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Nothing said to us directly yet - probably get a few at the leaving party as I know a handful of our friends have tried to get Visa or partner interested in applying for visa unsuccessfully.

I must admit we have been soooo lucky with our families - nothing but wholehearted support and advice. My family have been emigrating back and forward to Norway for the last three generations - cant seem to make our minds up where to settle, in fact a couple of my aunts and uncles who are settled in the UK have bought a holiday home in sweden to enjoy two or three times a year.

My parents in Norway are currently contributing to their winter holiday fund - it used to be Goa in India for a month/2 months - now they are looking at our home to be somewhere in Perth.

My older sister's partner has a brother already settled in Rockingham so they make annual three week visits already - and have excellent phone package and webcam.

Will update if anything snippy comes from leaving party - not cancelling that, if they cant behave it is a reflection on them not us!

Paula

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No, just everyone being very negative, saying what a good life i have here, and why do i want to leave it. the other comments are 'you'll be back with no money and nowhere to live' :mad:
Just glad i have some BE friends :)

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Ah, we have had the 'You mustnt be afraid to come back if/when it goes wrong at the end of two years'

I personally don't do 'two year plans' and I tell people that - much to their disgust.

:D

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Yes, my sister in law. Finds anything she can to not like about Oz (having never been there herself of course), picks holes in anything we may be looking at on the net, we just close it down now if she turns up.

I have also had nice jelousies too, envies. And lots of 'I wish I could do that' s.


vics x

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I have looked after my nephew since he was 10 months old, 5 days a week. He is now 3.5. I am floored at the thought of who is going to take care of him and have been slammed by my SIL for leaving. She says she has hate for me for doing this to her and her son. That it is her that will have to pick up the pieces from my M & D, my brother and little lad x That hurts lots but hey, it's my life and I have my own children to think of. Hard to some I know but I am not the heartless bit*h she makes me out to be, quite the opposite.

vics x

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OMG I am so angry :mad: my husbands cousin has just come to visit my MIL for the weekend we very rarely see them and only get christmas cards occassionaly (even though we send to them every year). She has just phoned and started off nicey nice then had the cheek to belittle our plans for Oz, trying to tell me that it won't be fair to MIL as she won't fly and will be unable to visit us, thats not my problem is it? She then went on to say she would love to work in another country but it would be selfish to leave everybody in the UK behind (a snide dig me thinks :mad: ) WAIT FOR IT.... then in the same phone conversation says if we get our visas she'll have to come and visit us bloody cheek :mad: I am so angry I want to go round and slap them all as they must have had a very interesting conversation about us all and our plans. Why must people who are jealous be so nasty can't they just pretend to be happy. Well fellow BE citizens I believe it is our life and we can do what the fu** we like so good luck to all of you who are there, to those on your way and to those of us here still waiting, I need a drink after that :beer: :beer:
A
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Everyone just remember that some of these people have no bearing on your life, cousins, ect. Immediate family is harder to deal with but you have to look at your family ie OH, Kids and yourself. This is our 2nd time going and I wish I went the last time with the attitude I have now. Put you and yours first , parents/sibling etc have made or will make their own lives whether you agree or not so go for it. My parents had the opportunity to go to NZ when young and I grew up with "I wish we had gone" don't want that for me or mine!

I read a thing called Property Lines all about other people and not taking on board their issues, I can tell you I honestly wish I had lived my life by that a long time ago. Quite "profound" as my sis said but it really hits home. I'll see if I can find it and post it might help.

Good luck everyone and don't let the b*****d get you down!!! :p

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We've banned anyone coming to airport ... can't face any scenes and especially with young children I don't want them to think Nanna's sad about us going etc. We will get on that plane just as we have a million times before, only this time with everything including the kitchen sink!!! (OH thinks I pack that everytime anyway!).

We haven't had open jealousy and we've been lucky to have very supportive families - just as the d day gets closer the "mothers" are finding coping harder and seem more emotional.

I know how I feel about putting my dog on his own in the aircraft hold and I can only imagine how my mother must feel thinking about me, only daughter, and my two children, only grandchildren, getting on board.

Good luck for all those who haven't the same support. Don't think of anyone but your own priorities!