Can't help with the way you feel, but this might be of interest depending on how old your parents are and their state of health etc - http://www.kinsure.co.uk/info/kinsure.asp?did=1. Pay close attention to the exclusions though.

I don't think it matters whether you're 10 minutes away, or 10'000 miles. If you really, really feel this way and don't see those feelings changing, then I think you'd be better off leaving for the UK. Many folks will offer you 'advice', but it's always based on their own personal feelings, never your own - how can it be? Unless someone has exactly the life, friends, situation as you?

To be honest, you sound like you've made up your mind. It sounds as though your o/h will make the move back with you, so why wait? If he's happier where he is, but is willing to move back to the UK for the sake of your own happiness then you shouldn't question that. Just accept it.

Whatever you do, you don't get long on this planet, you're blessed with youth and good health and there may well come a time when you're ready to move and settle elsewhere, maybe not just right now.

Bonne chance!

Have to agree with all this. From your last post, mentioning all the 'good' things, if your heart is not in it, then I don't think it will ever be. You are finding things you're not happy with and they are the same as everyone else finds at some point but for you they are big negatives, for others they are just 'blips'.

You're not settled and I don't think you ever will be here but please don't 'create' problems (whether consciously or subconsciously). We have all either considered or put into action a 'death fund'. A child under 10 will very very rarely be behind in their education just because they've travelled and missed some. Whilst the time difference is as it is, there is stacks of time when both you and the UK are up. Unfortunately those times are rarely the same as the times you actually want or need to ring.

If I were you I start planning the trip back, even if it's only on paper - work out shipping, figuring where to live etc. Time will pass quicker and keep your mind occupied when you're not at work etc.

Aus isn't for everyone, just as Britain isn't. Hope it all works out for you and yours.

My advice I guess would be to do what makes you happy. Before you head back to the UK though have a think about how much money and time you have spent comming here. How much you were looking forward to it. Remeber that feeling and ask yourself if you feel you have really given it a good try here.

If you have given it 100% and tried to make a life here then there is no shame in heading back to the UK, as long as you have no regrets yourself then you can at least say you gave it a go. Which in itself takes a lot of courage. Moving to another country is something a lot of people dont have the courage to do, but you have done it, regardless if you head back at least you gave it a go

Hi this is the first time i have read anything on this forum and i cant belive you want to go home after 4 months.

Let me tell you about me i didnt want to come here at all my wife wanted to come we had a good life in the uk nice house good jobs etc but finally i gave in to my wife and we packed up and sold up and came here The gold coast qld.

What a complete change of lifestyle mainly for the worse and we had been here 5 times previously on holidays.

My wife found that going to the beach every day was a novelty that soon wore off and you had to drive if you want to go anywere even for a pint of milk.

Me i kept getting bit by mossis and found it hard to work in the heat.

WE have found that to acclimatise to the australian way of life is to be yourself and not try to become an "Australian" they just do things alot different here especially driving but thats another story.

Life in the Uk is at a fast pace were here its slow which is irritating but its because your not used to it your probaly still going 100mph or 160kph lol.

Think back to when you were in england and how much you had thought in the last few years it had gone down hill imports from europe namely poles and romanians, murders stabbings, break ins im not saying they dont have the same here but there not as common as they are at home heres 15 years behind in regards things like that and its only going to get worse.

In reality im the last person who should be advising anyone whos thing of going back to the uk and if this was last December i would be telling you to go home but you have to try hard at things like moving here its hard but it will be harder for your kids growing up in the uk.

If i was to give my last piece of advise to any one whos not sure is wait aleast untill you can get a australian passport then at least you can come back.

We have been here 12 months and 26 days and its getting easier every day but it is hard every day has its times when its hard but thats life stick at it if you think about it it really is better here!!! Even i cant belive i said that lol

Mark

As you say though, its the first time you have read anything on this forum. When you've been on here a bit longer you will have ready many many threads like this, quoting different lengths of time here and different reasons for wanting to leave.
I've met more immigrants in AUstralia (Brits included ) then I ever did back home. I've experienced more crime here than back home, but both of those have nothing to do with the reasons why I would leave if I could. If the country isn't "right" for someone then 4 months can feel like a lifetime, and the four years plus to get a passport can be an eternity.

With Respect you must not have been back to the uk recently or if you had it must have been the outer hebrides.Also if you think theres more crime here than the uk u have gotta be missinformed badly.

4 months and going home for a life changing experience is somthing i would expect from an aussie not someone from england you have just gotta try harder and not give in so easily.

I have read your post again and you dont seem to have a reson for wanting to go back.

I get so bloody annoyed reading these kinds of posts. The girl's been saying it doesn't 'feel' right to her. She's deeply unhappy. Who the hell has the right to say she can't possibly be right in feeling these things? What's right for some isn't necessarily right for others. Some like butter, others prefer margerine. FFS, give the girl some credit for knowing how she feels. It's HER life, the future of the world doesn't depend on whether she stays in Oz or not.

Jaysus!

With the greatest of respect, your perception of the downfall of the UK does, in no way, shape or form, match that of many other, even those who live there. I certainly saw no difference in the state of play from when I left when I was back there in July. Anyway the state of a birth country is totally irrelevant when you are peoplesick and KNOW deep in your heart and gut that the place in which you are currently living is NOT the place you want to spend any more of your time.

You can't judge someone's life by measuring it against your own. They are totally different.

Reading the post, make me realize that I am not the only one that I am having difficult times..Just moved to Perth from Aberdeen, due to business, and been here approximately 4 weeks. Although I tried to convince my new manager to start my assignment in January after Christmas holidays in order to go and visit my friends and family, he insisted of having me here in order to set up the new project that we are running.

Although Aberdeen wasn't my home town is was only 3 hours flight to my home and the ticket price was only 300 pounds.

I was working flat out 8-10 hours at the office but I had spare time for socializing with my friends, going to the gym and generally enjoy my life.

After four weeks in the office i am strangling and can't cope with the "Slow Speed" of everything. Everything either at the office or outside the office it's extremely slow...

Holidays are very difficult when you are alone.. Especially away from home, and friends and more especially when all of them are out, don't remember the time difference and calling in the middle of the night to say that they are missing you..

Anyway don't give up, put some long term goals, enjoy the sunny days and have a happy new year all.

Fotis

Pull your pants back up

In my opinion shes taken the easy option

Ignorant tosser. Who the **** do you think you are? You know nothing about her, she's having a hard time and she's the one who has these feelings. I hope you get as much sympathy when you have a bloody difficult decision to make!

oh dear very touchy arnt we

No, just weary of idiots who show ignorance and intolerance of other people's views. If this girl feels like she wants to go home, then who are you (we) to judge? Nothing to do with being 'touchy' at all.

To be honest if you believe it's the easy option then nothing anyone else says will make an ounce of difference to you. In any case, why should her life be difficult? You only get one life, make it as easy as you can and if that means she goes back to where she feels comfortable then it's sod all to do with anyone else. Was it easy for you to decide, plan, obtain visa, sell up, move your entire life 12,000 miles away? I hardly think so. To do nearly the same in reverse is anything but easy.