Originally Posted by DEEDEE01

Hi All,

Call me selfish but, is it not upto an adult what they do ? At what point in life do you stop being bossed about by other people ??

I am 25 and the hubby is nearly 29, we both told our parents from the moment we started thinking about, and I also think they were in the frame of mind of 'It's a phase', but now it is getting closer they know we are serious but it doesn't seem to have changed their opinions, they are still supportive.

I can understand the grandchild thing but everybody has their own path and you must follow it, regardless of others, if it's what you want, go for it.

I would never let anybody change my mind if I have my heart set on something, I do it.

There will be the odd person whos says 'I told you so', but what exactly have they done, probably nothing ! Thats not to say there not happy, it means they have lived their lives how they want to. Everybody wants different things.

People have to live their lives to the full, if things fail, at least you have tried, better to have tried and failed than to have never tried at all.

I think in situations like this, you need all the support you can get and family and friends need to realise this. I know it must be hard letting go (for all involved) but you have got to try. We explained from the start that we were gonna go for it regardless of what people thought, we were lucky I think.

Good luck to everyone who has yet to break the news, I'm sure things will be fine. Just remind yourself why you are doing it and who you are doing it for.

Good Luck

Donna.
x

Originally Posted by english-rose

we live in sutton coldfield and are heading for perth.

we are desperately trying to sell the house, nomination for sponsorship is still in the process, then visas will be started.
the type of visas we are going on should only take 3/4 months.

so if the house sells soon we are hoping to go about may/june.
but with the housing market the way it is god knows how long we will be here, cant go till it sells.

did you have any probs selling yours?

bet its so nice having your flights booked.

Originally Posted by LoobyLoo!

We just told them outright when we first thought about it, both mums were pleased for us, infact don't think they can wait to see the back of us my mother in law keeps asking whether she should book flights for next christmas, we haven't even applied yet!! (although had the job offer)

Best to just tell them straight, they may suprise you with their reaction.

Originally Posted by Verndownunder

Congradulations on the receipt of your visa.

Good luck with telling your parents.

I must admit, we are waiting til visa received aswell, no going back then.

Try telling them your going on a long working holiday and will be taking it there. May not seem so final then...

My plan anyway...

Good luck

Originally Posted by boldon mackem

We got the VISA through this morning, so after much celebration and hand trembling, we now have to face up to the truth of telling everyone, we are going.

How has everyone done this? What would be your advise on what to & not to say?

I think both my family & the inlaws won't be happy that we are taking there 13 week old grand daughter away to the other side of the world.

Help please.

Originally Posted by dave7370

My old man sent me this the other day, it had me right choked up.

I read this the other day in a book and it just seemed so appropriate – thought you might like it --

“It’s something called life. Children growing up, moving away, making their own way in the world. And that’s as it should be. After all, bringing them into the world was our choice, not theirs. Now all we can do is learn how to let go of them as graciously as possible, with no regrets”

We’re going to miss you terribly.

Love Mom and Dad

Originally Posted by Sparky wife

Well, here's my input...

Sparky Hub asked me on our first date 7 1/2 years ago if I had ever thought of leaving the country. I replied...um, well haven't really ever thought about it.

It has become one of our long term goals together, although for a long time we were planning to go to Canada instead.

As a result, we have been open with family and friends, although not talking about it often, just one of those things you talk about with a few drinks of an evening at home.

I don't think either set of parents thought we would get as far as we have and FIL admitted that MIL thought it wouldn't ever happen.

Now she is very upset and to be honest the worst bit will be saying that the flights are booked...

Have a question...as we are flying in April would you leave telling them until next month, or would you tell them when you next see them (this weekend ) because we are going to offer BIL the chance to buy one of our cars. Don't know how much notice to give him money wise (it was mentioned last year).

Tbh, I am bricking it at the thought of telling them.

Originally Posted by BrisbaneBound2008

How lovely - for them to realise that and be able to send it to you is a great thing, you are very lucky. I wonder if I were to email that to my Mum what she would think???!

We got our visa's granted in Dec 06 (I cannot believe we are still here!) and told everyone as soon as we got it, also telling them don't worry we won't move until 2009 and had planned to have a baby before we go! Big mistake, apart from the fact parents are distraught any, we then brought move forward which made things worse (and scrapped the baby idea - thoguht we have an Aussie one instead!). Tip: don't tell anyone definate dates as there is every possibility these may change! It was like telling them all over again!

I spoke to my mum recently and even after all the explaining about why we were going she still takes it personnally - she said she didnt' understand how the pull of a country can be stronger than family and my sister's main concern was when she was going to see me again. Tip: on this note maybe honesty isn't best - my husband kept mentioning that he had no plans to come back, even for a visit...not a good move! Who know's when you will be back to visit or when family can visit you but it does them good to hear it will happen.

Good luck, be honest, you aren't doing anything bad, there are horrific things going on in the world and you just want to do something that makes you happy, and family will realise that and (eventually I hope!) be happy too!