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Actually it falls down whether the parents have made a will or not. If not then it would go to the courts - I think Vanessa used to work in law so she would have a good/better understanding than I.

Who lives waiting for their parents to pass over for money, pretty sad people if they do. Probably good that you are escaping then isnt it?

The best revenge is served cold so keep cool, smile and send those postcards :D

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If you think that way about the people around you, then they must have given you a reason. The best thing for you to do is tell them nothing, play it down and they will soon forget about it, the less they hear the better. If they ask you, just keep telling them you haven't heard anything, they will soon get fed up and forget about it if they think you are getting no where that should satisfy them enough

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I haven't experienced jealously more sadness about leaving. Sadness and extreme anger from parents and sisters (one more than other) Eldest sis is very supportive but sad also, younger sis is worried about how my niece will be without any cousins here to play with. Love her to bits but can't live life for others and it has taken me a long time to realise and immigrating to Australia in 1997 only to come back in 1998 because of family!!!!!! My parents have even said no to looking after girls for me on several occasions. I think in their mind they are punishing us not really meaning to hurt the girls. Never mind it's them that will be sorry and wish that they had made more of an effort before we left. Memories last forever and I only wish my parents were making some for my kids right now.

Good luck to everyone.

Sandra
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These folk that keep saying 'You won't go' are only jealous of the fact that deep down they would love to go but in reality don't have the bottle to try it! They will always wonder what would've happened 'IF ONLY' I tried Australia and as they say 'You're here for a good time and not a long time'.

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something bad must have happened in your family for you to think like that? I have a similar family, can make life very depressing and stressful. Once your on the other side of the world, all that pressure will go. Until they visit that is :D some members of my family I haven't even given a forwarding address too!

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Lol My mum was so anti Oz - that after everything I/we went to to get our visa and then she turned round - after I had qualified as a teacher and said 'oh you're not still on with that lark are you' :confused: 'No mum just spent 4 years retraining and gaining experience for a laugh' (felt like saying but bit my tongue! :mad:

Parents are so selfish at times - I have beens elfish but never that selfish.

She wouldn't even come to our leaving do - said she couldn't cope with it.

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people used to say to us....Oh you are so lucky to be going!!!!!!! lucky **** all we have worked bloody hard to get our visa's and put a LOT of money, stress and all the other shit that goes with the application

FFS you would think someone had come up to us and said here u go...have an all expenses stress free PR to Oz..on you go have fun :rolleyes:

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I'm self employed and sub contract from three companies.
one of them said well done mate lucky beggar, one said dont go I cant afford to loose you, your the most qualified person Ive got. the other said you will never go and if you do you will be home in a week saying it crap over there.
Both our families have been supportive, dont want us to go, but understand why we are going.
Still not sure about the leaving party, and the airport scene though.

All the best

Cockney Rob.....

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I agree with you mate. two and a half years of work and waiting. and about £4000:00 later to get our PR visa. I was right lucky.

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all the best to you and your families too - it is an adventure :)

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Aye, thanks for that ;) , i will, its so petty just have not got time for all that squabbling. Aye after it was said i, immediately thought well such thing as a legal will, wish i had said it at the time but did not think. Its does not matter anyway.

Sarah-jayne

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Well thanks , i'll definately give a go at enjoying life to full in new life down under. It happens mum called today to say that they want to retire early and still owe on mortage so are going to give it to bank or something. It means they can live in it until they pass on , and then bank own it. So they wont have anymore monthy mortgage payments etc and can release a little equity to pay other debts. I just said whatever you think is right, i dont care but that other certain family member is in for a big shock, just desserts. :p

oh well what comes around goes around as saying goes.

sarah-jayne

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Reading this thread rings a bell!

Just thougt i would mention that I/we sadly lost our Dad a few years back and my little side of the family are hopefully off to start a new life in OZ leaving my mum who is now in her mid 70s

Anyway, as there has been a few conversations about what would happen to all the Equity in the house my mum has behind her. I have sinse taken it upon myself to organise a mortgage for her (interest only) for 97% of the house value so that she can go mad with it for as long as it lasts. ( ssshhhhhhhhhh)this way there may be a few quid left over (Maybe!) Im thinking of also helping her to get some nice luxuarys on CREDIT which will eventualy be paid from the estate if theres anything left :D

As i said, just thought i would mention my little plan
Some family members have already hinted of the nice sum in equity........ I hope i havent ruined their future plans :D

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Yes the people at work the other day said they envied me, and wish they were going :)

Nothing serious though

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Good for you SG. Sounds like a great plan. Personally, I hope my parents have a long and expensive retirement. Inheritance is OK, but I'd much rather my parents had a happy and fulfilled life.

Gill