. You very quickly get used to it!
Think about what actually makes you happy living in the UK (sometimes its easy to forget)? Do you enjoy Saturday nights out with close friends? Regular trips to Europe? Knowing where 'home' is? Being able to pop round and see family anytime you want? Going to family events, birthdays etc? Once family members are gone you never get that time back and 'sunny days' are not an adequate trade.
Of course I thought about missing family/uk but it takes moving for it to actually feel real. If you are close to your family and/or have a good circle of friends think hard!
Every persons life has problems, sometimes you only need to change a few small things to improve it... not everything!
Good luck to those making the trip. Just leave an escape route!!!!
Aug 10th 2008, 9:27 pm
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Aug 10th 2008, 9:45 pm
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Re: Moving to Oz... think VERY carefully!
It's just I feel that people who make the move and don't like it can assume everyone else only views the move with rose tinted sunnies ( to repeat a cliche!) which I think is very unlikely especially if you have litlteys.
Better to regret what you've done as they say.......................................
Lindsay x
Aug 10th 2008, 10:16 pm
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Re: Moving to Oz... think VERY carefully!
I think this is a wise post, the OP is not trying to put a downer on peoples dreams, he's just wants to express his feeling on his experience.
I sure some people want it so much they come into denial that things can go bad, best to listen to both good and bad threads.
I went over, and i never worked for me, nothing to do with family (but it was hard to be away from close ones) but work. I do plan to give it a try again but i'll make sure i have a job secure before leaving and i won't transfer all my assets straight away!
Chris.
I sure some people want it so much they come into denial that things can go bad, best to listen to both good and bad threads.
I went over, and i never worked for me, nothing to do with family (but it was hard to be away from close ones) but work. I do plan to give it a try again but i'll make sure i have a job secure before leaving and i won't transfer all my assets straight away!
Chris.
Aug 10th 2008, 10:23 pm
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Re: Moving to Oz... think VERY carefully!
I think this is a wise post, the OP is not trying to put a downer on peoples dreams, he's just wants to express his feeling on his experience.
I sure some people want it so much they come into denial that things can go bad, best to listen to both good and bad threads.
I went over, and i never worked for me, nothing to do with family (but it was hard to be away from close ones) but work. I do plan to give it a try again but i'll make sure i have a job secure before leaving and i won't transfer all my assets straight away!
Chris.
I sure some people want it so much they come into denial that things can go bad, best to listen to both good and bad threads.
I went over, and i never worked for me, nothing to do with family (but it was hard to be away from close ones) but work. I do plan to give it a try again but i'll make sure i have a job secure before leaving and i won't transfer all my assets straight away!
Chris.
Lindsay x