Hi all,

Has anyone else encountered spiteful jealousy from others when telling them they are moving to Australia? The majority have been happy for me but some are trying to make my life difficult at work. Andwhen they saw a possible apartment I'd be moving into with amazing views and right on the waterfront, they were really callous and pretty much wished me failure in my move....

I've always wanted this, and whilst I'm aware it might not work, I'm only in my early twenties so it's not like the end of the world if I ever came back to the UK in terms of upheaval etc, no attachments or dependents...

Just wondered if it was a common thing or if others had experienced it. I honestly just thought people would be happy for me.... Probably naive but there we go!

lerato

unfortunatly a lot of people dont like others trying to better themselves in their life , it all goes back to keeping up with the jonses , its human nature , you will find that a lot of people in life are pieces of s--t they dont like somebody bettering themselves , and unfortunatly thats the way it is , human nature sometimes is pathetic , the best thing is to keep your plans within your close circle of freinds , [ not even family ] , they are the true people who want you to be happy , i have found that in this world there is not many people you can trust .regarding work , these people are not your freinds, just idiots you have to tolorate , remember that old saying ,a still tongue keeps a wise head .
you get on with your life and ---k them , regards.
karl.

Jeez what a positive person you are

Whilst there will always be a small minority of people who will not wish someone well, if you put it into perspective it's usually only a small minority.

People who mind don't matter. People who matter don't mind

My OH's work tried to sack him when someone told a man who works in his office we were thinking of going, of course this went straight back to the boss who rang and asked him was he going as there would be an upcoming list of redundancies and he would be on it if he was going. Or as he put it 'he would appreciate being told'!!! The joys of living in small town Ireland where everybody knows each other or is related.

We can't do a stat dec either as his previous employer sub contracts to the current one and they are all big pals so would alert him to the fact we have asked for a ref.

We are now going on a visa in my name, far simpler I have always worked for big organisations and have got my refs no bother. We can't go for the 175 and risk him being put out of work months before we leave. Mind you the way his work is going, the place could close in January!

This was all motivated by jealously that we might dare to do something different and try and better ourselves.

But I should add that everyone else has been extremely positive, family etc have been great. Telling us to go for it. This has been the one downer.

My wife and I were in a similar situation a few years ago.
We were going to emigrate through my visa, a time served turner. I handed in the relevant paperwork 3 times at work but they just refused to fill them in for us. I even applied for voluntary redundancy when it was offered but I was turned down.
They wouldn't even give me a reason for not filling in the paperwork, the only thing I could get out of them was " we cant afford to let you go ".

Well my wife has one year at Uni left now and then she will be a qualified nurse and we'll be off......

I think I will phone work and tell them I wont be in today I'm off to Australia...... See ya

LOL yes we have discussed that, him just not turning up, then sending a nice postcard from Adelaide!! We have also talked about offering for voluntrary redundancy but I know rightly they wouldn't give it to him. Someone said to me, do you know that what his boss is doing is illegal, I was like duh, yes of course I do, but imagine trying to fight and prove that. It is very annoying but we can't afford for him to be out of work until the visa would arrive. My occupation was added to the SA list in September and thats where we want to go anyway so that has given us another option, when we 1st started chatting about this in March, I couldn't get a visa in my name.

Fingers crossed he is going to do some extra training before we go which will leave him in even better stead work wise and I have already had interest from companies I sent my CV to, I very pleasantly suprised by some of the jobs out there that I could apply for. I'm a Community Worker by the way.

Yeah you're right it doesn't matter what those people think, not really...!

I've been lucky with my actual bosses, they were really pleased for me. I think it's quite sad that people who maybe haven't even tried to achieve their dreams, want to pee on everyone elses parades...! They also make it feel like you're competing with them. It's not, we're in a totally different place in our lives, and my life won't be 'better' than hers because of it. It will just be different in a way that I want it to be.


I do tend to take things like that personally but I guess like you've all said, there'll always be the odd person like that. And stuff them if they decide to be so sour...

lerato

Glad you have managed to find a work-around for the difficult boss!! Mine were pleased for me but at the same time stressed about replacements etc. However, I've given them nearly 7 months notice (!) when as a temp I'm only required to give 7 days. Plus, it's their fault for having me as a temp for 14 months, overworked with no prospects, training, or respect...!

Good luck for your OH's extra training too.

lerato

Cheers and ignore the jealousy as someone else said they ain't worth worrying about. I know the OH's boss will be the least of my worries when I am enjoying the sun and they are stuck on the icy back road struggling to get to work (Like i did today) LOL

Has it ever occurred to you that it is not jealousy at all?

Many people have not the slightest interest in emigrating so why should they be jealous?

One thing that does piss people off (it does me) when people become obsessed with their move to the extent of not being able to talk about anything else and generally boring people to tears with it.

Maybe that is the problem

Well we certainly having been boring any one to tears with our tales of moving to Oz as after facing the prospect of being made redundant after it was mentioned (indirectly might I add) we have discussed it between us and our close family and friends. And perhaps in our case in wasn't jealousy that made the employer do this it was nastiness. But it certainly was extremely short sighted to threaten redundancy when his work was not in question and we he hadn't done anything wrong, his contract doesn't state 9 months notice.

I've been very careful (on the whole) not to do that, as others have done similar to me with promotions, new houses etc before. That's part of why I've come on here, for advice but also to talk about emigrating with people who won't be irritated by the mention of the word regularly.

The main person who has been quite spiteful towards me has been enquiring about my move, then slating it once I give detail that she asked for. I've now tried to avoid her questions to make my working day easier.....

lerato

Some people like to see other people end up on their @rses.. I should know.. I married into a family where atleast 2 family members can't stand it if someone does well in life..

Don't sweat it.. its just part of life really... go with the good comments and ignore the bad..

Bigger picture, and all that!

Em x

Don't sweat it.. its just part of life really... go with the good comments and ignore the bad..

Bigger picture, and all that!

Em x[/QUOTE]