Fleaflyfloflum

Thanks Dorothy, but as usual, it is totally ignored.... need i say more.

Not what they want to read obviously ...

Dorothy

Thant's because it's a reasonable reply and not what people necessarily want to hear.

Nu-Shooz

Hi Flea, how's the OH? Will you be back in UK soon?

As for the OP, friends and relatives take things differently. Don't just think they are jealous because you are getting a Visa and they arn't. We are not any better than them just because we have emigrated.
Appreciate what you have got, as leaving them will be harder for you, even if you can't see it now.

DunRoaminTheUK

My best friend told me (when talking as freely as the alcohol was flowing) that I would never go and that I wouldn't have what it takes to see it through.

Needless to say, we are not best friends any longer (in fact saying what he said to me caused me to view him differently and we drifted apart before I left the UK).

I had a German colleague (who was a completely arrogant tw*t) tell me that I'd be back in a month. I proved him wrong and I think that in part these remarks stem from jealousy.

plantpot

TBH most people here (DUbai) have been really supportive, family (mine) have been really keen because they can visit although the odd 'you will be so far away' comment comes up, DH's family were fine and plan a visit 4 weeks after we land !!!! It was his nan who was extremely upset, even though we live in Dubai she always imagined us coming back after this contract. I think like Flea said, she feels abandoned and it's very hard to deal with, the work just isn't there for us to go back to right now even though we love BAth...however we are looking forawrd to 4 years (or more?) in Sydney...so will see what happens.
I do think that 'some' people ARE jealous because Oz is portrayed as the land of sun and happiness and beaches, where people don't really work more than 10 hours a week, go fishing and generally have barbies non stop....so sometimes its the idea that you might be escaping to somewhere that leaves behind the daily grind...truth is....the daily grind is there it's just different....(hoping for less grind and more FREEDOM then the UAE please!)

Bernieboy

Well i didnt give a flying doo da when i was going,my life my decision.Mind you nobody seemed to care much anyway sniff sniff

Nu-Shooz

Aww poor you

Nobody i knew were jealous that we were going to sunny OZ, they were envious, but not jealous. I'm jealous of them now

rabsody

You'll be pleased to know you can get Lurpak

Unfortunately the thing about skin cancer is not far off the mark. I have plenty of friends in their 20s and 30s even who have had to have large chunks of their flesh cut out (one spanned right across her whole back).

rabsody

Couldn't agree more. They will still have their family, friends and support network around them while those who emigrate usually have no-one. Eventually over time this changes but as well all know it can take a long time.

Possums

I agree, whilst some were excited for us the closer ones seemed not to care which I found really upsetting, I didnt say anything .. should have done because at our leaving do they were the ones who were heartbroken I was gobsmacked to learn thats how they had been feeling.

T5Mikka

I moved to Aus (only for a year & a half) and had the same problem, some freinds where really supportive and others where not, that said I have had other freinds who have moved abroad so can see it from both sides, you do miss them but at the same time they are also missing you.
However its your life, and a life in Aus is in my opinion is the best, but I came back becuase of missing the family and must say my best freinds.

Dont forget you can always talk to them using a web cam, post pics on facebook of your new life, etc, and they can always have a free holiday by coming to see you.

The funny thing is when I returned some of my freinds where still the same and have not really spoken to them to this day, so where they really freinds I needed in the first place.

You only get one life and if you dont like it over there you can always come back to the crappy UK.

Oh and I had a real ball in AUS, I will return one day.

RenShen

Hello Flea,

Sorry, I wasn't ignoring you. Only just came back to the thread.

You make a good point and I suppose its something that will only really hit me once I am in Australia. At the moment I am a bit wrapped up in myself.

The thing is, I am a good friend. I know that if the boot was on the other foot I would be supportive and helpful and if I was devastated I would let it be known, not just be "cool".

I know that some of my friends might struggle with my decision, but thats the only thing they have to deal with. I have a head full of worry, organisational problems, packing lists, school lists etc and I really do feel let down by some of the people that I thought were close to me. I am absolutely not expecting anyone to actually help me in a physical sense, just a bit of emotional support.

That said, there is still a bit of time for some to step up. I hope that they do otherwise it will be a bit strained when they get in touch looking for some free holiday accomodation. (Or for me to send some free Ug boots over for one of their daughters as has already been dropped into conversation)