wallabyWannabe

Can anyone help me! My husband has spent months getting this TRA thing together, and as soon as he is about to send it off, I have completely gone cold on the idea of moving to Australia. But as soon as I start thinking about how our children will have a better quality of life, I get really guilty and think maybe we should just go and see for ourselves if it is what we should do. My husband and kids really want to go, and I was wondering if there is anyone out there in a similar situation, where I like life here, and dont know what to do!!!

SuperSeagulls

Well it could be nerves, but maybe its worth getting the visa anyway, especially if you are in a position to apply for it now - and then you can check out whether you like it on not in 12 months or so on a validation trip....

SS

g-man

i sometimes feel like that but it hasnt stopped me from applying for the visa. As my husband says in ten years time we dont want to be thinking what might have been. And you can always come home
toni

Brisben

Get the TRAsent of then get your visa, at least then this gives you the freedom of choice, although it has cost you money, at least then if you do make a firm decision you still have the option to still go. Without the visa you have no choice.

at least this way you will have no regrets whatever your decision.

Go for it.

CMT

I am totally the same, my husband has a job to go to out there and they pay all costs to get us there, my biggest concern tho is money! My husband has a good job here and I earn a decent wage, between us we live quite well and have 2 kids, out there we would be dropping to one wage and would be about £25k worse off a year, and although I think it may be a better outdoor life/climate for the kids I wonder whether the change in cashflow will change other things that we are used to here!!!! So sorry, can't help there!

caroledouglas

Hi there, I have felt the exact same as yourself, we are at the final hurdle and I sometimes feel like saying forget it, not for the fact of not wanting to go to Australia but because of the stress of it all and waiting at every level for news from our agent.
But the way i look at it better life hopefully for our daughter, and if we dont go we will always wonder what if.
I think you have to give it a bash if you dont like it you can always come home.
Carole

Dawn

Hi there...I also feel the same, my hubbies is desperate to go...my 18 year old daughter is now not sure as got a boyfriend, my 16 year old daughter, when i asked her last week to look at weather for amsterdam, as i had a mad weekend for my friends 40th..........couldnt find the weather anywhere under H!! on teletext...thought it was Hamsterdam!!!!!, so she will be fine and my 4 year old daughter thinks Perth is near Roydon in Essex!!!

Ive been saying yes all along now really not sure! havent told anyone as keep changing my mind!!! I will be devastated if my eldest stays as shes my best friend but if i dont go the others will be upset and my hubby prob go without me hes that set on it!

ive all of a sudden become in love with england, time of year makes it worse because summer is on its way and spring is lovely............

HOWEVER:...This is what ive decided.....As you prob know you have 5 years to go, our visa states(if we get it, sent last week finally), we have to have lived there (perth), for 2 out of the five years so i am definately going to do the two years and then apply for permanent residency to be able to come and go FOREVER!!!!!!

If i do change my mind then if wont matter and I will have had a brill 2 years!!!

Think of it like that and you will be fine and im sure once we get there, there will be no looking back!

Schhhhhhh dont tell my hubbie!
pm me if want a chat,, where you hoping to stay?

Dawn x

sackofspuds

For what it's worth, I think you're right to be concerned about the financial side. As for the better life for the kids, yes, I do believe that potentially it could be an excellent place to grow up, but you have to bear in mind that the outdoor life carries its own risks, namely skin cancer and that if your kids get a lot of support and (without getting all sentimental) love, from relatives here then that will be a big loss to them. I worry too whether there will be the same opportunities for young adults there as here.

wallabyWannabe

Hi there, you really made me laugh about your daughter looking for Hamsterdam!!!!! I would pm you, but I have no idea how to do that!
We are (if we go) heading for the sunshine coast in Queensland. We went out there for christmas to see friends, and my hubbie fell in love with the place. I was a bit gutted that christmas went past us as if it was just another hot day in paradise, and I must say that christmas is the best for me!!(never really did grow up)!!
for every positive thought I have at the mo, there seems to be a negative attached. It is really anoying!
I know what you mean about loving England at the moment as well, and I am being really divvy at the moment and picturing it all as if its the last time I will see it. (only just ready to send TRA off)!!!!!
Anyway thanks for your words of wisdom!

Milo

Hi,

We went through all these emotions too! We have almost been here for two years and it honestly doesn't feel like it. We will be applying soon for Australian citizenship. I really can't believe it's gone so quick. I think it is a great place to grow up, we enjoy the lifestyle. However, I didn't ever think that we would have a better life, just different. I don't think (and it's only my opinion) that the same opportunities for young adults are here in Australia. Why? Because I think Europe is a more hip hop happing place than anything Australia can offer, that's why a lot of young Australians are over there. My eldest recons she will go back to England once she has completed uni which thank goodness is not for a little while yet. What I'm trying to say is everyone appears to have the same concerns and what it boils down to is time goes so quickly it's worth giving your dreams a go because before you turn around a few more years have gone past.

Good luck with whatever you decide.

Marie

sackofspuds

Thanks for that. Having my kids grow up and leave the country because of the lack of opportunities is not something I would want to happen, particularly since they would be leaving my adopted country rather than my native country.

The other issue is that Australia isn't a dream for me, ie, it's not something I long for. We'd be returning there partly for family support and partly because I'm at a dead end career wise and we could leave cheaply there while I retrain, start a business or whatever. If the family support wasn't there I doubt I'd be considering it.

JAJ

Surely you mean Australian citizenship - not permanent residency?



Jeremy

Dawn

opps...thanks for that Jeremy, yes I did mean Australian citizenship!
Dawn